How Women Decide if They are Attracted to You!

Today I clarify that women need to be attracted to you in order to be dating you. BUT… there are three very different ways women find themselves attracted to you and today we’re gonna go through all three!

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[DeadCat-]

If I had a dollar for every time women didn't find me attractive, women would find me attractive.

[charlesdavid-py]

This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6-year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on, I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here.

[susanbertrand]

The beauty of attraction is that it grows with appreciation and respect…having said that, you need a spark to make a flame.

[hump]

I’m 71… I don’t date enough…just doing my own thing traveling, exercising, being fit and healthy…I love your glasses…

[Frederiekje]

Loved the cat passing in the background ❤

[erichred]

The promotion you did for Zoog is really adorable and well done!
Good work 👍

[Antiqueexcavator]

Not necessarily about attraction but I smiled when you mentioned “making out”. It truly is one of the great joys of life (to me)! Most couples stop making out completely (this is based on a very scientific study. Ok, conversations over the years.) So here’s some relationship advice from a non-professional: If, like most, you’ve stopped, start. Make it happen a couple of times a week. Just for a few seconds at first. Then for a little longer. It doesn’t have to lead to more and most of the time shouldn’t. It just might rekindle an old fire.

[shawngilliland]

Useful and well-presented information as always; thank you, Carey. In my experience, a "slow burn" fire is the type that lasts the longest and will burn just as hot, if not more so. You wear those glasses well! And though I don't have grandchildren, your honest delight with Zoog is contagious. They chose well in granting your request to speak about their product.

[markraven]

When I was younger, I would go crazy if I was not in a relationship. Now, alone and an attractive senior, I get approached by women about twice a month. Not interested, just happy.

[willcoleman]

Thanks Carey, always lovely delivery.

[kathryncothern]

Hope you are feeling a lot better!!! 😊❤️

[ssiegreen]

Many people grow on you if you give them enough time. Whether that's enough for a relationship is not always a given, but it can go that way if two people are well matched in their basic wants/needs/requirements. Come to think about it - everybody but one of my longer relationships was to men, that I liked as a potential friend, but not necessarily desired as a man initially. Their perseverance and persistence got me to spend time with them, feeling comfortable + safe with them, and feelings slowly developed with more and more time spent together. They showed substance and were willing to do the work that carried us into longterm. Anybody I ever had the hots for, turned out to be more or less shallow and not reliable or dependable. So much for falling in love - with more maturity and insight into myself, I kind of prefer to tiptoe into it rather than go heads over heels...

PS - Carey - how are you feeling? And is your mom doing better too? Those glasses make you look spiffy - I like!

[MrSanchez]

the 3 things before i hear perceived status (money), personality (confidence, intelligence, sense of humor), and Body (athletic, man bits, tattoos). spitballing here but its what i sorta determined as i started observing these things

[HarryJensen-krqz]

(male): I don't really date in the true sense of the experience (Dinner/movie). If I'm doing something they may be interested in or they're just bored, I'll invite them to come along. Could be anything, dropping off a load of brush, going to a lake to feed fish, teaching them to drive, sometimes just listening, could be anything. I'm not looking for a relationship, I look for adventure with or without a woman.
P.S. Don't be hmu, I'm seeing someone.

[T-Babbbldot]

My beard & hair are long. Take me as I am. Inner love is innate. I don't have to be someone I'm not in the public world. Loving & caring are enhanced as I age after my wife passed. Let it all hang out, see for yourself when communicating with me!🎉😊

[guitarman]

Remember, magic is an illusion and chemistry is a science. So, if she says there's no magic or chemistry it means there are no illusions or science in their attraction for you.

[danielboone]

I would think women are attracted to looks FIRST, on a date. Everything else is secondary and so on.

[VTPSTTU]

Thanks for the video.

I'm not sure that I see a real difference between the second and third categories. In both cases, you're talking about women who aren't feeling a strong initial attraction. In both cases, they give the relationship time to grow. I can't tell whether you are implying that any woman in the third category can grow an attraction to almost any man or whether she's going to end up like women in the second category and either find an attraction or not find an attraction. I don't think any two people can always build a healthy relationship, so even women who are open to finding a man attractive may just find that he's a bad match. In that case, women in your third category are just reverting back to the description of your second category. I accept that maybe you are trying to communicate a subtle difference that I'm missing. I've only listened to those parts of the video twice, so maybe I haven't yet found the distinction.

I'm an old bachelor. I've never really even had a girlfriend. I've spent a great deal of time with women for whom I didn't feel any physical attraction. Our friendships have grown in depth as friendships, but I've never felt any desire for them as anything other than friends. As I try to think back, I can only remember one female friend that I ended up feeling that I could have come to like as a romantic partner even though there was no physical attraction at the beginning. She had a long-term boyfriend, so we never took our friendship in that direction. I don't regret not trying to go in that direction. I didn't think of her as someone who would have been a great partner for me. She's just that rare example of someone that I wouldn't have initially thought of as attractive and I later felt that I could have felt that way about her if circumstances had been different. I can only think of one woman for whom I had some physical attraction who gave me the time to see whether anything could develop. Nothing developed. I've spent significant time with women who were physically unattractive or who were neutral because they still seemed to be worthwhile people. As I said earlier, no romantic attraction ever developed. In most cases, I came to recognize incompatibilities that were unrelated to physical attraction. In other case, I don't know why nothing developed. I don't regret not trying to force a relationship where no relationship developed naturally.

Getting back to your categories, do you think women in the first category usually end up in unhealthy relationships because they let themselves be driven entirely by that initial attraction? Alternatively, do most of them learn to enjoy the initial attraction but make decisions for the long term based on more important compatibility factors? I guess that whole issue is academic to me because I've never been able to be attractive to women initially.

I guess another point to consider is the difference between "decide whether" and "decide to be." A "decide whether" happens when a woman isn't sure whether she feels attracted to a man. The attraction is either there or not. She just isn't sure whether the attraction is there. I guess we can call this the Schrodinger's cat of attraction. A "decide to be" hypothesis is very different. That idea would be that women can just decide that they are going to have feelings for a man or decide that they won't have feelings. I'm not sure that any people can simply decide to feel that attraction. As a man, I've never had that ability even though many people in my past expected me to feel attraction to some women because those people thought that I would be a good match with those women. I accept that maybe women can decide to be attracted, but I'm still skeptical. A part of me thinks that we're all human and we like what we like and don't like what we don't like.

[artied]

If women don't find you handsome they should at least find you handy. 😅 Red Green

[ronaldyeater]

Hi, it's funny how mentioned our high school ideas of dating, but so true lol. Are women attracted to us before first date by us being ourselves, or by us trying to act differently if single? It's question popped in head listening. Interesting. Tyvm tc