6 Subtle Signs of a Toxic Family Member

It's hard growing up in a toxic environment. Do you get triggered by the sound of your parents? Do you give you anxiety or even trauma from your childhood? Toxic family dynamics can have far-reaching impacts on our lives as adults. You get feelings of feeling hurt, angry, or exhausted.

Toxic family members can be a big emotional, so it's important to be aware of the signs and take action to protect yourself. In this video, we'll share with you six subtle signs that you may have a toxic family member and how to deal with them.

Writer: Syazwana Amirah
Script Editor: Denise Ding
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Aury
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[guno]

I hate how every mentioned point applies to either my older sister or my father. But then when friends come over, my sister and father put on such an Angel mask, which causes my friends to say "but your family is so sweet!" Whenever I need someone to talk with about my family.
Why am I never being taken seriously

[GNG]

Sad to see many people have to go through this, never felt so lucky to have the family I have. Keep your heads up kings/queens

[THANATOS-PRIME]

I thought I had a normal childhood until discovering this channel, and realizing how much I was gaslight and mentally abused as a kid.

With the recent passing of my mother, a lot of people started to show their true selves, and I walked away from a good chunk of my family, and I have no intentions of ever going back.

I want to thank this channel so much for helping me grow

[FrostyyZayx]

This is just so sad that people have to go through this 24/7

[cuscus]

I too was in a toxic family, it was a rough decision to talk about this out loud, but it's better than carry to this burden forever

[chloeg]

I clicked on this video because I was afraid I was being a terrible older sister and daughter to my parents. No matter how hard I try to please them, they seem to have something against me but the next moment they seem grateful for me. Or one tiny mistake and it seems like everything I've done for them means nothing. I wondered if I actually had some toxic mannerisms that I didn't notice which made them act this way to me but while watching this video, I realized I was experiencing these. Now I'm crying-

[Amirisphere]

Man. I had to deal with multiple different kinds of abuse as I grew up from "family", it made me start questioning myself or who was loyal around me. I'm grateful all of the people who care for me are here now, and I'm doing everything in my power to take care of them!

[Ramblyyy]

As a teenager whos family was just ripped apart by arguments and divorce, this channel has helped me so much, i just need to say thank you for helping me through this process, your videos always remind me that there’s people out there who are worth living for

[Wolvious]

It was so hard when someone pointed out my father was abusing me, and I was too in the midst of it to realize what was truly going on.

Seeing someone in a different light is/can be terrifying

It breaks your whole reality to see your family is not what you thought they were

[kenrickbautista]

My family can be very toxic that I, sometimes, can't breathe around them. They sometimes drill negative words in my head and do things that make me feel worst about myself. My colleagues may be acquaintances, but at least they're 100x the family than my own ever was.

[scholarcat]

My dad and sister disowned me last year. I keep thinking about it and wondering if I was THAT wrong for arguing back. But I find I can breathe easier without all the high expectations, blame, and disregard for my emotions. It really sucked, but it got better cause I had a great support system from friends. I made my own family, and I can't thank or love them enough. ❤

[brachiosaurus]

Cutting contact with all my family members for a couple of years was key to analyze how toxic they were and how toxic I became myself. Now, I'm slowly visiting them more often again. With all the lessons I learned about them and myself I made a mental barrier in order to handle with their toxicity.

[seemranhoro]

The bad thing is that we can't stay away from the family members. Don't let this negative talk get into your mind . Surround yourself more with people who see the value in you.❤

[vanesaloveshogwarts]

I think most of us have toxic families I'm just grateful to have friends cuz they really helped me deal with a lot of my problems.

[MatthewRowland-thod]

I wish I had these resources growing up in the 80's and 90's. It was especially tough since the toxic family member was my mother. Growing up with that (and being the only one she treated this way out of 6 kids) I ended up with so many insecurities that it made it so hard to form meaningful relationships with anyone.
The healing has been slow and at times painful, but worth it to see myself becoming more assertive and taking back control.

[Teardroop_tutorials]

Here they are!
Intro: 0:00
1, they constantly overstep youe boundaries and privacy: 0:37
2 They always demand something from you: 1:15
3, they don't recognise your achievements: 2:00
4, All of your problems are called *attention seeking* or sad excuses* : 2:53
5, you are at fault for *Everything* : 3:57
6, Gaslighting: 5:00

Hope this helps! Love ya 💙🩵💙🩵

[GeminiForest]

This is just the toxic family. This is why I don't talk to them. They constantly would say "You just have a victim complex" and I was the scapegoat.

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). They constantly overstep your boundaries and privacy 0:35
2). They always demand something from you 1:14
3). They don't recognise your achievements 2:00
4). All of your problems are ignored, called "Attention-seeking" or "sad excuses" 2:50
5). You are at fault for "everything" 3:56
6). Gaslighting 4:59

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[ambrsanford]

My mother acknowledges my successes, but with an, "Of course you did, you're MY kid!"
In one way or another she takes credit for everything I have ever achieved.

[Annv]

I can recognize 3 or 4 points in the relationship with my parents. I'm an adult and old enough to decide for myself, but my parents are concerned about me going out later than 8 pm or going to a concert. They constantly demand my time; when I sleep two nights somewhere else or when I sleep a week at my bf's home, they are claiming that I leave them alone for so long and they make me feel bad about going away. I don't even feel comfortable anymore expressing my own wishes and plans (for example a 2 week trip to another country with a friend) because I feel like they will ask me too many questions and they will express their fear & concerns. They try to gaslight me into cancelling plans or feeling bad for my plans & not telling my parents what exactly I was doing at this and this appointment/on this and that trip etc. I feel like I have an obligation to tell them much more about my life & activities to take away their fear/concerns and to satisfy their controlling behavior 😔 When I try to address my pov they don't understand it. They are screaming at me saying it's not normal to not tell them much about my days & activities. Moving out is not an option my parents wouldn't let me. Or they would like to know me in 100% safety when it comes to environment, finances, flat etc.