7 Types of Toxic Crushes You Should Avoid

Are you having a crush on someone right now and wonder if they are toxic for you? When you have feelings for someone, it’s easy to see everything they do in a positive light, but not every person you crush on is someone you should consider getting into a relationship with. For example, it is not a good idea to develop a crush on someone who treats you and other people badly. So to save you from being in a toxic relationship in the future and heartbreak, we made this video to help you identify the different types of crushes that might not be good for you.

Credits
Writer: Carley Swanson-Garro
Script Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Murielle Lindsley Dela Rosa
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

Resources:

References:
Dubrow-Marshall, L., & Dubrow-Marshall, R. (2017). When your life is not your own. Therapy Today, 28(9), 24–27.

Johnston, P., Tankersley, M., Joenson, T., Hupp, M., Buckley, J., Redmond-McGowan, M., Zanzinger, A., Poirier, A., & Walsh, A. (2014). Motivations behind ‘Bullies then offenders’ versus ‘pure bullies’: Further suggestions for anti-bully education and practice. Education, 10(3), 316-325.

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[Psychgo]

Who here met their crush this year? Comment below the first letter of their name ;)

[chungkrixx]

“The Bully”

Those bully love stories: *Imma pretend I didn’t see that*

[objectuhm]

"Does your crush just dissapear?"

My crush doesn't even exist

[mushforbrains.]

I had a crush on this girl who had a very adult demeanour. We were in year 7 and she always talked about intercourse and adult topics. Being autistic, I thought this was normal. Then in March that year, I got a crush on her. I messaged her a lot, and confessed to her multiple times. She always said “I’ll think about it” and had crushes on different people every few weeks. Eventually we dated. She started sending me very s3xual messages so despite being uncomfortable I sent them back thinking that she’d like them. She then broke up with me by pretending to cheat on me then claiming the way I talked to her was weird, despite me only doing what I thought was correct. A few months after that, she posted screenshots of everything that I said, censoring the context and not showing her replies for her friends to see. When I tried to report it, obviously they didn’t care because she reported me first.

if you’re starting highschool, do not be friends with someone who acts like they know everything about s3x. Stay with the people you know and trust. Or stay in your own personal circle.

[JohnField-crtv]

To sum this up: make sure they're a nice, caring person who wants the best for you

[chrissy]

"THE BULLY"

Wattpaders: nah, I'll pretend I didnt see that

[remyhavoc]

8. The Actor
The type where you won't see any red flags because they're good at pretending since they've done the same things before

[droopystar]

i adore the fact you called out an isolator. As a half one, my issues are NOT purposefully and ive been working very hard. I try my hardest, and im glad you made this. :) your voice is very sweet btw

[Mydnight]

Favorite playlist so far from this channel. I love this....rule of thumb for me. Don't tell the person you have a crush on, that you're crushing on them because it will not end well. Let their actions speak. It will tell you everything you want to know

[jjmaybankswife]

"does your crush just.. disappear?"
my cursh being in a whole ass different reality: yes.

[samdwimch]

Psych2Go: **has really good points on why these relationships aren’t healthy and cute**
Romance dramas: “I’m gonna pretend I didn’t see that.”

[C.D]

Its not about beauty, its about personality ❤

[ash]

I'm glad my crush is kind, caring, funny, and supportive. And most definitely cute. They don't do any of these bad thing or anything else

[Son-Deniz]

How to avoid bad crushes :
Step 1 : Don't have a crush

[keopijelli]

this video really opened my eyes, I've been dating this guy for almost two months now and in the start he was super kind and sweet but it went down quickly, for example when I was texting my friend he saw that I was online and texted me asking "who are you talking with?" I would respond that I was just texting my friend but he just would say that I should be talking with him instead and that I shouldn't talk with my friend because she could possibly get me someone else and ruin our relationship. It became constant and I'm very tired of it, I cannot go online without already thinking that I will have an argument with him because I was texting someone else, then he just says it's because he's insecure and he's afraid I might cheat... I definitely remembered him when the Isolater came because that's what he always says, why do you need anyone else when you have me?

[PlanetPsych]

Toxic Crush Quote:
"I'm not ignoring you, I'm just waiting to see if you'll put in the effort to talk to me"

[LennyTheHopeless]

Me who hasn't had a crush in 7 years:
"Yes, this seems like a good, _relatable_ video to watch."

[RileyWolfLynx]

POV: you haven’t told your crush you had a crush on them for a year until the last day of school:😅😅😅😅

[Killiam_Hyskey_Vampire]

When I have feeling for someone, I don’t want them to love me back. They are too perfect that I can’t reach….I don’t deserve them….I can never ask them to like me back else…..it’s too overwhelming for me😢

[Chipsanimation]

This is totally the reason on why I like fictional character
Edit: okay maybe that was a lie