The BIGGEST Reasons 80% Of Relationships FAIL... | Esther Perel

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[johncox]

I was married for 62 years, I was in love with my wife Sonia for every day of our life together. I loved her, respected her, admired her abilities in everything she did. It was based on a deep, true love that many people never experience.

[ThomasPH]

“Most people talk nicer to other people than they do to their partner “ that thought crosses my mind all day long the way she speaks to me.

[sunnysmiles]

1. Indifference - coldness and estrangement
2. Neglect - no effort, complacency
3. Disrespect - taking frustration out on partner
4. Contempt - degradation and disdain

[rondadepenbusch]

After 26 years, i filed for a divorce 5 weeks ago. My husband began not making us or me a priority, stopped inviting or including me, ignored me, put everyone & everything above me and i gave him ample opportunity to turn things around. And i went from hurt, to angry, to resentment, then more pain and i don’t know where I’m going or what I’m going to do, but if I’m going to be lonely and sad i can do that alone . That’s what it feels like, so I’ll cut out all the negativity and anger and focus on myself. I’m just figuring it out day by day and keep pushing & staying positive!!!

[chriscristah]

True Love that lasts a lifetime is NOT a Game... skills of Love. My wife told me that foreplay is how I treat her throughout every day. So we learned to flirt, share romantic songs and love via text throughout the week and every day, etc. We love to laugh every day and have fun together... yes, we’ve had a life of playfulness together. 💞

[Cesar-pqck]

Love is a verb. I’ve been with my wife for 25yrs and the key has been to realize that marriage is about serving each other; taking action, sacrificing for each other. Acts of love will lead to feelings of love.

[vova_rn]

Fantastic video, love it!
My wife and were married for 14 years, 13 out of it were very bad, I tried it all, went beyond and over, trying to make life easier for my wife… always being taken for granted, no intimacy whatsoever, she verbally abused me many times and physically assaulted me three times… and now I am working on divorce, because I strongly believe that I deserve better 😢😢

[gracetorre]

Esther is so wonderful - she is so smart and honest but never sounds clinical - she always breaks things up with warmth and charm.

[fellysetiawan]

1. Indifferent : losing interest, not priority
2. Neglect : everything get priority except your partner
3. violence : disrespect toward partner
4. Contemp : degradation

[kurombioliver]

I love the first comments she said regarding how most people approach relationships; based on what they saw (know) as children between their parents or with their parents. I almost did not get married to my husband because I was afraid I would end up divorced just like my parents (just 2 years prior). I remember crying on the phone and blurting this out to my father. He told me "forget about me and your mother. If you love this man, go and build a life of your own." That is what my husband and I did. We had several happy decades together, after 2 children, until he passed away a few years ago.

[Josh-Owen-Games]

I could literally listen to this intelligent woman talk for hours.

[alfredbenedek]

#1- Communication / listenning to each other. - #2- Common interst & understanding. - #3- Foregiveness! - Hey, it alway - always worked & works for me.

[annewilson]

I have been married for 35 years and all of these things will happen at some point in your marriage. The key is finding a way back to each other and finding a way not to do it again.

[EmbodiedIFS]

I have been noticing that a respectful friendship must be the foundation of any relationship.

[Geotubest]

It´s very difficult when the other person doesn't make an effort, reciprocate, or meet you half way.

[petermulders]

I was shaking with grief while watching this video. You just described word for word the downfall of my relationship that meant the world to me and that was ended over the past few weeks. So many misunderstandings, so much misplaced emotion and expectation, and it could have been avoided by seeing this short video 😢

[willhart]

Overblown expectations; lack of honesty in communication; not really knowing what love actually is; shrinking in the face of hard times and challenges.

[bluescreen]

Selfishness is a huge part of the demise of most relationships. We often end up expecting others to make us happy and never realize that the only way to be happy is to understand it comes from within us. Taking others for granted is a short road to the end of a relationship.

[timotahowhitehawk]

What causes a relationship to Fail -the start the Relationship demise happens when we see:
1. Indifference - Losing interest, the feeling that you no longer matter to this person.
2. Contempt - Despising one another; you are nothing to me; this will kill your marriage or relationship. Never hold your loved ones in contempt.
3. Neglect - Taking each other for granted. Everything get priority other than your spouse or partner.
4. Violence - Talking ugly to your partner; talking this way to anyone else, you will not get away with it. Aggressive talk and conversation with one another.
5. Micro Aggressions - Passive aggression
6. Blame - blaming out partner for our unhappiness.

[williamfriar]

Crucial question: if a friend treated you the way your spouse treats you, would you still hang out with that friend? Would you continue to think of them as a friend?