An Easy Way To Detect Your Ego

Dr. K’s Guide to Mental Health explores Anxiety, Depression, ADHD, and Meditation

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[RahzZalinto]

pfft, my ego can take your ego any day

[KelsomaticPDX]

For a moment I thought “I don’t really do that, ” but I think the way it manifests for me is comparison against a version of me that doesn’t exist, as opposed to another person.

“I should be able to do X” or “Y shouldn’t be difficult for me”

I’m comparing myself against an idealized version of myself that doesn’t exist, and find myself lacking.

Also that bikini comparison is out of pocket 💀

[char]

Unfortunately my main takeaway from this short is a slightly increased interest in statistics

[llareia]

My cousin took his life this week, and this rings extremely true for what he must have felt in that moment. His ego conveniently forgot all the good things he had going for him and all the people who loved him and all the ways he was needed and valued and all the ways he's improved his life, to focus on the things that were messed up.

If you're reading this and you were looking for a sign, take this as your sign that it's not a good idea to do this yourself. You are in an epic battle with a force of darkness, and you are stronger than it is. Do not let the darkness win.

[travisbickle]

That's one of the best quotes I've ever heard.

[Sewblon]

I always thought that your ego meant false self flattery. So its good to hear that it also refers to true self deprecation. All that matters is that its comparative.

[CherylLime]

I love that statistics analogy. My statistics teacher used to say “you can prove anything with statistics”

[fulltimenpc]

What I've learned from this is that I need to think twice. Since my ego is so negative, I just need to separate my first thought.

[demgorav]

Man my ego really ruined my entire life, like i just can't stop comparing myself to my goals, my achievements and every single person..
I'm just so tired...

[ilovevtubers]

That last part hit. My ego pushed her away and now I lost what could’ve been 😞

[Whoiskimb]

HELPP DR. K my ego is too sexy for me to ignore😂😂

[qooiuler]

Man, this rings so true for me. I have a serious problem with comparison. I have really good friends that are so much more smarter, charismatic, analytic, creative, energetic and overall more capable and successful than myself. It's quite depressing thinking about how much i've missed out because of this mindset. Fear, low self worth, comparison and feeling useless has made me loose any interests and motivation I once had. It's debilitating and I'm afraid it's going to ruin my life

[natethegreats]

Dear Dr. K,
So most my life I’ve been afraid of making mistakes, no matter the circumstances, big or small, it has always felt like a bigger burden to “try and to fail” than to “let someone else do it for me so I can see an outcome without any negative effect on myself”. This kind of mindset has provided me nothing but a wasteful past 3 years where I feel like I am in a “victim mindset”. I enjoyed being babied by my partner, yet at the same time felt hopeless and worthless. I wish to fix this mindset but it seems with every small task I have an insignificant relapse of my “victim” mindset. It’s gotten to the point where it is an every day occurrence where I feel I am just having to learn self control of suppressing myself at certain points in time to prevent it(myself) from affecting my partner.
-thank you
-Nathan B

[Mike_ICP]

Double click the end. Why did you just describe what happened to me. I convinced myself out of a relationship that the girl just needed time.. but it hit my ego so hard that she wouldn’t accept me within three months that I nearly lost my mind and had to resort to ghosting to free up the time I was spending every day thinking about her. It was a bandaid that got tore off that hurt so badly. Feeling better, learning for next time.

[laurelgardner]

Terence McKenna said that you need SOME ego, or else you won't know whether to put food in your own mouth or someone else's. I think that's a solid defense of its essential necessity that's consistent with this criticism.

[Thejacka]

Facts

The ego exists on comparison of self

[dabartos]

just remember that the point is not to stop comparing yourself or other to any other thing.

[Peter_Anthony]

It can work the other way around as well during a breakup, it tries to make you think that the person still wants to be with you and date you even when they have already stated over and over again that they don't feel it anymore. The ego will actively try to keep what was as is, even when it no longer can be.

[LeCatte]

What's interesting is that I decided to just say yes to some things without really thinking too much about it. Which has led me to be doing sales, a job I thought I hate, and still do, but I'm learning my way through it and there's interesting lessons to be learned about socializing, how to make the most out of the time you have, to get what you want, in a way that benefits both parties, at least for me. I am no salesman, so I work slightly differently from them. I was having some social anxiety, but I'm learning to push through that because I have to. Letting go of the ego has meant that I spend less time comparing, and more time just living, figuring out stuff, learning, growing. Its never a smooth process, but if you look at it as a way to improve yourself, you might get far. Honestly, don't want to do this job any longer than I have to, but I'm in it to grow, so its been interesting.

[vrrrumvrumvrum]

I literally feel when my actions and thoughts are ego-driven, but no clue how to get rid of that