Why We Hate Bi Men

A lot of people have a huge problem with bi men, particularly the idea of dating one! There are sad biphobic reasons for this. I am going to tell you the reasons. Prepare for a rollercoaster.
Director/script editor: Ada Č

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[ethankillion]

If you are bisexual woman people think you are straight and pretending for attention. If you are a bisexual man people think you are gay and afraid to fully come out. It's frustrating.

[taytaywinchester]

Ah, yes, the bi experience: you're attracted to everyone and no one is attracted to you.

[grishnakh]

I had a gf that came out to me as bisexual. We have been together for a few months and i was really glad that I can finally come out to her, too. It didn't went as expected. She looked at me totally shocked and told me that she has to split up. The reason? In her opinion bisexual men are always cheating. Yes, a bisexual girl told me that she can't be with a bisexual man because bisexual men always cheat.

[joimarquezmusic]

I'm very proud of being bisexual, now i can be rejected by both genders instead of just girls.

[peterlewis]

It's absolutely ridiculous to assume that being bi means you've been with both men and women. I mean, I'm a straight man, but that sure as heck doesn't mean I've been with any women.

[whateveryouliketocallme]

As a bi woman, i'm sending all my love to bi men💙💜💗

[rowanlaverne]

As a trans male, I look for bi men. I feel like they won't be let down by the fact that I have nothing in my pants, but still see me as the man I am.

[alpacaofthemountain]

Remember: if a person cheats in you, it isn’t because they are straight or bi.

[melsplaining]

The worst thing about being a bi man's girlfriend is when you can't talk to friends about any problems in the relationship because they're all sure he's gay, and they openly pity you for being too dumb to know it, and they think that explains any issues you might be having, like...

[ujustgotpwned]

38 year old bi dude here - people have always told me it's just a phase. I came out at 16. It has apparently been a 22 year phase, lol.

[kylegamer]

The best part of being a bi man is that I can make the joke, "I'm not gay, but my boyfriend is, " with a straight face. Or as straight a face as I can make.

[sarahcade]

When I was 15, like 20 years ago, my first ever boyfriend was bisexual. We’d been dating for a while when a few of my girlfriends came up to me and said, “did you know Kyle is gay!?!” To which I responded, “no, he’s bisexual.” They couldn’t understand why I was so calm and didn’t seem to care. I had to explain to them that he was dating ME and that if he kiss someone else, man or woman, I would be pissed because he was dating ME! Who he’s attracted to had no baring on our relationship.

[DiaboTatuado]

"Some women believe they can recognize bisexual men"

Oh, of course they can, no bi person goes out of their house without them mangeta, purple and blue turtleneck shirt, leather jacket, moon necklace, statchel bag and large cuffed jeans

[danieldini]

as a bi man, something i also hate abt male biphobia is how ppl think of women who date bi men as ignorant: “who’s gonna tell her he’s gay.” no, both him and her know he’s attracted to her. there’s no “telling” that needs to be done here.

[m_nico_]

When women are bisexual, people them them they’re straight. When men are bisexual, people say they’re gay. I feel like there’s something wrong with always assuming people like men and only men even when it’s possible to like women too. As a bi man myself I just think there’s a lot of misogyny accompanied with biphobia.

[danopticon]

“If he looks in another man’s eyes for even A MICROSECOND LONGER than it takes to make socially acceptable eye contact, beware!” Ladies, don’t marry that ophthalmologist!!

[JimJamTheAdmin]

As a bi man, I feel angry a lot about people saying to my face "You're actually just gay." Family and friends. I've been told off by gay men and straight women. I don't want to feel like a victim, but I never feel accepted in any space.

Then, I get to be a white passing latino and it feels like I'm invisible and never get to be angry about my mistreatment cuz I can pass as a straight white guy, so nothing that hurts me is ever seen as valid. Just frustrating, that's all. I get to be gay to the straights and straight to the gays. I get to be white to my family and then the other side of my family, I'm not white enough.

And family wonders why I just opt to live alone with animals and am bitter towards everyone in my life. Don't even get me started on the worthless shitbags that say "men and women can't be friends because of sexual attraction." Where does that leave me? Do I not get to have any friends?

[ShaunCloudSwain]

You know what? I miss Emos. It felt like a golden Era of bi male visibility and then suddenly... They vanished?

[beanceline]

i had an older male teacher who thought being bi means being in a relationship with a man and a woman at the same time. he listened intently when i did a presentation on sexuality and gender and thanked me for sharing my own experience as well. i hope hes doing well bc everyone should have teachers like him 😭💕

[Heidelmann]

I lost my first social circle at university over coming out as a bi man. A friend in our group decided to tell us she was bi and everyone perked up: I thought I'd share too. Everyone at the table seemed to pull away from me uncomfortable. And none of the group would engage with me like they did despite us all sharing lockers in the same short hallway.