Overcome Perfectionism | ADHD Tips That Work!

In this video I will highlight why so many people with ADHD fall into perfectionism, specifically women with adult ADHD and how to overcome it. Many of us fall into either frontend perfectionism or backend perfectionism when it comes to task initiation and task completion.

In order to alleviate overwhelm and procrastination I want to plant a seed in this video so that the next time you need to get something done your perfectionistic tendencies will NEVER trip you up again.

Hope you enjoy this video!

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[sarakellyADHDCoach]

Please share if perfectionism is an issue in your life, and what you do to remedy it.

Also, please let me know what kind of ADHD content you would like to see me create. ❤

[JuliaTillmann-of]

I just got diagnosed with adhd at 31. I'm from Germany and many doctors here don't believe in the existenten of adhd itself. I could find myself in you're Video 100%... actually scary... :(
The Black and white thinking, the pressure I put on myself is unbareable.
My apartment has to be tidy, i have to earn and sage lots of money and have a successfull partnersh The biggest issues I have in partnership or i see myself as a complete failure in life. Biggest areas it effects me ate relationship, focus on weight loss, work tasks and my household. I think way too much about how other people judge me and feel like I'm completely falling life, compared to my peers, really...
I'm struggling a lot with my inner voice, living in the past or worryng about the future to the degree that it actually destroys my mental health.
Wish me luck with focusing on the grey area and get a groth mindest... 😢

[evahometx]

Never thought of it. But listening to you, I am again realizing a new thing. I might also be a perfectionist . Thank you for this video and all of the others.

[catherineg]

I feel this so much! My perfectionism shows up at work all the time. I think it's part of my masking behaviour to hide my ADHD "tendencies" from other people in a professional setting or making up for the fact that I mess up and forget things in other areas of work. When I submit something I want it to be perfect to make people forget about little errors that I've made elsewhere. Alot of my motivation at work is producing a "perfect" product. In the past its definitely lead to stress and burnout. I've gotten alot better with being more forgiving of myself.

[lenziepoindexter]

i have been denying and downplaying these behaviors and compulsive actions or thoughts i struggle with on the daily because i am undiagnosed( i refused to have it put on paper )also my mother didn’t believe in mental health issues/disorders so much so it has become debilitating, and affected my self image and worth trying to hide and deny the obvious distress i put myself through on my day to day life.Thank you so much for making these videos it’s very eye opening, inspiring and gives me hope i can OVERCOME this.I don’t have to feel alone in this either!

[TheRandomman]

I think in childhood, struggling with organization, impulse regulation and attentiveness, some of us learn that we can only function in a "normal" way if we put in 100% effort. Then, later in life this belief persists even when in most cases it's untrue. We get addicted to it, we even take on jobs based around those draining tasks for which we need to give 100% to get it right

[jonathanmerrill]

This impacts me in a lot of aspects in my life. It impacts my relationships, making me feel i have to be perfect or do things right for my partner, and if I do not, they will be mad at me . The reality is that is not the case, and it causes me to overeact and over apologize for nothing i have done wrong(leading my partner to sometimes overact to me overreacting). Some of you have probably been there, and it's annoying, especially when you or your partner did nothing wrong (just a blob of miscommunication)😊

I am going to therapy(go do it!! It really helps!) and working on epecations/perfectionism. Having adhd is hard, and as i got older, i would get overly hard on myself when i would make a mistake(still do). This video and message really helped put into perspective that the high unrealistic expectations are a product of perfectionism while relazing i dont need none of that!

When thinking what i call my frontal lobe, the concept of perfect doesn't exist. It's a social construct created throughout time, and what is perfect to one eye is perceived as heavily flawed in another. So what's the point of pursuing perfection if it truly does not exist.

Thanks for the video, and i hope this comment helps others as well to maybe give insight.❤

[robinleaf]

Oh, this is all me. One of the most annoying things is how, if I haven't gotten back to someone, I wait longer and longer to write back because of my guilt - it gets bigger and bigger and becomes a huge thing. I imagine how annoyed or upset or disappointed the other person is and I put it off because I do feel like I need to find some way to make up for it before I send a message back, and if I can't think of something, I can't bring myself to just get it done.

[nancysimpson]

Great insight that I never connected in myself - black and white thinking and perfectionism. I have always held myself to high standards and frankly, it can be exhausting! It has helped in some aspects, such as striving to improve my artistic talents, but is very detrimental to how I see myself and being too self critical. I love the advice to remember to enjoy the journey. I need to make myself a sign to remind myself.

[pensadorzamboangeno]

Thank you. Your message means a lot to me. So blessed.