How to Individuate, Heal from Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissist: Abuser-savior, death-life, punitive-mother duality

Separation: silencing narcissist’s voice in your mind

What about individuation?

Once narcissist’s voice silenced, both abuser and savior, mother and child are gone.

Authentic voice is disembodied.

Embodying.

Individuation requires mind-body work: owning your voice also by connecting it to your body.

Reconstituting three lost functions: self-mothering (self-love), self-saving (agency), choosing and affirming life (negating depression, anxiety, catastrophizing, and ANTS)

Watch Take These 4 Steps BEFORE Therapy for Narcissistic Abuse

Watch Decode, Heal Your Mind with IPAM (Intrapsychic Activation Model)

Watch Hijacked by Narcissist’s Serpent Voice? Do THIS!

Watch Take Your Life Back, Own It

Watch Go to Your Desert, Listen to Your Inner Silence

[M.A.]

So much yapping about narcissism all over the internet, but NOBODY gives more accurate and effective solutions than you. It's like a whole different depth of understanding. Thank you so much for producing these gems.

[AuntieTay]

My husband and I met in high school and I would call him my Superman… because he was always saving me… I wish I could go back and save myself instead of learning how to do this now

[melissacole]

Right on time! “The narcissist regresses you to a two year old” … that makes SO much sense in so many ways…thank you

[bobsanderz]

The contributions your brain has had on society and human behavior in general will be celebrated for generations

[IrinaKucherenko]

Yes to Somatic healing!!! 15 years being married to narcissist and his final discard has led me into Somatic therapy work. I am now working towards becoming a professional in the field of healing traumas via somatic therapy. 😊

[MariaMaria-fvdr]

Thank You, professor Vaknin. You have the best videos online. Healthy people do Not accept this duality. From the first sign of duality and evilness, he should be expelled. Unfortunately, to many good people fall for this deadly game. Kindness is often naivity and self destruction.

[bonniekesic]

Thank you for this. My Narcussist died 8 months ago. I kept hearing him in my head. It seems to be fading now.

[karenellisbrown]

6 months out after 30 years of marriage. I wake up every morning hearing his voice. 😢

[teesahurt]

It was NOT HARD FOR ME. once I learned ABOUT NARCISSISTIC Personality I am forever learning more. Once I knew I fell in love with myself because of Narc mirroring me. And understood that Narc is INCAPABLE OF RAL LOVE AND EMPATHY. I BURID HI. and went straight into ❤ healing. Myself. I I’ll tell you this. I do believe This healing path will be for the rest of my life.

[data.coffee]

"And God said: Let there be light, and there was light " - Genesis 1:3

[carmenneves]

Truly.shinning light. I never knew concepts so important. You are giving me a guide in the path of fiding my real self after a life time of abusive relationship and loss of identity. Thank you. ❤

[thusharividanagamachchi]

No one explains the narcissistic experience better than professor Vaknin. It’s 8 years since I divorced my narc husband, and every word resonates so well. Self love and healing the inner child have helped to regain my life. I feel I have become me 🥰
Much gratitude 🙏

[MissSuzapalooza]

100% spot on and such an important step. I stopped watching your videos months ago as was going through this healing process, and listening to videos kept me a little stuck. It happened naturally as I listened to myself, and relied on myself, and no longer relied on YouTube to help me through it. It’s only in hindsight now I realise this is what I was doing. Contentment and the feeling of safety in myself is pure bliss now. Thank you so so much. Weird to say that YouTube saved my life, but it is very true. ❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉

[leonoraparker]

I'm coming up to a year after my breakup with a narcissist. After 8 1/2 years together. This video is incredibly resonant for me. I have so much work to do, and I'm so tired and broken right now. But thank you, you've helped me begin my healing process.

[paulsmit]

Wow, this was so interesting. The last part where you said, “Choose life” really struck a chord with me. I’ve said “I choose life” probably a million times in the last few months to myself. Instinctively I always felt that underneath all the cognitive muck there was this simple choice I had to make. Stay bound to the pillar of destruction or flounder my way into life. I know how the one ends, so might as well choose the other. This is about choosing real living, and connection to your body and soul in a deep, honest way. Once you can learn how to feel all those simple things we take for granted cognitively like empathy and kindness, and actually feel them for yourself, healing legitimately starts. It’s almost like they’re sent to force you to choose. They yank you right out of limbo and either drag you down to their world of emptiness or force you claw your way to higher ground if you choose life. The spiritual
element of their purpose is spooky.

[healer_kokomi]

i became authentic my self, they can copy paste my personality but they dont have essence like me

[Sa-igqv]

Sam I love you, I hate you Sam, I love you Sam, I hate you Sam. Daughter of a narcissist here. I really appreciate your insight, it kills me to listen to it sometimes, I cry with remorse and shame, sometimes I get angry, other times I'm overwhelmed with feelings of acceptance and surrender. Being the daughter of a narcissist has been an incredible journey and a devastating journey rolled into one. I thank you very much for putting all of your information out there. Bless you Sam 🙏

[daathdorothiel]

I'm just unable to find the right words to describe the importance of all the work you Professor are doing here. Thank you for all!

[ckl]

What a beautiful metaphor…go into the desert of your mind and make it flower with your essence! Thank you Sam 🙏🏼

[yoganature]

14:28 ..titanic of your shared fantasy is sinking ..having hit the iceberg of abuse & reality..
👌 ah this..