Revamp your sex life in 6 minutes | Ruth Ramsay | TEDxDaltVila

Is there a simple mindset shift that can radically improve our sex lives? One which can apply whatever our circumstances, experience or preferences? Yes! Sex coach Ruth Ramsay shares this shift, and how its ramifications go way beyond increasing our pleasure. Ruth Ramsay is an adult sex educator and coach. She helps people understand who they are sexually, how their bodies and minds work, what they need and desire, and how to communicate that. Her style is upbeat, shame-free and pleasure-led.

[alanawolf]

Extending the analogy: getting good demands that you pay attention to what you’re doing OFF the courts. You monitor diet, cross-train, etc. What you do out of bed matters at least as much: Are you creating a relationship where your partner feels heard? Are you making them a priority? Do you keep yourself in top mental and physical health to the best of your abilities? In other words - make sure you’re the kind of person your partner WANTS to play with!

[PriscilaHancock]

I took Ruth's course a few months ago then had a 1:1 session recently and it has simply been life changing. I feel so connected with my husband of 18 years but also much happier and fulfilled in other areas of life - family, work, friendships. Thank you Ruth xxx

[baldeagle]

Variety with a partner you love and respect can bring you to a level of trust and excitement unimaginable.

[lewashcliffe]

God, I wish I'd heard this talk when my wife was still alive and healthy. I would have shared this with her and could have helped us avoid so much emotional pain.

[billpetersen]

For the hobby method to work. Both partners have to have, a reasonable level of interest already. I’m many relationships, one partner will try anything, the other won’t even talk about it.

[ebonyblack]

I know someone who's treated it like this for a long time, he and his polycule are some of the most open people about their needs I've ever known, and that goes far beyond their 'play'. Their levels of communication and respect for boundaries is phenomenal, if someone isn't in the mindset to handle something in the moment they understand how to handle that and return to the topic when they're better grounded for it.

Nothing is completely off limits as long as it's approached respectfully and calmly. It's amazing being around people who truly are comfortable with sharing everything about themselves with their partners, it's a thing worth working toward for anyone in a relationship where that level of intimacy is avaliable.

[ermonnezzasoio]

The best and more natural advices on this topic I´ve ever heard in my life!!

[HerminiePA]

Mae West said, "if I got married, I'd have to give up my hobby." I expected this talk to be more like that.

[SK-vdbb]

What a fantastic talk. I play tennis also so this talk really hit the spot.

Instead of leaving it to chance, we owe it to our partners to practise something so essential in our relationships. This was a massive realisation for me.

Thank you Ms. Ramsay.

[hsk]

if you want to get better in tennis, you can't play with the same person every time 😅

[fad]

I'm glad she mentioned "including solo."

[rudeawakening]

That was SO eye opening and spot on ! Thank you 🙏

[simaroyaich-kfvu]

Completely agree with you...even Without changing our partner we may play better if we slightly change our priority👍

[simonsitinjak]

3:20 Most of what we are told when we are young is what can go wrong.
4:15 Let's start thinking about it like a hobby. This is a positive affirmative.
6:05 Skill remember: Communication, creativity, empathy.

[Thomas-gb]

So true, in a real relationship it’s all about being intentional and honest…

[JEDAGI]

The planning part is easy. Every morning before breakfast. Every evening before sleep, and random times during the day.

[joshuapinter]

Couldn't agree more and such a perfect analogy to remove the stigma from thinking and talking about it. Great job!

[pritamsri]

All I can say is - she found a platform to speak her fav hobby and also do business. 😄😃

[kevinmichael]

Thanks for your advice. I’ve since started a tennis league. I have matches all week long now.

[kennethreynolds]

Good analogy Ruth, even experienced couples can get better with a little good coaching.