Andrew Huberman advice to Lex Fridman on how to find love

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Andrew Huberman is a neuroscientist at Stanford.

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[AnthonyFransella]

My view was:
- Talk to everyone you find attractive
- Spend time with the ones you have good chemistry with
- Date ones that you connect with intellectually and morally
- Marry the one whose place in life and goals match up pretty well to yours
- Recognize that the commitment doesn't go away as you both change, you're a team and have to grow with each other
- Make the other person laugh at least once a day

[shogunisheremistaa]

Lex is the very definition of overthinking and I can totally relate to it 😂

[arco]

“ some things are done easier on your own… but a lot of things are better done with other people.” such a good quote.

[dines]

There is no the ultimate advice.
There is no path, no pattern, no code you can follow, you have to find and create your own.

[Al-gvuw]

Lex you’re a genius you can’t let the idiots have all the children

[Forerunner]

I agree. At some point, you must choose to prioritize internal qualities (morals, personality, positivity, mutual support, ect.) over both the physical traits and the dopamine highs of the novelty of something/someone new. Because there will ALWAYS be someone more attractive or novel than who you're currently with.
Initial attraction will always quickly wane, but you must choose to lean into attachment and bonding rather than lust.

Took me 17 years (I'm 30) to realize this. Once I made the choice, I realized the tremendous joys of actually sharing everything about you with someone else in complete commitment.

[PlatinumState]

I have a feeling Lex wants to be in a relationship really badly but doesnt know how to

[caitlinV]

To all other folks who are good being alone yet happier with someone, may we find that person who would save us from choking to death on a carrot.

[westleymullins]

A married college friend told me before I met my wife was don't prioritize having the exact same interests. Also important that you can depend on them. It won't matter if you are broke down and you can't get a hold of them that you both love the same band.

After ten years of marriage I think why we are successful because I tend to be more chaotic and she tends to be more orderly. She keeps me from doing stupid stuff and I keep her from getting stuck in a rut.

More places you go and more people you meet, have many more dice rolls to find someone.

[vettevegas]

Lex, you have to find a woman who you like, not just love. You must enjoy her company as much as the sex (if not more) because of it works out forever the sex becomes less important than actually enjoying her company. Find a woman you like, and who proves she always has your back.

[katiie]

Do things that get you out of your head & into the flow state more regularly.. this helps discernment & helps you connect to your inner self more deeply which will help to know what you ultimately want over time vs just analyzing. So much comes fromlife when out hearts are synced up with our minds. Being in a career where you’ve over strengthened thought processes can ultimately hinder you in the inner guidance of life

[jordyhall]

I decided to go for another partner during lockdown . One appeared very quickly on my tablet, along with a good many unsuitable candidates. After a while I was getting, "red flags", and ended the relationship. Just being in the first somewhat dysfunctional relationship seemed to have had the effect of attracting my wonderful fiancé. We did the Gottman's book, Eight Dates and found this very helpful. There's risks in most ventures, romantic relationships being no exception. I'm a calculating risk taker and I am very happy with the way things have worked out. I wish you both success.

[abhishekgopal]

Heuberman: "...our kids..."
And that look 😂

[ljohnson]

I agree, when you really decide it’s time within the universe opens new doors

[georgetacarmen]

Well, I'm glad that he shares his time with the rest of us.
He's a very busy guy.
If he was in a relationship, we might all have missed out on a great human.

[life.in.the.slow_lane]

I had no clue who Lex Fridman was before watching this video. YT algorithm decided it would be something I should watch. I would have missed it and continued to scroll, but the man reminded of my Dad; same facial structure, nose, lips, eyes, even eyebrows. My Dad passed away several years ago. It's strange to see such resemblance.

[hodgelive]

Have kids. We need more lex types in society.

[cwoo]

Your partner should be your friend, biggest supporter. I never wanted to get remarried until I realized I wanted a family unit to carry on and be there for my son when I pass away.

[anthonydevries]

Thumbnail bait is legendary Lex. 10/10

[wild]

Its harder to find someone if you’re highly intelligent and enjoy your own company enough to pass on mediocre companionship