Are You Gifted and Don't Know It?

Are You Gifted and Don't Know It?

Gifted people have untypical brain development, which is why they sometimes see the world acutely and feel big emotions. It's time that we create a culture that encourages people to embrace their giftedness without feeling guilty. In this week's episode, we're going to talk about being aware of your giftedness and what to do about it.

Part One of ‘Are You Gifted and Don't Know It?’

Was there a time in your life where you felt like you're different from everyone else? I have confirmed that from the age of five. I even thought there was something wrong with me. It wasn't an easy journey because people think life is easier for smart people. Sometimes you wonder, how did that even get interpreted? There's a sense of chronic loneliness that I kept asking myself, who will understand me?

Here are some of the interesting things about gifted people. They love to have a sense of perfectionism, but it's not that fear-based perfectionism. They want to see things in order to be deemed as good enough. It's the perfectionism that has something to do with precision, beauty, and harmony. Gifted people sometimes struggle with being vulnerable because they've experienced being made of because of it. Gifted people have a lot of anxiety but are not necessarily related to mental illness. It's the fear that things won't go the way they want them to. If you're a visionary, you can see it a certain way, and you aren't sure it can happen that way because of whatever reasons, anxiety evokes.

“Gifted people sometimes struggle with being vulnerable about what they think or feel.” – Dianne A. Allen (03:13-03:17)

Gifted people need help with translation and bridges sometimes. They process things differently and come up with ideas in a more creative way. It's not better or worse; it's just different. Gifted people have standards that are so high that it backfires on them because they want it to be so perfect out of the gate, and they suffer tremendously. So, if you're gifted, you don't know it, and you're having struggles, once you realize that it's part of the neurology, you'll learn how to work with it eventually. Soon, we start making friends with all those parts of us that, for our whole lifetime, were either misunderstood, denied, or misrepresented.

Part Two of ‘Are You Gifted and Don't Know It?’

Gifted people who don't know they're gifted can feel alone and isolated. When you keep trying to engage with somebody who doesn't understand you, sooner or later, you quit trying to engage because you think you're an alien. You have these thoughts in your head that they don't see the real you. Perhaps, you're shy and reserved. But a more significant part of it could be your giftedness. The things that are important to you are different than the things that are important to them. But things get better when somebody understands you. You see, gifted people need to come together with other gifted people.

“Allow yourself to be surrounded by other gifted people who get you.” – Dianne A. Allen (23:24-23:35)

Understanding how you see the world might be different from others, but it doesn't make it wrong. All gifted people are not the same, and giftedness shows up in different ways. I'm sure it matters to you because we need to understand that what we think is normal isn't normal for everyone else. We need to realize that our natural curiosity, that part of us wants to dive deep into things, is required for the betterment of our world, our life, our family, and ourselves. That curiosity is what helps set us apart in a good way. That curiosity could lead down the perfect road to something amazing that everyone's seeking.

The more we're able to connect to our meaningful goals, our vision, our passion, who we are, and then bring it out in a way that matters, that is when we feel most fulfilled. Choose to live in that space and be proud of being gifted. Be proud of being different. Be proud of your diversity. That doesn't mean we shove it in people's faces. It means we use it for the greater good. It means that we take a stand for who we are and use it for the greater good. It means that our collective journey requires that we radically shift how we're interacting with the world, which is what we're meant to do. Why would we all want to be the same anyway? Embody the fact that you might feel different in the process. Let it all out. Spread your wings and don't allow yourself to be impacted by other people who are thinking small.

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[jenniferjones]

I'm seeing flashes of different faces. And I have sleep terror meaning something is in my room. I have a unseen entity touch me more then 1 time.

[susanlearned]

Instead of colors in the leaves of a tree, Im busy looking at the aura of the different trees. This is highly fascinating..thank you.

[aulasalinevonbahten]

It’s been so hard to understand and to realize that my problems in school, high school, work were not really what I thought. I felt different and I have suffered a lot. I’m crying a lot after watching this video. Thank you so much. It’s time to shine ✨

[emmaandjoylesmana]

Thankyou so much 😭😭😭. Listening to your saying made me feel somehow liberated like i can see myelf from crystal clear lens. I’m from Indonesia. I thought i had BPD or NPD or maybe bipolar etc etc bcs of that intens roller coaster of emotions every single day. And i’m living in simultaneous “emotional pain” dealing with standards. Etc etc etc oh my thank you so mmuch

[RandomPerson-bdhv]

I'm gifted. I've known it because I had to get tested growing up. but I did not understand what it meant so I'm having to learn. this might be life changing. Thank you.

[Ciara_mckeown_unfurl]

Really great video. This process of trusting ourselves and being authentic requires us to grieve the fact our family may not have seen us for who we truly are. Then taking the risk of being that person. Terrifying and liberating!!! Xx

[robyndawn]

I was a gifted child and now im just a crazy person

[someonegetsme]

Be sure to take a second and subscribe to the show and share it with anyone you think will benefit. Until next time, remember the world needs your special gift, so let your light shine!

[cigar]

I used to think that I was crazy or something beyond people's understanding. My teacher told me that I was phenomenal when I was in elementary school and they isolated, shamed me for being sharp for my age. I always had a comeback to anything anybody can say about me also, my mother told me that I will get killed if I don't stop being smart fast forward my boss at FAANG resented me for being "a smart ass" 😂 I don't even try to be smart but as soon as someone starts talking about something that I know very well ideas continue flowing without stopping and I can't keep my mouth shut. I love helping people but I'm also scared of them because they're angry, mean spirits sometimes. My solution is to isolate and distract myself around people that can't understand me. They think that I'm a stuckup, shy, introverted, mean, angry all kinds of bs. Thanks for motivating

[yootoob]

Thank you for mentioning the difference between malignant perfectionism and beautiful perfectionism and including the anxiety that comes with a visionary bent. Very validating!

[auducharme]

Thank you, Dianne. I just found you and I really needed these friendly reminders today! 🌹

[jonrixbus]

Thank you Dianne! You are doing great work! Much what you said resonated with me. As I grew up I thought I was stupid, because people around me seemed so sure about everything, while I was questioning everything. People around me seemed to have such finite personalities while I struggled to find my own personality through a bunch of different personas that I used to try to connect to the world. I didn't realise that those with "finite personalities" probably where more one-dimensional than me, and that I had a richer world within me than them. Fortunately I have found great friends in life through my great passion of music, but a romantic relationship is still to come. I think a big reason is that I enjoy my own company so much and don't want to waste my time on a person who slows me down (sounds selfish and arrogant I know ;) ), combined with the fact that it's harder for gifted people to find each other, since we are a minority in society. But I haven't lost hope, and I find myself more forgiving towards myself and others as a get older, which helps in connecting with people.

The untypical brain development that you describe was new to me, really interesting! It may explain why gifted people have almost like a "sixth sense", because they can process and filter information in such a rapid way that they see the greater picture instead of getting stuck in details. I have always been ashamed of my gifts because there is no worse feeling than the feeling of superiority towards others. It brings so much guilt, pain and feelings of isolation. Lately I try to see my gifts instead for what they are - gifts. I didn't choose them, they chose me, and then I feel very thankful. And I know that each one of us, gifted or not, have unique capabilities and unique perspectives of life. If we all could aknowledge and celebrate that, then there is a bright future for humanity. Now I have rambled enough haha. Great love to you all, over and out.

[sincerefuller]

What if you can see the different colors spectrum in your skin or on other things? Best way I can explain it is like a hologram sticker but on a very very very subtle level. Another example is that when I’m outside and the sun shines on my skin, I can see all the tiny different refractions colors of light on my skin and hair almost like how a prism works.

[Twinruler]

I am not sure I am gifted, but watching some Youtube Videos about gifted children, there was a lot I could relate to.

[joedoe]

That explains the hoarding. Wanting the intensity by having 30 watches instead of just one.

[valoriebroderick]

How is giftedness being defined here? If it's not having a gift. What is it?

[LivingAlaska]

So now that you know, What are you going to do with it?

[sittingstill]

Thanks for explaining the trait of wanting speed up videos to keep them interesting. Trying 1.5x on this one. :D

Worked great. I noticed the pitch shift and verbal irregularities due to the speed increase were filtered out by my mind. Very neat.

[cedricburkhart]

I don't really know if I willfully as gifted. I mean I have a vurbel IQ of 141 but my overall IQ is only 100. So over all not that impressive. I have often wished for an identical twin so I would have a play mate. Not that others never play with me. I would also like to be understood. And know someone who cares about what I care about.

[jamesborrelli]

Can you be 70 years old and still be not sure why you have few people to share with yout ideas