Want To Know If You’re Being Gaslighted? 🤨

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[deborahrichardson]

Zero follow through, this was an issue. They're exhausting.

[Joe-hfcn]

What about the # 1 : calling you mentally disturbed or unwell

[annalashlove]

I find it interesting that calling attention to the gaslighting behavior, leads to more gaslighting! OR WORSE

[danemartin]

Dominance. For to have power over people for self. Is weird....

[sugahcookie]

They question you first, only to negate your answer to make them feel they have all the answers.

[kaymuldoon]

My ex friend would verbally abuse me and would make me feel like I was a horrible person. When in reality, I was fine, and SHE was the horrible person. I am so happy and relieved to no longer be trapped in that phony friendship.

[mariafemarquezdeguia]

He always does that, Sir! All my words and feelings are invalidated! He calls me crazy and puts all the blames on me.

[Chris-oq]

Yep 👍, You Better Believe it, All of the Above.

[Artlover]

I have been gaslit my entire life. Wow .I went no contact with this person but I still have memories pop up at random time with new clarity.

[jkevinparker]

When you’re not capable of gaslighting someone because it’s evil and you’re not but they start accusing you of gaslighting, they are confessing they’re doing it to you. That was my experience.

[BikeLife]

Gone through (and still going through) all of the above. And so have my kids. Treating you like crap and then coming back later asking how they can help you and telling you how much they care. It's pathetic and mind blowing that they think they can get away with that.

[StellarJAGuar]

N: “I don’t believe you”
Me: “Fine, believe me or don’t. I don’t care”
This pissed the narcissist off

[Bea-wbuk]

They ridicule your lawful structures because they want no lawful structure.

[deborahfortin]

It all just makes me want to vomit. Which is probably why I developed anorexia at 16….digusted, trapped, abused, slandered and looking for a way out without having to actually die. I’m now 55 and obviously still alive, health has improved with my self care and healing and self worth increase however I attracted even more sickos in my life and family and had to eventually cut them out of my life regardless of the ‘flying monkeys’. Better now but still healing and still working on self care and self worth and empowerment that those evil abusers all but took from me

[Lexi_Con]

This is both my parents and so many people around me! So tired of toxic behavior!

[gp]

Stealing things and acting like i lost them bc i was forgetful. I lost a lot of my favorite things in a few weeks. Since nonchalance is a charachter trait of me i start to doubt my judgement. I will not initiate the discussion with him but i just go no contact.

[iahelcathartesaura]

Literally all my life. I almost choke and cry listening to this. I've experienced almost little or nothing else all of my life, and I'm old now.

[CindyandMoore]

1000 thumbs up because THIS is truth. They’re soooo crafty and manipulative.

[janebraun]

The last the points define it, undercut you, emotional instability, and stay in the dominant (controlling) position over you.

[Rhonda_C]

“Perhaps they’ll express positive regard for you, after they’ve sabotaged you to a friend“.
The narcissist in my life never gives compliments, ever. But to a third party one day, in front of me, she praised me, & highly!
“What happened there!!?”, I asked myself. Took me a long time (through reading psychology, & particularly the subject of NPD), to figure out that she was using me to enhance her public image.
I know my example isn’t strictly one of gaslighting, its more one of exploitation, it’s a reverse of your example, the capacity to speak positive regard about me to another, yet the deliberate withholding of it at all other times, & the demonstration of it in front of me, is yet another example of emotional control & abuse.
PS I maintain a healthy distance from this relative. 😁