Guys: How to tell if you actually like a woman

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As a guy, it can actually be difficult to discern whether you actually like a woman or whether you are simply sexually attracted to her. There are many possible ways to discriminate between these two options. Here's one of them.

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#attraction #dating #sex

[psychacks]

As a guy, it can actually be difficult to discern whether you actually like a woman or whether you are simply sexually attracted to her. There are many possible ways to discriminate between these two options. Here's one of them.




Orion is a licensed psychologist in the state of California.
Podcast available of Spotify, Instagram, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts and others.
See the "About" tab for more information on donations and consultations.


#attraction #dating #sex

[xiongbenjamin]

What he’s talking about is called “post-nut clarity” 😂

[truthseeker]

“If your girl left you, what would you miss?”

-Patrice O’neal

[vgcq]

Her: why did you sleep with me if you didn’t know how you felt?
Me: my shrink prescribed it

[MrMediterrano]

I once had that feeling that I did not want to leave after I had sex with the girl, just to find out that I just wanted to have sex a second time and then leave

[DrStoCazzo]

He lost me at “have sex with the girl”💀💀

[zsuzsuspetals]

My husband said knew I was the one when he had a bad day at work and he couldn't wait to see me to tell me about it. He said he never felt that way before. He wanted comfort from me. He also wanted to share good things with me. He wanted me to feel proud of him. He also said he just knew he wanted to marry me. We didn't wait for marriage to have sex but we did wait until we were committed to being married. There are other ways for a guy to know. But not wanting to run out the door after sex is definitely a way I suppose. That was covered in the movie When Harry Met Sally.

[rachelworthing]

I find this interesting. This man talks about how a womans body count should be low. But can you see how this advice totally conflicts your desire for women to have low body counts. We think a man we like is interested and wants a relationship, we have sex, then now he has clarity he doesnf actuslly even like us. This happens to women ALL THE TIME. We often feel tricked and used. If you want women with lpw body counts, this is bad advice as you are contributing to the problem. Not only that, its completely disrespectful and thinks nothing of how this will damage that woman. How about you take some time and meditate on your feelings instead of using sex to discern your feelings, it would be a lot less damaging for everyone involved.

[dwdwone]

I've had the opposite happen. Liked someone but no sexual attraction.

[faceious]

Hell, it’s hard enough to find a sexually attractive woman these days let alone figuring out if you like her personality

[PhysicalEntity]

Completely agree. It may sound a bit harsh, but hormones are in charge at the end of the day

[NirvanatyJ]

What if I won't have sex before marriage (my non-negotiable) ;)

[deborahrozenzhak]

Can you make a clip for the females next?

[brookvalley]

Yes, it is vitally important to make the distinctions among "like", "love" and "lust". Of course, we may "like" someone, but not love or lust them. We may "love" someone, but not lust them or even like them. We love our parents, but we don't lust them. We love our teenage children, but we may not like them. We can lust someone without loving them or even liking them. A woman may be a bitch, but she is so sexy, we lust after her anyway.

It is vitally important for a man to understand that a woman might consider him her best friend, but not lust him. A woman might love a man more than anyone else she knows, but not lust him. A woman may lust a man without loving him or even liking him. Lust is a physical reaction. This ain't no thinkin' thing.

Men must learn to recognize the difference between like, love and lust in a woman. And stop mistaking like or love for lust.

[NaijaCINE]

If the only way a man can differentiate liking a person from being sexually attracted to that person is to have sex with said person, that man and the entire men-women dynamic is completely broken.

[neema]

Ah, yes...risk unwanted pregnancy and STDs in the name of distinguishing between the two.
And the girl you just used for this test will suffer through a heartbreak which I guess we will call collateral damage. Small price to pay for a worthwhile and noble course.

[tammy]

I was laughing. so much in life we only discover as we try. It isn't ideal but being human is a messy, murky process of failing our way to "success."

[johnegan]

Do you have a less risky initial test. Since physical intimacy can often release the kraken in women. In addition, it could be possible you still like the girl but the physical fit or chemistry was a disappointment. Or maybe you discovered she had a weird tattoo soMewhere..

[micahhooks]

While this is true, it is bad advice.
Sleeping with women you are not in committed relationships with is a great way to mess you up emotionally and spiritually.
Just talk to the girl for Pete sake continue talking to her Intel you know her well, and you get past your horniness. Nothing good comes easy or for fee. You’ve got to put in the work.
Cheep Sex is not the answer it is a reward. From experience anything you need to know about physical chemistry can be learnt through kissing and being tactile with her.
There’s no need to go further than that.

[reginasemenenko]

Wow. No way. No ring, no sex. Married for ten years to a man who has great integrity. He is former military and treats women the way he would want his daughter to be treated.