The effect of INFJs on ENFPs in relationships

From an ENFP perspective and based on my own experience, I explore the joys and dark sides of the relationship with INFJs, whom I consider my favorite MBTI type.

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I'm an INFJ, and I love ENFPs. <3 I feel like ENFPs bring me out of my shell, and I think I might have helped ENFPs to be more organized/to plan more. I can spend hours talking and having crazy daydreams with ENFPs. :)

[CHK]

As an INFJ, ENFPs are my absolute fave. It's cool to hear about why it's reciprocated.

[silentgrove]

The first INFJ I met, we began to know things about each other without ever having spoken of these things at all before. I was the first to mention it. I just "knew". We had at least one shared synchronicity experience together.


Since this first encounter with an INFJ I have been having more and more inexplicable intuitions. Phenomena I cannot account for by any sort of science.


I have met many more INFJs since, two are casual friends though the connection isn't as strong as the first one I met.


I am not yet sure of why this connection was the way it was for me. I remember I was very happy.
(ENFP)

[melodyr]

Hi. My mom is an ENFP and I am a INFJ. We are best friends. She is so silly and we have so much fun hanging out together... I want to thank you for helping me see her side. We have a family member who is kinda mean to us. We don't know why because we are so nice.. Of course I have to figure out why by analysing it but everytime I bring it up my ENFP mom says just drop it. We never disagree, so it surprised me. I think it's easier for her to ignore it and let it go. Thank you for helping me understand her better. And yes ENFPs are great!

[elmehdisaniss]

If the enfp accepts the guidance of an infj and an infj accept the expantion of the enfp and each one of them is patient about the other to grow, these two personalities can benefit from a very great growth being with each other.

[peaches]

I think the two do something very similar. To me they seem to face a lot of different options and are trying to make the best ones. Like both are lead to Rome but use a different process to get there. Infj seem to use process of elimination and enfp the opposite a more inductive way of reasoning. That difference in thinking is just so fascinating to me :)

[MrBOBhakimipendobombies]

No don’t worry, it does make sense... i just like how cheerful and open enfj are... cause we don’t have to read them since they read their self to us... so this causes us to trust them since we can see that they are being their true self and so we start to open up... And when enfj acts childish or something, we actually find it cute (instead of giveing a weird look) and relatable since like me personally, i or we have a secret childish personality for fun or something...

[drewgrant]

i’m an infj and my partner is an enfp like you! I agree with everything you’ve said😊

[brucebruno]

INFJ here. Prayer is meditation and meditation is prayer! Except for "911 Prayer"; which is asking for something material or for something to be done FOR US instead of BY US. The second being an incorrect way of using these. The first helps you tap into that something "greater" within; which is connected to the outside heavily. You can also approach this by seeking something "greater" outside of you because the outside is connected to the part that is within because that is what that part of the mind does, as stated above. Both are useful for everyone! Prayer usually connects outward to something "greater", but can connect to the "greater" inside also. Meditation is the same but in reverse, people usually connect to the "greater" within but can connect to the "greater" outside. The "greater" being something GREATER than oneself, ie. GOD, the SELF (the part of GOD that is within), being that we are created in GODs image. The "SELF" is the part of us that is like GOD within us and is the part that gives us the best potential understanding of the "GREATER" or GOD within and outside ourselves.

P.S.: Share this with your INFJ friend who needs an explanation of WHY to be doing these!
It should help them understand, and where they don't "they" can easily fill in the blanks that "they" have. I HOPE this Helps, and very well SHOULD! PEACE n' LOVE!

[senalilvanya]

"Why would praying work?"... Trust me, I've asked this from most around me 😂
- INFJ

[jessheartsyou]

Such honest and well-reflected self-insights!

[VV-iksy]

I think as us INFJ’s get healthier, while we still seek out truth, we become focused only on truth for ourselves. Maybe it’s because my Ti has worked out that if believing in anything helps someone become a better person, that is what matters.

[drjcobra]

Love it. You explained the dynamic so well. Ever sense I found out about enfp's, I think they are wonderful people (especially romantically with us Infj's). 🥰❤️🔦

[bierrollerful]

This interaction between these two types intrigues me and your video prompted me to think about it some more. I figure I should share my thoughts instead of letting them go to waste by doing the usual and filing them away from anyone in my 'brain cabinet'. Plus, we all have a lot of time to think at our hands right now - so why not put in some extra time to write it down, right? :)
(woops, wrote a little too much - will spread it out over some comments)

I have met a few people that I reckon could be considered to be ENFP - and even watching videos of ENFPs envokes this feeling of an immediate, almost effortless connection. Something which I do not often get and if there is anything that I value most, it's an effortless and honest connection.
So yes, 'we get each other' and this comes as a huge relief for me; no pretense required, no need for putting up a mask. Almost as if back in childhood, I can just be who I am and more importantly: I even get validation for being just me. I can't be absolutely sure, but I think this feeling is mutual and applies to both sides. I assume that it does, how else could I feel this comfy with you guys.

But where does this come from?
I think the answer lies both in what we share, but also in what makes us different. We compliment each other well, we can cover some of each other's blindspots (though we might still need outside help to not go off on a wild dream about unicorns and rainbows). I think MBTI does a pretty good job here: we share the same stack - just that the functions are mirrored and oppose (and expose) each other. Two sides of the same coin. That what creates 'the whole' are opposites coming together. Where you can help us out of our hole, we can help you from flying too close to the sun. And then we meet in the middle, to the benefit of both of us.

[SuperTonydd]

We're not a judging type, we're predominately a perception type, P. The J only refers to the external interaction with the world. So like this, you're a predominant P extroverted, we're (infj) predominant P introverted. You see? Because our predominant function is P regardless of introverted or extroverted.

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INFJ male here.. about the negativity towards the end of the video.. ENFP’s to me are prone to toxic positivity, while ENTP’s can fully appreciate that side of us INFJ’s. That’s why I love ENFP’s as a friend, but for a relationship, I need an ENTP. Sucks that both INFJ males and ENTP females are SO uncommon!

[iljaboon]

As friends, certainly. Relationshipwise? Oooph. With ENFP's Te + elevated Fi, that can be quite overpowering. Had some experience myself. If they are not considerate that INFJ's social batteries are limited and won't regard to any bounderies cause "they just feel like". Then trouble is inevitable, especially long-term. The right amount of distance certainly makes it work.

[nash_enlightened]

As an INFJ it's true about us trying to find the absolute truth...

[gaelavgalwythia]

I feel enfp thinking is like going to a brick and morter store to sort through all items to come to the ultimate conclusion where as infj thinking is like online order filteting the results and only veiwing a condensed select few items to choose from as an ultimate ultimate conclusion

[joanaborrellsanchez]

My crush is an INFJ, she kissed her ex yesterday 😭 I was really happy thinking about the future we were supposed to have togheter... she made me feel really good... I don't know why she did that, because I know she feels the same way as me, we're connected in an extraordinary level... but anyway, we can be friends I guess, I doesn't want to less our frienship only because this shit :')