INFJ Secrets: The Art of Moving Slowly

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[lovewho]

This video was intended to be a one-off but might become a series exploring some of the unusual aspects of a type. There are certain things that emerge from a type's cognitive functions and psychological makeup but wouldn't be obvious from the usual type descriptions - these are the things I'd like to cover in this series. In this case, a video title on YouTube inspired it. I'll wait for similar inspiration for the rest of the episodes in this series. It might also be the case that types have multiple episodes ~ Nathan

[VixeyTeh]

INFJs... slow to move in the physical world, internally making a billion observations, calculations and decisions at a million miles per zeptosecond, completely overthinking everything to the infinite degree.

[CholeyC]

I literally wrote an entire essay in my head for 2 weeks, nothing on paper. 30 minutes before deadline, I typed as fast as I could as the words came flyng out of my head. Good essay submitted on time.

[pragatisupakar]

INFJ is that person who has the world’s future figured out .. I had predicted a lot of things that are happening now .. but I still don’t know what I am doing next month.. they are just slow for themselves lol.

[aliciagc]

As an INFJ lawyer, the point about spending a lot of time analyzing and strategizing and then striking is so true. When I come to a solution about a problem, it seems so clear and so obvious, and I’m usually right. I don’t mind taking the time to figure things out because I’m confident I will make wise and reasoned decisions. This makes me feel quite satisfied with myself.

[jacquia.]

The stubbing their toe because stuck in their head really did it for me🙌🙌🙌🙌💓😂
Truth🙏🤦‍♀️

[greenman]

Ordered Chaos: My 'J' makes me want to be tidy, but my lack of Se, forces me to pick my battles, often times forcing me to be less rigid, on the cleaning I want to take place.

[christopherqueen]

All very well said. As an INFJ I got really tired of people saying I’m slow, implying that I’m lazy. (And yes, I did have the feeling that my time thinking was laziness!) But over a period of years I watched the same people make errors in their actions which they had to go back and fix. And I decided that if I {might} move too slow, they might also move too quickly.

[Psychoanalyze]

As an INFJ who lives in intuition and logic, I can say I can think like ENTJ but lack the motivation to act like an ENTJ

[alexwallace]

Almost unsettlingly insightful 😄 Being an INFJ feels like always being an outlier, having to play a role to fit in, in social situations. So being 'understood' in this way by a video feels rather validating.

[trinaq]

Thanks for another accurate video, Nathan. True to INFJ nature, I ponder every possible outcome internally prior to actually taking action. Slow and steady wins the race, you might even say.

[amyblais]

This is really accurate. We’re very careful in the choices we make but once we go through everything and finally decide, then it’s really hard to stop us.

[JungINFJ]

There was a proverb that I came across that says my overall mindset perfectly; "let all thy ways be established". That, I think, is the natural setting to INFJ. We have to see where something is going and understand the concept before moving or we feel blind.

A good example I found was at the beginning of LOTR book 2 when Aragorn has to decide which option to choose. Gimli (an ISFP imo - Legolas ISTP both high Se users and Ne Polrs) says let's 'move we don't have time'. Aragorn says, we have to solve the riddle to know which way to go. Gimli says, what if there is no right way?...they proceed to bury Boromir ...Aragorn solves the riddle and moves "swiftly like a deer without tiering because his heart was clear"...THAT is how we operate. We don't move if we don't know which way to go. Once we do, we move the quickest without pause...so yeah, we take awhile, but once we do move, watch out. To us, it is worth understanding (Ni-Ti) before investing (Se) and looking like a blind fool or wasting movement/doubling back (doubling back and wasting time is better spent Fe-ing and having fun ;) i.e. no objective where we move to let our wheels turn. A car ride, a song, a coffee, random insights with no one to distract our important nothings which add up like a collage or big somthings that take time to digest without losing our sanity... ... ...

Great Video, I enjoy your content.

[baileyab]

I definitely get down on myself for not making things happen in my life as quickly as others. I never really realized the facet of the Ni-Se relationship which symbolizes the journey from vision to bringing that vision to reality. This video helped me have compassion and respect for myself that it takes time for the vision to become reality.

[PENGUINGIRL]

This is very true. I haven’t thought of it until watching this video. I was always bothered by my mom to take action on my plans, but I only feel comfortable executing a plan once it is fully realized, in my opinion. I was a baker, so I liken my projects to baking bread. It takes a long time for it to proof before it can bake, and it has to be perfectly proofed, never underproofed, or else it won’t turn out right.
I feel like the best time to finalize my plans and books are when they are fully finalized in themselves, which takes a long time to hit that standard because they have to pass tons of tests and hit tons of criteria first. Plus, I desire to know everything about something down to each molecule, and that takes a very very long time to get to know something that intimately. So yes, this makes a lot of sense

[TeraHammer]

The struggle of moving slowly is that the actions, which are perceived as less critical, that those actions pile up in our minds. Until that stack overflows and personal mini-burnouts occur. After which that stack is cleansed again and we can start freshly anew.

How to minimize these small burnout loops is a life's journey for me.

[RosenRotInk]

Woah... a really great video and an important topic for me as an INFJ. You are right on all counts. I've always felt bad that I learn differently, work differently... generally approach things differently. To non-INFJs, my style may seem impulsive and chaotic... not very efficient... but I've learned over the last few years that my creative chaos and intuitive processing of my to-do lists is exactly how I get to my goals. I learn along the way, about life, people, my goals and the meaning behind all the things. It' doesn't come over night. This comes with long periods of learning and observation. I just don't have the energy to waste it on things that have no meaning to me. It took me a while to admit that and just do my thing because I know that in the end everything will come full circle and everything will flow into one another.
So thanks for the reminder, that it is okay being me. <3

[Ricky-esvg]

I'm an INFJ college student that studies psychology and neuroscience; I think psychology was something that interested me as kid long before I had ever heard about the term - makes sense for the type.

[purple_jams]

It's uncanny how accurately you managed to describe the INFJ, especially that last bit which made me laugh at myself. I like to organise yes but it shouldn't be too restrictive, so a to-do list which is basically just there for the checkbox ticking rather than any specific date/time deadline to do or complete that task. Anything too detailed is too much but anything too malleable is just as unsettling, makes me procrastinate. As I heard somewhere, we are organised procrastinators, we only stall things knowing we'll get them done anyway. Even my watch later playlist is organised according to what I want to watch first but later 😂

[taketheredpill]

yeah, slower is better.
I drive slow, I walk slow, I do everything slow.
When someone tries to speed me up, I don't like them...