When Your Ex Thinks You Are Done

In this video, we're going to dive into the psychology of what happens when your ex thinks you’re done—when they believe you’ve moved on and are no longer pining after them. This is a crucial moment that can significantly impact their feelings and actions toward you.

After a breakup, your ex may assume that you’re still emotionally attached, possibly even waiting for them to come back. They expect you to be lingering in the background, hoping for reconciliation. But what happens when they start to think that you’ve moved on? This shift in perception can trigger powerful emotions and potentially lead to surprising actions on their part.

A Shift in Power Dynamics

The first thing that happens when your ex thinks you’re done is a significant shift in power dynamics. When they broke up with you, they were in control. They made the decision, and they assumed you’d still be there, waiting in the wings. But when they realize that you’re not chasing them, that you’re not begging or pleading for them to come back, it disrupts their expectations. Suddenly, they’re no longer the one with all the power, and that can be a very unsettling experience for them.

This shift often leads to a reevaluation of their decision. If they thought they could keep you on the back burner while they explored other options or simply enjoyed their freedom, your apparent disinterest can cause them to panic. They start to wonder if they made a mistake. Did they let go of something valuable? Could they have misjudged the situation?

The Impact of No Contact

When you effectively use the no contact rule, it sends a powerful message to your ex. It tells them that you’re strong enough to move on, that you’re not going to sit around waiting for them. This can be a wake-up call for them, especially if they were expecting you to reach out. Your silence can be more powerful than any words you could say. It creates a sense of mystery and makes them question what’s going on in your life.

Your ex might start to think, “Have they really moved on? Are they seeing someone else?” These thoughts can create a sense of urgency and fear in your ex. They might begin to miss you more than they anticipated, simply because they realize that you might be slipping away for good.

When Reality Hits

As time goes on and your ex doesn’t hear from you, the reality of the breakup starts to sink in. They begin to experience the negative consequences of their decision. The initial relief they felt after the breakup begins to fade, and they start to miss the things that were good about the relationship—the companionship, the intimacy, the support.

When your ex thinks you’ve moved on, it forces them to confront the possibility that they’ve lost you for good. This can be a sobering realization. They start to wonder if you’ve met someone new, if you’re happier without them, and if you’ve truly moved on. This is when regret can start to creep in.

The Possibility of Reconciliation

When your ex thinks you’re done, it can trigger a strong desire to reconnect. The fear of losing you forever can be a powerful motivator. However, this doesn’t mean they’ll come running back immediately. They might reach out subtly, testing the waters to see if there’s still a chance. They may send a casual text or like a post on social media, hoping to gauge your reaction.

It’s important to remember that while this shift in dynamics can lead to reconciliation, it’s not a guarantee. Your ex will need to feel that they genuinely want to be with you, not just that they’re afraid of losing you. If they do reach out, it’s crucial to handle it with care—don’t rush back into things too quickly. Let them show that they’re serious about rekindling the relationship.

Conclusion

So, what happens when your ex thinks you’re done? They start to question their decision, experience the loss of control, and potentially realize they made a mistake. This moment of realization can be a turning point, leading them to reconsider the breakup and possibly even seek reconciliation. But remember, the key is to stay strong, maintain your boundaries, and let them come to you when they’re ready to truly commit.

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[progressnotperfection]

So they do come back. I'm with her now. Focus on yourself. Get in the gym and get fit. Focus on your career to make more money and advance. They want you better. Go be better

[moomanchu]

Its easiest to maintain no contact when you realize it hurts to reach out

[MDDR-ionh]

PLEASE do yourself a favor & listen to this man!! He knows what he's talking about! He saved my life when I was blindsided by getting dumped after being with someone for 22 years! Get his emergency break up kit & stay in NC. I know it's gut-wrenching now, but let this man help you. I promise you, Coach Lee will DEFINITELY help you view things differently. God Bless Coach Lee & God bless all of you who are hurting.

[janardonborgohain]

I just contacted her last night just seeking closure. It's been one year. But damn I got my scars get scratched again. Don't do it guys.

[RamboPresident]

I am done although I was almost dying two months ago. Dreamt of her, woke up at night with a too much adrenaline, cried for hours…Now I just watch these videos and feel nothing?! NC really works because it deattaches you when you do it with discipline.

[DonaldMeyers-vc]

Why do I trust coach Lee? He admits when he makes or made a mistake in his practice. So many of these people in this field want their word to be the gospel. Love the humility! Keep up the great work

[mitzitakes]

Whenever I think of my ex, I realize how he was so negative. I was just attached to an idea. It’s over. I wish him the best from afar. I don’t even have any desire to see him and wish him well,

[karens]

In no contact almost 3 months. Last 2 weeks I started getting texts. I didn't ignore him, but kept it short. Then I get a photo of us, to which I replied "back in the day". Today he shows up with my favorite coffee drink and wanting a hug...proceeding with caution!

[alexandermalin]

Commenting on this one to say it's almost 4 months now and I haven't heard a word. Don't think she'll come back, but that is ok. It's still difficult and some nights it's on my mind a lot, but it's not nearly as challenging or rough as it was in the beginning. No contact is for you, it always works because no matter what you'll "win" by loving yourself again. I had to listen to Coach Lee and other coaches daily to deal with the struggle at first -- everyone going through this, you aren't alone in your struggle. You will get stronger and while it may hurt a little at times and you may miss them, it won't dominate your life like it currently is. Sending love to everyone going through it!

[gauravvishwas]

This is so true! 3 months into no contact, & she texted me on Gram... did not react.
It's working like a charm so far!

[theresedegard]

Don't know what I would have done without me feeling like you were holding my hand thru this summer, Couch Lee. All the way from Norway, with love, thank you ❤️

[michaeltaylor]

If they left, why do you want them back?? That's not your person. My closure was sending a text that said how I felt and bye. Done.. move on. It hurts, but my worth and emotional health is my priority.

[tinkerbellUK]

This DOES NOT work with a person who has no empathy

[Americanpatriot-zotk]

My ex can jump in a lake! This ship has sailed.

[HAWKSTA]

This by far the most important video I needed to see today.

[glynnellis]

Thank you Coach Lee. This is a powerful video. I subscribed a week or so ago. I must have watched over 50 of your videos.
They have helped me abundantly…

[Wildanimal.]

We are such sad people looking for hopeless hope.

[donnetta-xt]

Divorce is never the way out, My husband and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, i wasn't going to let my marriage of 18years crash.

[tachynurse]

I've listened to coach Lee on a couple occasions. First off, yes we want the ex back, but everyday we stay away we are healing and becoming our own person again. We become strong enough to not care whether they come back or not. Second off, recently my ex wanted a different arrangement in our relationship, that I didn't want. I felt we were regressing rather than progressing. I politely told him I wasn't ok with that situation and left. It only took 4 days and he wasn't willing to lose me so we compromised. But one comment my ex made was that there was something about me that he just couldnt leave alone. I believe this to be the attractive person I became to him by not pleading or begging. Coach Lee, please continue to make these videos for all the broken hearts. Whenever I felt sad, which was pretty much every hour, I'd turn you on and I would immediately feel better. Believe it or not, you have changed me for the better. I have 100% confidence in your knowledge. Thank you!

[charlier]

Have faith in this process, no contact works, better yourself in the meantime and time will reveal its truth 🙏🏽