10 things asexual people want you to know

This video gives a run down of 10 things everyone should know about being asexual. Asexuality is so misunderstood and there is so much ignorance about it in society.

So as an asexual guy myself I wanted to give you my take. Here are 10 things I wish more people knew about asexuality.

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[CindyyCindz]

I'm a bi woman and didn't really know much about asexuality. I clicked on the video out of curiousity because it came on my suggested. After watching this video I realised I had so many FALSE pre conceived notions about what asexuality was. Thankyou for making this video and educating us who may not have the knowledge on what asexuality means! We are all part of the same community, I always knew that though! <3

[kaseyford]

It upsets me when people say that being Asexual is the same as celibacy. 😢
Great video Mark, Hi from a green eyed Aroace 💜💚🖤

[Bea-exyf]

thank you for making us visible!❤
Biro/ace, took me 33 years to figure that out, thanks for your help and education!!!!❤

[aaduckie]

i've just started exploring/re-exploring my sexuality and identity. i realised a few months ago that i'm bi. and after reflecting back on my past, i've just started to realise that i'm demi too (with a very low libido outside of really connected relationships). i've been really struggling with the demi side of things recently, but chatted with a friend today and EVERYTHING made sense! we've got a lot of similarities in our identities and it was SO validating to hear that i'm not the only one who's going/gone through all of this 🤗

thanks so much for sharing this Mark!

[alexandralugo]

I am so happy I found your chanel. I am a bisexual and asexual woman. I'm just so happy to find someone who is just like me ❤❤🎉

[panthersworld]

This is a very amazing video
I've always find asexuality the most relatable orientation in my nearly 2 decades of being alive 🖤🤍💜

[the.trollgubbe]

Wish I was asexual, you guys are on a higher spiritual level, you have evolved more .

[warriorcatkitty]

seeing videos about aces makes me so happy as a sex-repulsed aroace myself, I have a playlist on here just called "aro/ace representation omg!?!" cause it's just so uncommon to find JHGCGFVHGBH- I would very much love it if more people understood it and even knew about it.

[sophiaamundsen]

1) Love your nail varnish! (I've always wanted to say this but forgot🤭)

2) A year or so ago I was reading a gay romantic comedy (Upside Down by NR Walker) with two ace main characters. That's when I decided to go into the internet to explore this thing. Got to the AVEN forum and voilà, I realized I was on the ace spectrum at the age of 40 🤭. There were so many things that resonated with me! Like:
- Not feeling attraction right away. Of course I know someone is handsome or not, but for me they're just a body, a piece of meat. Does not interest me at all. When I see a "gym" body it's the same, I feel nothing for that. I only feel attraction once I get to know someone. It's their personality that does it for me.
- I prefer having sex with myself 🤭. I probably experience a low libido, I don't know. But at some moments of my hormonal cycle I do experience the physical need to have sex. When I do, I prefer my own hand 🤪. My husband is the opposite so of course at some point we need to reach a compromise. Usually I "help" him have the deal done and I tell him I'm fine and that's ok. But I understand this could be difficult to navigate, especially if sex is essential for someone but it's not for the other person involved in the relationship.

3) Totally agree about being great partners! Like, if you hardly ever experience sexual attraction, almost guaranteed you're not gonna be a cheater 🤭. I'm also caring and super reliable and trustworthy, so... But like I said before, I understand that sex for some people is fundamental and so they can't compromise on this. It's all about finding a person who loves you for who you are and is willing to accept you!

4) We're NOT broken! This is the most important thing to understand and believe I think... We live in a world that overvalues sex above all and so when you're different it's difficult to see yourself as a valid person. But we definitely are!❤

[melissanorman]

I'm asexual and this is a great blog Mark. Thx for the representation

[LisaGrace-Crisologo]

Thank you for posting this! I'm ACE and I have green eyes, so I'm definitely in the minority. I completely agree that we suffer from things like depression not due to a mental illness, but because there are so many ignorant people who look at us like there is something wrong with us. Nearly every experience I've had in my life that makes me want to exit is related to my complete disinterest in having sex with other people. Even worse, I have romantic attraction to certain others, but since I don't experience sexual attraction, I'm screwed...well, not screwed, I guess you'd say. I'm a great person, too, but I have spent most of my life in extreme isolation. From where I sit, this world is hypersexualized, and I just want to get off this merry go round. It's a cruel world for ACEs in general, but particularly ACEs who want a romantic relationship without sex. Never found that needle in the haystack.

[VentoRyder]

I really needed you in my life, thanks for this videos. I’m gray and gay haha. Always been, but I just recently recognized myself for sure as gray sexual this year. I will check your patreon 🩶

[JJ_TheGreat]

10:19 So just curious, what exactly do ace people experience - if there is no sexual attraction to a person?

For example, if you just get off, but it isn't associated with any particular person, would that be any ace attraction?

I just want to understand.

Thanks!

[ryanjg]

People start rumors about me and say I'm gay and in the closet because I'm asexual. I don't talk about my sex life because I don't have one. So to dim-witted people the only other option is that I'm gay. It's messed up to be slandered for something you are not.

[Herbie__VIE]

As an alloaro thx a lot for pointing out that ace and aro are not the same ❤

[PokhrajRoy.]

I feel calmer and happier after watching your videos. Great job 👏🏽

[sylmanyeki]

I recently came out to my dad as ace and aromantic and be told me to find a therapist so that they can give me meds to “cure” it! Lol he’s a boomer, I kind of expected that reaction

[baxiaaa]

Love love love this! Especially the last part where you say how amazing ace people are!!!! They don’t know what they’re missing ✨🙂✨I’m realising more and more that I am also on the ace spectrum, I still don’t know exactly where and how but I relate to all this, but in a slightly different way. Maybe I need to explore more “sub-labels” of the ace spectrum 🤔

[sealtielpatino]

Thank you for this and all that you’re doing to raise awareness!