Why Is It When You Finally Move On, They COME BACK...

►► Start Truly Believing in Your Own Worth.
Learn More About the Virtual Retreat at. . . .

▼
Don’t Miss Out! Subscribe to my YouTube channel now.
I post new love life advice for you every weekend.

▼
Have you experienced a situation where in spite of having dated someone for a short time, it took you weeks (sometimes even months) to start to feel like you’re over them?

And have you found it’s EXACTLY at that moment—the moment you decide to move on with your life—that they suddenly pop back up like clockwork? Even though you know better, they somehow draw you back in with the hope that this time, things will be different.

This week’s new video will allow you to finally rid yourself of the hold this person has over you, so you can begin to sculpt your life the way you want it. And don’t miss the “value exercise” I share at the end. I know you’ll get a lot out of it!

▼ Get My Latest Dating Tips and Connect With Me… ▼

▼ Chapters ▼
0:00 – 0:27 – An Invitation
0:27 – 2:58 – Is Someone Not Stepping Up in Your Life?
2:58 – 4:42 – Confusing Anxiety With Chemistry
4:42 – 5:45 – Craving Something We Don’t Have
5:45 – 6:46 – The Draw of the Mysterious
6:46 – 8:12 – Putting Them on a Pedestal
8:12 – 9:00 – A Pattern Needs a Dance Partner
9:00 – 11:22 – What Culture Do You Want to Have?
11:22 – 13:07 – What to Say When They Try to Come Back
13:07 – 14:11 – Believing in Your Own Value
14:11 – 15:46 – An Exercise to Help You Feel Connected to Your Value
15:46 – 16:30 – Where You Want to Be

[KDrop]

I literally told him "we should go on a date" after years of him text messaging me. He stopped messaging me after that. Asking to go on a date isn't a terrible question to ask. I know my worth. He was stringing me along. Stop putting all your hopes on a person. PUT ALL YOUR HOPES ON YOURSELF.

[s.beccari]

It's a test. They want to see if they can pick up where they left off like there was a bookmark in your life for them...

[christinarichie]

Chemistry isn't rare... It's TRUE compatibility that is truly rare.

[pauline]

It's an energy exchange, they feel us pull away because the energy is nolonger thinking of them, when we keep thinking of them, they are feeling the energy. So, when we focus our energy back on our own selves and lives, they feel the energy gone and reach out

[timothy]

They play flakey games, half in-half out, string you along, and then leave. The whole time they are looking for something else. They find it, but the other person or people don’t want them.

So they try to come back.

You don’t know what you got til it’s gone. If you live in your truth and are genuine, they will never find anyone like you ever again.

And that eats them alive.

[lizp]

Dumped after 10 yrs. I was devastated. I went straight into no contact. Stayed in no contact. Got on with life. Was very painful. Hes had 4 women in 15 months and just made contact via my dad. Wants me back.
He can get lost! Ive moved on. Hope hes now in the same pain he put me thro 15 months ago! Im living a nice life 😊

[christiansnaturestudio]

Being a man of your word is an attractive trait. Don't make promises you can't keep.

[luketaylor]

From personal experience, when you let someone go and later on down the line or close to the time you let them go and move forward in your life. I believe that's is life and the Universe testing you because you promise yourself time to heal and learn from a chapter in your life what ever that maybe. We make that first step into being healed. Then life, the Universe will bring that person back in our lives to test us so we can use those skills we built when they're gone to see if we really have learnt something from it all.
I know one day my ex will pop-up in my life again. Who hasn't bumped into an ex unexpectedly? The thing is to remember how far you have come since you last saw or spoke to them. You got through a difficult time with them leading to a break up then the aftermath of the break up. You got through all of that and that makes you strong and brave.
When the time comes, you will know what to do even when you never explain it.
Trust me. You've be brave and you will continue to be brave.

[conweb]

Consistency, reciprocacy, mutuality are key to a healthy relationship. I've learned that the hard way. Not going to do it without these present anymore.

[TheHappiness]

Honestly, When he comes back or text, silence is my answer. I can’t be bothered.

[carolinevdvlies]

‘Dont confuse chemistry with anxiety’ spot on! Sounds like future faking and hoovering to me; it sets you up for being traumabonded and then its very difficult to pull yourself out of this dynamic! thnx for your excellent explanation Matthew!

[sjoyce]

To all of us who wants to move on to a new chapter of your life. I found block and delete with all kind of communication methods has really helped me to moved on completely! I was doing so well without him, and he came back to stir me up only for the benefit of himself, seeking attention and validation, love and care I provided for him. I am just a comfort zone when he need to step in whenever he wanted. So I cut it off, not anymore, as women, we all strong enough to move on to a happier life. If you are still suffering with him, please let him go completely. ❤

[mariapap]

If i go through the pain of healing and moving on, i'll not even bother to look back. It's like trying to glue the shards of a broken glass back together. It's a nope!

[janedaun]

Because they want to break your heart so that you can't move on and then leave you again

[coolbreeze]

I feel bad for the person asking this question. It sounds like she's caught up in this guy's game. It's hard to take a step back and see things logically when you're in it. Cutting off all communication is the best thing to do if she wants more than just temporary oxytocin and dopamine hits from him.

[BenjaminJones-rere]

I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex girlfriend, and I can't seem to get her out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win her back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss her deeply and can't stop thinking about her.

[theultimateorangecat]

I believe you shouldn't even try extra to show your worth, because if s/he can't see it now s/he surely can't see it when you're in a relationship. It is not a sustainable method.

[susanw]

Not the right culture. So true. I need someone open, transparent, humorous, kind, honest, and consistent. Not humourless, secretive, opaque, inconsistent, and possibly dishonest. Well said, Matthew, and thank you so much ! 🎉

[BibaontheWay]

The universe is testing you whether you learned your lesson or not, I believe that ✅

[Luiseut]

As a recovering people pleaser, sending that text saying: "I'm not willing to keep going like this. You continue to go AWOL on me" it's one of the most difficult texts to send.