Why narcissists ruin your big days

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[islandia]

The worst is when you preemptively avoid talking about your achievements because you know you will be punished for them.

[freepirit]

EVERY. SINGLE. EVENT. It didn't even have to be about me. They just had to ruin everything. EVERYTHING!

[theerosarymaker]

When I was 6 months pregnant with my son 22 years ago and my X kept telling me, (we were both finishing our degrees at the same time) you don't have to finish your last class, it's okay if you drop out. I knew in my gut, that he would hold it over my head and shame me for not finishing but he also wanted me not to get the degree so he could "one up" me. Needless to say I finished my degree one month before my son was born. Thanks be to God I did finish my degree because when we got divorced, that degree had allowed me to have a decent job to survive his wrath during the divorce.

[alanaromero]

"they don't like other people getting attention" 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[mandimarie]

Yes! My mom was only “nice” when bad things happened. Finally realized she actually never wanted things to go well for me.

[DrogoBaggins]

I was isolated and home schooled and indoctrinated by my parents. For further isolation they kept us in a hoarder house so we couldn't have friends. Looking back I estimate that when I left for the Army I had the emotional maturity of a ten year old child. Basic training was indescribably difficult for me. Bigger and stronger guys failed for various reasons. I got sick and got put in the hospital but still came back and passed my final P.T. test a week later. I did the final road march just trying not to pass out. My parents knew what they had done to my life. My mother flew to Georgia and came to Ft Benning for my basic training graduation and all she could do was point out that I didn't get an award as a top graduate. That was nothing compared to what my parents did to my siblings though. Narcissists are not fit to be parents.

[beeabser]

I’m 70 years old. Where were you when I was a teenager! Your vlog should be in every high school curriculum. Narcissists are everywhere. Thank you for identifying these toxic personalities!

[mooncandy]

I never ever experienced a normal birthday, graduation or vacation in my whole life. I am not even interested in these things anymore because to me they are like staying at a hospital or something else that just sucks

[lifeisbutadream]

All of the above!
In a nutshell— a narcissist will shit on everything that means anything to you unless it’s going to benefit them financially, lol

[lilianacozianu]

They are scared and insecure baby's in an adult body!

[lamehoney]

I always joked about having a decoy wedding for my sister to ruin then she leaves in a fit and I'm like ok folks let's get this party started🤣🎉

[PegasusBYU]

I was smart to elope for my wedding. I did this because I just KNEW my father would start sing/songing “here comes the bride, all fat and wide…here comes the groom, skinny as a broom”. Plus, he even told me afterwards, “I’ll be g-d damned if you think I would pay for your wedding (even though he paid for all my siblings).
Eloping was the best move I ever made.

[renewed]

Took a covert narc best "friend" out to the salon for my birthday as a girls day out (my treat). She then proceeded to sulk, pout, glare at me with those dead eyes and give me the silent treatment. All out of no where. Flipped like a switch. Ruined my mood, ruined my day. Repayed my kindness with evil.

The following year, days before my birthday she says "What are we doing for your birthday, we have to do something special!" I said "Yes, spending it alone".. I did spend it alone and I was at peace.

Learned my lesson. Went no contact the following month.

[teal]

I used to "wonder" why the Narcissist was always scowling, nit-picking or throwing jabs when I was happy, then couldn't wait to come to "soothe" me when I was sad?
They secretly liked to see 👀
me unhappy!

[nylanelson]

(1) They are attention seekers
(2) Afraid of abandonment so they don’t want you to move up in life
(3) Don’t want to loss control so they isolate you
(4) They are prone to jealousy of you & your accomplishments

[karenwallace]

They hate to see you being happy. They have to steal your joy. Think of them as the Grinch. If you are strong, they want to make you weak. Whatever you are enjoying, they want to "piss" on it.

[zidesce]

I watched the Paris Hilton documentary, and her ex boyfriend started trying to ruin her day 5 minutes before she went on set to DJ. Unreal how it's like these narcissists share a brain when it comes to their strategies.

[winnieklaas]

My mother ruined every birthday in my whole lifetime. Everyone.

[duaneadams]

I was married to a narcissist for 23 years. I never could figure out what in the hell was going on or why she tore every good thing apart. It wasn't until after our divorce that I was made aware of the nature of a narcissist, and you hit the nail right on the head. Our marriage was a sacrament in our church, but I discovered that divorce can be a blessed sacrament too!! Thank You for sharing this.

[izilfe]

What Jada Smith did to Will at the Oscars is the perfect example of a toxic manipulating narcissist in action.