Routines for ADHD that ACTUALLY WORK! 🌛☀️ (Morning/Night routines)

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[aclilyrose]

“anything worth doing is also worth doing half assed” changes my life. brushing ur teeth for 10 seconds is better than 0 seconds, etc. apply that to everything

[Crocodildopolis]

I think this is one of those things neurotypicals don't know is an issue for us, so to them it feels like explaining how to walk.

[dmn]

Also! If you have a menstrual cycle....factor this into routines! We are in our lowest phase between around 3-5 days before and then during our period. Try stating anew after your period and run with it until around day 23. Then wind some stuff down and let yourself REST on your period. This has been life changing for me. I have more gains and more sustainability with I "plan" to hibernate on my period as much as possible. We also have lower dopamine during our periods so less focus, less drive.

[APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU]

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

[sierrasicard]

I do this too! I call it a "traffic light routine", meaning I have 3 versions of the same routine- one for "green" days when I have optimal energy, "yellow" days when I still can function but need to be mindful so I don't burn myself out, and "red" days when I have minimal energy. It helps so much to take the mental work out of what needs to be done, and I feel less guilt because I'm still meeting my standards for myself and making sure everything gets done

[kessella]

Legitimately burst out crying when you said "just feeding yourself is a win." I honestly cannot remember the last time I woke up with high energy, and average energy days are also very uncommon right now, so every day is a low energy day. I've been beating myself up about not being able to get anything done...but I am feeding myself. I've forgotten that's a win on its own. Thank you ❤️

[meghanmunson]

The “leaving my phone in the bathroom” part was the smartest thing ive ever heard. Growing up I was never taught the simple habits of brushing your teeth/washing your face/etc., so trying to get myself into those routines as an adult with ADHD have been really difficult. I tried leaving my phone in the bathroom, kept my alarm set, and it made getting out of bed and getting those simple tasks done so much easier. Thank you for sharing ❤

[AmandaNievi]

This will probably disappear in the comments but I just want to put it out there how helpful this video was for me. When I started watching it, I thought "well, I already do that..." but by the end of the video it dawned on me that I don't have it *organized* in lists. And that might seem like a small detail, but I just realized it's not - because even though I have my ideal routine stablished and allow myself to skip parts of it when I don't feel like it, having it pre-decided alleviates so much of the GUILT of skipping part of it. Because this way it's a PLAN, I *am* following the routine even though it's the least energy one. Because the way I've been doing, deciding on the spot what is going to happen and what it's not, feels like NOT doing it, feels like failing.
This is a change in mindset I've been needing so I thank you for that!

[einfachmalessen]

My ten year old daughter - still in the process of being diagnosed but there is no doubt in my mind she has ADHD - was sitting in front of the screen watching this video, eyes wide in disbelief because it seemed like you had been in our home watching her struggle with (and huge love for) perfect routines. She took notes, nodding in agreement and was so thrilled that finally she felt like someone explained a better way for her type of brain. It was the cutest, most heart-warming thing her ADHD mom watched all day 😉 Thank you so much for sharing this! ❤

[aj.]

Timestamps bc I'm ADHD and I wanted to get to the main talking points:
Basically having a to-do list doesn't work because our brains have varying levels of dopamine throughout the week, and we should have various routines ready for ourselves depending on energy level/ability to execute:

3:31 The Honeyman Method
4:41 The Ideal Morning Routine
6:39 The Most-Likely Routine
8:32 The Minimum Routine

[kaleyjanenigh]

First of all, I'm obsessed with this comment section. Y'all are some beautiful souls: deeply empathetic and loving. Thank you all for reminding me that I'm not the only person who struggles. ❤

I'm 38 and suffer from (literally) ADHD, depression, and anxiety (Medicated for all 3). I have recently become quite obsessed with "creating and implementing routines". I tend to hyperfocus on different interests, and my current season is very much focused on habits, routines, minimalism, decluttering, cleaning, and personal development. I find cleaning and organizing to be very challenging for me, so I purposely engage my hyperfocus onto it, and it's really been helping me.

I've always struggled with disorganization; I am a "piler". I defer decisions by setting them down, then clutter begets clutter, and you know what happen next. Messy, disorganization, chaos, clutter.

After the birth of my second son, I deeply struggled with housekeeping. I consider myself an aspiring minimalist, as I am slowly doing the work, but it's actually changing my brain. I realized that maybe, just maybe, I'm not just messy and lazy... maybe I have TOO MUCH STUFF. So, although my depression and ADHD make it hard to sit and declutter (I definitely feel the decision fatigue), I feel SO. MUCH. BETTER. in a simplified environment. It's unbelievable. My children (both neurodivergent, as well) are thriving with less, too!

Anyway, I loved this video and will absolutely be implementing this style. I'm a new sub! 😊❤

[maudemiville-dechene]

Started crying when you said just the thought of brushing your teeth felt like it was impossible some days because God do I relate🙏🏻 thank you for your video 💕

[retropulse]

That's the ADHD advice I always give people, but you put it concisely.
Work WITH IT - not against it.
So much of our life is trying to do what people without ADHD do.
BUT THAT IS INSANE.
If we could do that stuff, we wouldn't have ADHD.
Do it "your" way, and be proud it's your own.

[sarahdougall]

I do this a lot subconsciously on my low days, but I've never thought of the difference between an average and high motivation day. I'm so glad that this was recommended to me! I've been working towards having a good routine, but I don't plan for different types of days, so when I differentiate to a lower energy routine, I always feel guilty because "I could do this just fine yesterday"

[katrinaxharhus]

This is also so very applicable for dynamic disabilities/chronic illness and also just for women in general because women with hormonal cycles will have different energy levels (for me, vastly different) at different times in our cycles! I'll have to think about this more but this is so so helpful.

[savanahyancey]

Legit just cried tears of relief after marking my 3 types of routines for both morning and night….. It’s the first time I’m giving myself permission to feel successful even on low motivation/energy days.

[loomonda]

I have no clue if I have adhd, but I do struggle with depression, waking up with anxiety and procrastination - I love the way you approached this. I think the biggest takeaway is learning to accept and honour every stage of your being, since for most of us, it usually feels like a constant war with our minds.

[Baldingchimp]

I'm a therapist with ADHD.
I will definitely apply this to myself, but there are so many clients who I know this will help them tremendously.
Thank you.

[thesoulporpoise]

this is also an excellent present mindfulness exercise - i think a lot of my issues with my neurodivergence comes from me not ever giving myself a dedicated chance to check in with how I am feeling right at this moment so making it a point for you to do that as soon as you wake up so you can figure out which routine is manageable for you that day is literally something I have never even thought of doing! like, opening your eyes from sleep and first thing asking yourself every morning "how are you feeling and realistically how is your current energy level going to affect your next move after you get out of bed?" I like it and I will definitely try implementing this!

[sanjanarao]

When you said you DONT do your ideal routine on a relatively consistent basis i teared up.. i feel at home here. Just found this video on my recommended page, time to subscribe