13 Signs You’re in a Relationship With a Narcissist

Want to know if you're in a relationship with a narcissist? In this video, I go over the 13 signs you're with a narcissist and how you can spot narcissistic traits before it's too late.

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Hi, I'm Kenny, a Coach, YouTuber, Podcaster, and Author in Phoenix, Arizona. I make videos about the strategies and tools to help you heal from emotional hurt to elevate your life. I'm an advocate for truth, healing, and personal responsibility.

[nickel]

Bad childhood is no excuse for bad behavior. You always have a choice.

[Dynamic_heart]

I’m aware that a narcissists had a traumatic childhood. I do believe that no person has an excuse to mistreat a person.

[jolesliewhitten]

If you are with a narcissist, plan secretly and RUN!

[nancyselzer]

You're not always drawn to a narcissist or vice versa, sometimes you are born in that family.

[luttuts]

Not every narcist had a bad childhood
Often they were spioled

[marissakuehler]

I have been married to a narcissist for 12 years. I am exhausted. Your videos have given me validation. Your counsel has emboldened my very weakened spirit to FINALLY get a divorce. To my surprise, all my friends, family, and even my pastor completely support me! My God, it’s NOT ME??!! Thank you Kenny. Thank you. We listen to you! Everything you say on this little spoken of topic from BOTH SIDES— is SO TRUE. The constant verbal abuse, the incessant gas lighting, the Jekyll and Hyde mentality- EVERYTHING. These past 12 years have been a consummate drain. I don’t even know who I am- your counsel, and the support of dear friends- are helping climb out of this pit of confusion and find clarity. I am taking accountability for my own deep unhealthy insecurities- as you explained- from childhood and beyond trauma. It’s a journey of self healing and it’s such a RELIEF to be on it!!! FINALLY!!

[darrelmiller]

One of the most powerful things that your teaching has done for me is this: I AM not responsible for who others are. If they are narcissistic, love avoidant, love fearful - they were that way as a child, my behavior (which has been horrible at times) did not MAKE them them unhealthy. I DID not traumatize them. They did not "abandon" me. They were never there. That one piece unburdened me like no other. I needed to know this, and i didn't know I needed to know this.

[johnnycassell]

1. Everything is about power and control, everything is a game. A pure power dynamic.

2. They're incredibly charming. They need to feel special so they make you special.

3 They constantly talk about themselves, will bulldoze the conversation till it's back on them.

4. You feel crazy all the time.

4.5 They ignore your emotions and feelings, they get bored, they lack that empathy.

5. They don't have friends.

6. They're incredibly sarcastic.

7. They feel entitled to respect and immediate action to meet their demands.

8. They resent others success.

9. They have a Jekyll & Hyde mood.

10. They are hypersensitive.

11. They are massive manipulators.

12. They accuse you of something random.

13. Gaslighting.

You make excuses for their behavior

How to conquer a narcissist. Give up your soul and become one.

How to get away
1. Delete, block and cut the emotional supply
2. Get into reality. You can't change them. They aren't nice. They will never be there for you.
3. Never let your guard down.

[mirelladlima]

Having the humility to acknowledge one’s own part of unhealed trauma in the cycle is the start to self recovery and healing 🙏

[ak-intelligence]

I've stopped getting intimate with new love interests for this very reason. When the romance and intimacy is premature, I find that I almost always find out they're a narcissist after that. Now, I postpone all of that to get to know the person for who they are and I assess them. Physical Intimacy can wait. For as long as possible. I have to know who I'm dealing with before that can be considered. That way, if they're a narcissist, I will leave with less invested .

[healerscreek]

"Whatever choice you make, you lose with a narcissist." Yep! You are never enough with a narcissist. This is really at the root of a lot of behaviors I am trying to change. I'm tired of the futility of trying to do more, trying to become more efficient in my life to be able accomplish more for them, trying to make them happy at all costs to myself. My narcissist mother trained me through emotional and psychological pain to be compliant to her every demand or be punished harshly. Thank you for your perspective, Kenny. Please keep sharing your wisdom with the world.

[jeffreykuhns]

So, once you pretty much ID somebody as a text book narcissist there's no use in trying to have a relationship with them even if they are family. It's not my way but for my sanity. I haven't had a lick of anxiety since my sister disguarded me. I use to have it every day. Guess that discard was a gift.

[gracealderson]

I'm sure you are completely sincere and you're right in many things you say, except in saying that all narcissists had a terrible childhood.
I've studied this subject for about 3 years. I know a narcissist and grew up with them, I know without a shadow of a doubt that they had a very nurturing, loving childhood, parents who were definately always there for them, in fact it's sometimes that they are the "golden child' in the family, and are given TOO much attention.
They crave that this carries on in adulthood, the narcissism starts to reveal itself in adolescence often from being a happy, caring child. I have witnessed this first hand.
Apart from these factors, your words are very perceptive and true about narcissists.

[MoonstoneFoxy]

100 million percent spot on. You're telling my story of what I dealt with with my ex husband. The last straw was 2 weeks after our 4 year wedding anniversary, he went on a yelling rant that lasted THREE. FREAKING. DAYS. It was SO much more draining than his normal nightly ranting. I did EVERYTHING wrong, he never had his needs met, I'm not the person he met, he didn't care about my narcolepsy issue and always expected me to be awake and keep him entertained. Ugh, it was never good enough. He was threatening to drive my car off a cliff and kill himself (possibly me as well). By the 4th morning, Tuesday, I filed for a Protection order to get him away from me and out of my house. It was SO relieving. I already mourned our marriage within the 1st year. I
tried making it work, I remember when I first realized something was wrong- during the 2nd week of marriage. He flipped out over me folding clothes. It never stopped and it got worse. I'm done. I'm glad its almost over. He's dragging the divorce out to over a year. We have no kids, no assets, this should have been done well before July 2021.

Thanks for your videos, it's completely relatable. I'm sorry you went through this as well.

[Fishingfanatic]

I love you Kenny...you are saving people's lives here...that's 100% fact.

[JesusisLORD]

You can't keep on the watch to make them "behave" all the time. Their abusive behavior will resume without a hitch. You will be left wondering what happened again.

[candyhumpf]

This is my bf. I’m finally coming to the conclusion that I will never get anything from this relationship. It’s all about him. And the shouting is getting worse. He cannot even converse with me. His one liner- use your head! Very hurtful. I need to get out. I’m not even happy .

[adimeter]

My now gone narc was my hairdresser/friend/running buddy. I'm married 47 years, but hubby likes to 'couch potato'. Me and my now gone narc went to any and all kinds of exotic restaurants all the time. That was one of her attractions. And yes, she was charming and witty, until she wasn't.

[nika]

I can see how people might feel that way about cats if they've never had one but anyone whose had a cat as a pet knows that's not true at all. It's just that cats are different from dogs. Dogs are pack animals and cats are independent. When a cat knows you and trusts you it's a deeper relationship. My cat always protects me when I'm sad or upset and sits in my lap to comfort me if I'm having a disagreement with a family member. But your videos have been tremendously helpful with narcissists! Thank you so much!

[theforeigner]

My wife always brags about how great her childhood was. And it's because of that fact, she is now able to endure me. Gosh, narcissisism is so sick...