Why You're Miserable at Work... & What to Do About It! | Shadé Zahrai

If you’re unhappy at work, it comes as no surprise.
A survey from Monster found that 95% of respondents were thinking about quitting their jobs — and burnout is the number one reason.

Why do we work so hard, only to end up miserable?

We seem to be operating on untruths. We have a collective belief that if we work hard and ‘do our time’, we’ll eventually be happy. We’ll eventually reach the destination we’re working so hard to get to. Then, all of our worries will disappear.

Yet this elusive quest for happiness only leads to misery, damaging our mental health, our relationships and our hope for the future.

And the most ironic part of it all?
Many of us know this, yet we still prescribe to it.

In this episode I share two of the most common ‘mistruths’ I've come across that keep so many of us distracted and miserable. Then I share 4 evidence-based practices you can implement immediately to be your ‘circuit breaker’, help you step off the hedonic treadmill and experience happiness, now.

Research:
• Aknin, L. B., Dunn, E. W., Proulx, J., Lok, I., & Norton, M. I. (2020). Does spending money on others promote happiness?: A registered replication report. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 119(2), e15.
• Dunn, E. W., Aknin, L. B., & Norton, M. I. (2014). Prosocial spending and happiness: Using money to benefit others pays off. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 23(1), 41-47.
• Seligman, M. E. P., Steen, T., & Peterson, C. (2005). Empirical validation of interventions: Positive psychology progress. American Psychologist, 60(5), 410-421.
Seppälä, E. M. M. A. (2016). Happiness Track. According to the American Institute of Stress (...), 48, 40.

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1. Be human, accept all emotions label them. 2. Do less. Stay in the moment. 3. Focus on good stuff. 4. Spend on others..time, emotions etc..service to others

[audreaturgeman]

You explained this point so well Shadé I love how authentic you are This really made me think about just going for it, leading with my heart Thank you so much for all the wonderful content you spread

[DeclanHiggins-YoutubeChannel]

Great advice Shade very much appreciated disconnecting is very much overlooked now a day's. When we slow down we are much more present and happier 😊

[drteaches]

this 7 min video was like a 700 page book. So concise and awesome!

[Mr.WasiHaider]

Great Advice! @Shade

And most importantly you have to figure out why you are unhappy in your current role / job. The mantra is - Spend time with yourself with less distraction & observe for what you are passionate about, You will find your answers when you connect with your inner self, calculate it + plan it and make a bold step to follow your passion.
Life is too short to do those things which you are not happy and passionate about, day & day out.

All the best !

[nikhilpatel]

Miss ShadeZahrai! You are an absolute Angel! 👼 This video is an eye-opener for me. I have been in every trap that you explained here. This screencast should help me break the loop. One=At-A-Time!
Merci beaucoup !!!
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[phillipsantana]

I'm in constant learning stages towards the phrases that come with the positives and negatives of these mental thoughts that become the norm in our behavior.

[hookshot]

This is the good stuff right here. As a business student who reads a lot of psychology and productivity type books, your content is awesome. Super useful information with an emphasis on implementation. You need to compile your work into a book so I can buy it. 👍📖🙏

[nishichhabra]

You nail the message down highly effectively, I always appreciate your thoughtful & powerful messages. Have a nice day. 👍

[vinglish_official]

It's very useful for the College students like me .
Tnx alot your every video is motivating .
Namaste 🙏 from India 🇮🇳

[martak]

Hello I👏 want to thank you. I'm so happy that you add all these videos. With you I'm learning English and I see the world differently

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I couldn't agree more with what you all have said in this video

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Thanks mam for your efforts in bringing this content. It’s excellent 👏🏻.
I agree that Infomania and FOMO are real issues of modern corporate life. I request you to make an exclusive video on these topics at your convenience.

[sagarpaudel]

You know what? You are very charismatic! I have only known one or two people like you!

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So effortlessly satisfying and educational, another great video, keep going 😍

[ranveersharma]

hell yeah.. why u damn true at everything shade.. love everything you make.
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[markd.]

This is such a great video. Thanks for sharing it Shadé!

[ericeichstaedt]

Thanks, that really helps. Nice and simple, I can remember this and implement it! Love your videos, many thanks 🙏😊

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[hman]

Reminds me of when I was 20. I bought a house and was hyper focused on paying it off. I finally did it after 15 years. But now at age 36, divorced and with 3 kids, it feels so empty. Must be a primitive survival thing that pushes us.