6 Harsh Truths About Women That Men Learn Too Late

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[nauscakes]

Another major hard truth of life in general, is that you can "do everything right." and still lose. No one is entitled to anything.

[treychristopheryoung]

One hard truth that tend to be true is that there’s actually no such thing as “playing hard to get.” If a woman likes you, she’s not going to make it “hard.”

[machupikachu]

Remember gents: If a woman is in to you, there's almost nothing you can do to change her mind.
If she's not in to you anymore, there's almost nothing you can do to change her mind.

[johnvliet]

Thank God I found this video. I was halfway thinking of dating again; you have saved me heartache by reminding me of every reason I had to leave past relationships and pursue that which can be done alone.

[waves]

As Man, ive found it’s better to worry less about keeping a woman and worry about keeping yourself in shape and in line, once you start trying to figure out or worry about how to keep her, it’s already too late.

[raymondmasullo]

I'm 53, newly divorced, and thus single again. I'm discovering that dating today is just as chaotic as it was 30 years ago. I don't play games, chase, obfuscate, or read minds. I never have and I never will. I'm just going to pull myself out of the dating game and focus on my hobbies and interests, like reading more books. I'm not mad or sad, just realistic. Good luck out there, folks!

[Darkmattermonkey]

Just remember; all these things she says that will turn women on and/or attract them, ONLY works if you are her type. All the confidence, passion, drive, charisma, etc, will not win her over if she’s not attracted to you.

[scottys]

Had a GF who always said she didnt care where we ate. So I'd pick a restaurant and she would immediately veto it and tell where she was thinking we should go. Yeah I passed on marrying her.

[chzzyg]

When relationships are all about what the woman wants it really makes them unappealing. Selfishness, vanity, and greed are not attractive.

[stevearnold]

I have over time come to the same conclusions about women. Basically through trial and error. I once had a great relationship with a woman that had a lot of potential for marriage. But instead of her communicating to me a minor issue she had, she let the problem get to the point that she resented it and she broke up with me. Good communication is a must.

[georgepappas]

I've been married for 15 years and in the same relationship for 17 years with two teens.... And I still don't truly understand her. I think I'll never fully understand a woman, but a word of advice to young blokes is see what type of character the parents are before you commit. If you don't like them the strong chances are your girlfriend will have the same traits. This is coming from experience, as I really dislike my mother in law and my wife displays similar traits.

[allison]

I've gotten so much better with telling my husband when something is wrong not holding it in till I explode randomly. I was always afraid of the conflict but its easier dealt with immediately than festering. If he's asking what's wrong that's a great time to say it!

[anonemaus]

Like my sister said, she wants the man that makes all the decisions, and they're the same decision she wanted to make.

[nicholasbrassard]

The mind reader thing is so true. Sometimes me and my girl communicate so well and other times she's like 'you should know what I want from you and what I need' which is such a frustrating mentality.

Plus the 'if she likes you' tip. In the beginning my girl was really into me, super talkative and wanting to make plans together. But she has become more distant. I suppose I've been looking the other way as she replies less and less :/

[gabrielrcortina]

Being authentically myself is the hard part, but I will remain who I am because of that sole reason. The chances of me finding the right person is just as likely as me finding love in myself. I'm very different, and I absolutely love that.

[winterfern]

I was married for 5 years. She always told me she hated being the leader and that I was being too passive but every single time I would try something taking the lead she would throw a fit saying she didn't want to do it or she doesn't like it. So I kept becoming more and more passive because of that behavior. If you want me to lead, then let me do it, stop trying to dictate every little thing that I do and complaining every time. That's the kind of stuff that really annoys me about women. I could even get her flowers and she would not be happy because they weren't her favorite and her favorite flowers are only available one month of the year. So if I don't get her flowers I would get an attitude, but then if I did pick out flowers throughout the year she wasn't happy about it or really grateful just like oh okay nice effort.

[lilypad]

Being a man is not stressful at all. You just have to:

- earn more than women (and then listen to them complain about wage gap)
- take initiative in the bedroom (then listen to women complain about how horny men are)
- be masculine (and listen to women tell you how toxic your masculinity is)
- be confident
- be tall
- read minds
- be strong
- take charge
- look good
- take care of yourself & your girlfriend

And if you don't have kids, there is no problem, since you have your girlfriend to treat like a child and provide, protect and take decision for her, since an adult woman needs a man to treat her like that.

But at least that won't be for nothing, since you'll have a girlfriend who won't do much for you, but she will look good for you (something you also have to do for her, along all the other points). And in the end, she will be the considered the "trophy", and not you.

[mikemusialowski]

Great emotional maturity, Courtney. We.. I appreciate you not being purely utilitarian in your comments and approach but also addressing ingredients for a lasting deeper relationship. YOu mentioned having "done the work" (on yourself) and it shows. I'm 55 now, 35 years clean and sober, divorced and dating a new woman for the last 6 months. As a young man, mixed messages were my biggest frustrations about women. A) I'm better at reading women now (my ex's-and-my therapist called it "tuning in") and B) I'm pursuing older women than when i was younger, so they got no time to waste and bullshit and "tend" to be more direct and honest. My fave of your comments were about the diff between finding and keeping a partner. Brilliant! Your videos are so helpful. Thanks. :-)

[MrMinnesota]

I have 2 older sisters and a mom, I have learned, hard truths vary in the generation.

1. I grew up hearing, "I CAN'T READ YOUR MIND SPIT IT OUT", my sisters were rather impatient at times.

2. They had no problems telling me, how to be impressive if I ever wanted to be in a relationship. I got more info on the tells and signals, watching my sisters. Now I an not saying my family is the end all be all of how to treat women. Just that they had no problem giving advice on what most of all their pieves were.

2. I am finding that even if you know those things, you cannot expect to ever change how they feel about you.

3. The "friend zone" is real. I have found the only reason women talk to me in general is because they know I listen. So from my perspective if all my life ever offers them is a listening ear!

What does that say about men?

3. Many of those truths vary depending on the woman. There are women out there looking for a man who wants more then just a "hook up with them" Sad thing is the nice guys finish last as they say.

4. I'd wager if more men quit being sexaholics, it might change women's perseption of all of us. But sadly, there are a lot of pigs out there.

5. Many men can't always decipher what taking charge means, because it depends on the women.

6. I have been around women so long, I am practically ignorant to whatever tells they may be doing.

I grew up watching the hair flips, the adjustments of the shirt and so on, to me I would literally have to have someone "say to my face I like you"

Maybe that is a good thing though from what I have seen of women today at least

[SinnerChrono]

Ive learned that who i am at my core, who i enjoy being and what i want from my life and those around me. Is exactly why i will always be alone and why no woman on earth will ever want me.