Numbness | Jordan Debbink | TEDxMcHenry

Early in our adolescence, most of us begin a period of self exploration through which we obtain a firm grasp of who we are. For some, this self discovery doesn’t happen easily. In his moving talk, Jordan Debbink will share his personal struggle of how he broke through his numbness to develop a healthy sense of self.

[motlencore]

Honestly being emotionally numb just gets terrifying the more you explore your dark side and how much of it doesn't really bother you, j just kinda lingers around as a carbon copy you replay in your head on a regular basis.

[samanthaabadi]

This is true, coping and numbness until something breaks inside and out.

[pileofgay]

I've been feeling numb ever since I had my accident in August last year. I don't know who to talk to because my numbness has become so severe that my friends, my loved ones... my family. My feelings to them are numb. I don't care about their presence, I don't care about their absence. I don't care if my own life would stop at this very second but I won't go out of my way to make it happen. I'm only a 15-year-old living with severe trauma from a lot of things in my life and nobody around to help me with it. My parents my entire life have been wanting me to be numb. They told me to stop being emotional just like every else around me and because everyone kept asking me to stop being emotional I guess I eventually became that. I now realize that me being "emotional" was.. me. My emotions made me myself and I would do anything to get them back. I don't know why I'm saying all of this here but I guess I just don't have anyone right now who I can say it to. Kinda sad right? Oh well.

[Ulle]

How this man managed to survive is really remarkable. It makes me want to cry. Such an inspiring and courageous individual. Sending love.

[elainarogers]

This so real, numbness is a coping mechanism until you learn a new way.

[idimarus]

I so get this, my parents split when I was young and raised by my grandparents who can't speak english. I just zoned out to get through it all.

[shakhrizodakakhramento]

Feeling numb is a bit terrifying. It’s like you are not here. You are here just physically, but you are not recognizing your own emotions. I was told a lot not to be so emotional. Yes I was emotional and still I am, but the difference is now I don’t allow myself to feel my true emotions and feelings. And now I’m super scared to let my emotions be as they are. To let them go. I’m too scared of them. I always here voices in my head when I want to let my emotions go “stop being so emotional, are you crazy, oh my god you are like a kid” and etc. This is so painful though. I’ve never realized that before. I feel numb, and the most unfair part of it is that it’s painful. I feel numb but I feel pain, and that’s it. This is why I feel like all my emotions are blocked, and feel like my heart is so frozen, gosh. This is so sad. So sad.

[suebakernottly]

What a lovely man! I can still feel his pain from his childhood🥺 😢

[TheRubenZepeda]

I need to research this, I have the same symptoms.

[iamana]

If you have kids love on them. Treat them right. That childhood trauma can destroy them mentally. I’m numb.

[bobbyjohnson]

Very good talk, could really feel how much he cares.

[jilyyyyy.]

Numbness doesn't make me live life. It disconnects me from it.

[jhonusalazar]

I get numb many times too, and also put on a front that I am okay too.

[mayaluna]

i hope one day my numbness will melt away the way he described it.

[michaelhunt]

This is worth watching, don't pass it by...

[tommiller]

This is the first time I've encountered numbness as an open issue. I've spent most of my life like this. I'm always working to give the right response to situations and beat myself up when I act incorrectly. I often come across as cold and difficult to be around. I live in constant terror of behaving wrong.

[priyabhattacharya]

Feeling numb right now and listening. Halfly understanding half of it

[alondraacosta-mora]

How do i get out of emotional numbness if i cant even understand the cause

[corporalclegg]

I choked up a bit while listening to this

[daughteroftheking]

💚Jesus lived the life we couldn't live and died the death we deserve. Repent of your sins and trust in Him💙