She Left Me for a Woman

She Left Me for a Woman

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[rodneyperry]

My wife did this to me after 20 years and six kids from 6 to 14. She refuses to move out because she thinks the children will hate her. The only person she doesn’t worry about her decision affected is me.
It takes a special kind of narcissism to try to live an openly double life. She justifies her actions by saying she’s being her true self, totally unaware of how hurtful that is to her partner of 20 years. A cheater is a cheater.

[margo]

It sounds like the caller would have preferred it if his wife left him for another man. It threatens his manhood to think she left him for a woman.

[liveinms]

best advice I got was when my attorney said"Its worse than you know. dont look. Thats my job" I wish I could telll this man he is living my life 7 years ago. He will get through it

[gabztuh]

I totally understand not wanting to focus on the little contexts that shape something as unearthing as being the victim of an extramarital affair, but I feel like in this particular instance the fact that she left him for another woman deserved more attention. If you find out your spouse is cheating, you have one set of lies on your lap. To find out that your spouse of 23 years is cheating with someone of the same sex dumps a whole new set of lies for him to untangle in his grief. God bless this man and his kids.

[talyahr]

As a lesbian myself, I do NOT approve... She was a cheater so regardless of any details, it's a good riddance. Take your time and move on.

[kaylee]

My husband left me after 20 years and two kids
It still hurts 8 years later.

[bobsacamano]

The comments trying to justify this women’s actions because she may have been “closeted” are absolutely disgusting. She could have left that marriage at anytime but chose to live a double life and the desert her children and husband. That woman is a vile human being.

[glai]

Regardless with whom his spouse cheated with, man or woman, it’s good riddance. Who showed up with a new girl friend to collect their stuff? She was incredibly cruel and had no class.

[DrJaredNelson]

I have been the child in a similar situation. The anger is real. What a devastating scenario.

[nonita]

Great call Dr John! The caller was redirected to focus on himself and his emotions. I’m learning a lot from these brave callers sharing their experiences.

[EmpDDD]

There is A LOT more going on in this whole situation than can be addressed in a 20 minute phone call.

[BassBwoy]

Can we just try and understand how destroying this is from a man's perspective? I have heard another man say how broken he was to find out his wife 'went to the other team' and it made him feel like he wasn't enough of a man to keep her straight. Also, to get that far into a relationship and think you're gonna spend the rest of your life with a person and they're plotting to 'destroy you' divorce-wise just to get what they want...that's just heartless.

[l-train]

I hope the caller heals and finds a woman who adores him and treats him like he deserves. And I hope he ends up being so happy that he’s glad his wife left him🙏🏼❤

[KP-uspq]

This happened to my parents except it wasn’t leaving for a particular person but just being with literally everyone. This kind of thing destroys families. The best thing this guy can do is get out of the marriage and take the high road. Go on and live the best life you can! Definitely don’t trash mom!

[sds]

On behalf of all lesbians: We do not claim her.

[ryancohen]

She gaslit and lied to him for years. She sacrificed his heart and mental health for her own desires and protection

[annaadams]

46 (he’s still young), kids are grown (freedom), glad he found out now!!! He will hurt for a season. His heart will heal. And hopefully he will find someone to love and that will love him properly. Sounds like he was just “convenient” for her lifestyle and now she’s bitter bc he knows his value and she ain’t it!!! Good for him. I pray for him and his kids to find peace in it all. And for them to find forgiveness. She doesn’t deserve to live a lie either (could’ve been handled much differently). We can only control our actions. Not the actions of others. I hope the kids can see that.

[MG-pxch]

The best revenge is to move on and lead a happy life...at the end, everybody pays the piper.

[stephenwishburne]

5:49 For many people in this world, laying in your bed in a quiet house is the definition of a vacation.

[Debora.]

I'm sorry man! My heart aches for you. Grieving the loss of a relarionship blows!!! May God help you through this hard season.