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[shubhrakhare]

Missing a person who never was is a weird kind of pain

[NarcSurvivor]

Healing is an ongoing process. It’s like going to the gym. Don’t rush to the goal of being “fully healed”. Instead, enjoy the journey of healing. Let it become a way of life.

[indyblondy]

I left a marriage with nothing financially. But it was worth saving myself at 50 years old. The emotional pain of staying with him was worse than being homeless, unemployed and alone. It was years of learning to work through the grief. It has been fifteen years and I now have peace, contentment and happy. Being a survivor is not easy but attainable. Do not give up. You are worth it.

[costelloandlizzievolk]

It’s so frustrating how others view me as being not forgiving or not empathic because I don’t want to be around the repeatedly abusive unapologetic abusers in the family. It’s so messed up:(

[SerenaHe-zk]

My trick dealing with a narc is always keep my facts straight. I don't lie to them, I don't lie to myself. I don't have hidden agenda, I don't play tricks on them, so when there is a confrontation, they cannot alter my reality. I know what are the facts and what are not, and their little guilt trips and gas-lighting tricks don't work.

[murraycowart]

The real pain was that you thought it was real and when that fantasy was destroyed, you stayed in it for vows, kids, etc. You never meant anything to them and were simple supply. To be mistreated in every way is painful

[elizabethbettencourt]

So true! No closure and no justice. That's the answer. There is none. Thank you, Dr. Ramani. Appreciate your work more than words can ever say!

[BeautyBeyondStandards]

To know that Dr. Ramani’s content is inspiring healing and restoration in so many lives, including my own, makes me feel connected to you all. I love you all and pray for your recovery.

[IAMTHATIAM-nyci]

if you can walk away, This will stop the struggling and will begin the healing.

[PapillonBleuNoir]

I'd just like to add that another difficult thing about leaving a toxic relationship like this is that there are always things about the person and the relationship that you loved that really hurt to leave behind. There are all the things that make a normal relationship painful to end, like the connection, the identity of being paired up/married, the things that you won't be able to get anywhere else. You have to leave because it will never get better and it will continue to destroy you, but it's not just the logistical factors or how others view you that makes leaving so painful. It's the love and the connection, that was never mutual but from your side were real and true.

[cookiesnsuja]

My brother was slowly killed by his narcissist partner. She sucked the life out of him and emotionally abused him until he dropped dead. He didn't commit suicide. He collapsed from exhaustion, lack of sleep, and weight loss. We have tried to convince him to get away from the relationship. He was only worried about he shouldn't look "sick or weak" in front of her. He didn't want her to see that side of him. He was not allowed to be tired or sick. She made him feel that he was not enough, no matter what he did. It was always you need to do more. He went from extrovert and happy to the complete opposite. 

He still thought highly of her and didn't let go. Never would have imagined that she'd end his life. He was 30. Nothing can bring him back now, and of course she gets away with it. There are no laws to protect against this. She has no remorse. She doesn't understand the pain she caused to him and his family.

If you are reading this comment, walk away while you're still alive. I couldn't save my brother but maybe my story can warn and save someone here.

[cidaliak]

The grief is unreal, I have to step away every now and then to have a quick cry... I keep realizing another tragic thing every time I'm alone with my thoughts...

[youngblood]

Living with a narcissist was rarely, "Home Sweet Home" it's more like the "Hurt Locker"

[demigaines]

Narcissistic Abuse Can Have Long Term Effects On A Person’s Mental Health Self Esteem Sense Of Self Victims May Also Have Difficulty
Regulating Their Emotions Other Effects Are Cognitive Problems Such As Memory Loss.
I Have Experienced This All From Narcissistic Abuse.I Am Finally Disconnecting From This Person!!

[bronwyntanner]

My closure and justice are gained through the knowledge that they get to live with their miserable selves in on-going self inflicted negativity. Forever

I get to live happy joyous and free and filled with gratitude for my life away from all that stress and drama and issues.

[AljabbarWestJava]

الأكثر رعباً من العمى، هو أن تكون الوحيد الذي يرى. — جوزيه ساراماغو

[costelloandlizzievolk]

The lack of closure and justice is so upsetting. Stepping away and prioritizing my well being, finding safe supports who lift me up. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

[MirAndHer]

I'm still struggling with grief and loss in my daily life. I had to give up my old life to escape my narc mother, and lost everything in order to do that. I have no 'old' friends, or family in my life today, which is tough. Yes, I'm free from continued abuse, but that is only part of the healing process. Ultimately, I made huge sacrifices to take back my life. I have no regrets but the isolation is fierce. As for justice, and closure, I am letting go of that need, as to want it (from others) is too painful. My therapist and I provide it instead. Good luck, everyone, and thanks again, Dr Ramani

[Pithfork]

I was married to a covert narcissist for 37 years and went through every emotion that you talked about worrying about who I was going to hurt and that’s the reason why I stayed for 37 years but when my kids finally grew up and moved out of the house, I decided enough is enough. I’m not going through this anymore and I left that was six years ago, some people did get mad at me. I believe my kids got mad at me because I feel that our relationship is different now. Sadly I believe my two daughters are narcissistic also and I went through the exact same thing with them as I did my ex-husband for years after I left I allowed them to treat me like their father did until recently. I put up some boundaries with them and no longer allow them to treat me the way they do That has changed our relationship. My one daughter has cut contact from me and my other daughter hardly ever talks to me anymore. It breaks my heart but I’ve got to keep thinking I know I’m doing the right thing for myself and keep those boundaries up to protect myself and know that I’m doing nothing wrong. I think my daughters got mad at me because I won’t allow them to treat me the way they did anymore and so that’s the reason why they’re not really talking to me anymore.

[opticalmixing]

I hope that everyone is doing well and healing from whatever you are going through.❤