Men’s Mental Health And The Hard Truth

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[alaakela]

This isn't only for men. That "what are you going to do about it" line is a life changer for every young person.

[isobelnicolson]

"What are you going to do about it?" Is literally the gold standard of parenting. Especially when closely followed by "ok. And why is that the best option?"

[helgaioannidis]

As a clinical psychologist I'd like to inform you that also female clients with depression don't profit from someone just "stroking their ego".
I've treated men and women and all of them first need to accept their limits to be able to then set realistic goals.

[OGDeepStroke]

“Be firm, but fair, be kind and courteous, but have a plan to correct”.

[matt_cartwright]

💯 spot on. Children need strong male role models. Otherwise they go off the rails

[yareyaredaz]

One does not negate the other. When you go to therapy your therapist finds the root of your depression. For others its feeling unloved. For others its feeling powerless and useless. Most of the time you feel both. But one is the root of all the rest. No one treats male patients like they are female. Each patient is individual and theirs is a unique case.

[elikravitz]

Like many 1-minute social media hits, I think this raises a legitimate and important point while way oversimplifying a complex and nuanced conversation

[stoyanpetkov]

As a psychology major and therapist intern, I can tell you that any (good) therapist would NEVER tell you that you are "okay the way that you are", whether you are a man or a woman. That defeats the point.
If we want male depression to be treated with better understanding and approaches, we need more male psychologists.

[somewhereisgone]

As a girl, when I was depressed my mom told me, "what are you going to do about it?" and it absolutely crushed me every time. I felt so unseen, uncared for, and alone. Goes to show you different people need different things.

[asia-rgwf]

I personally think ppl who treat men like they have to be tough and say they basically can’t be emotional. If I have a son then I will make sure that he knows that he can come to me about anything and if he needs to cry I’ll help him no matter what

[GreggyAck]

I want to feel loved and accepted more than I want to feel capable and powerful. It’s nice to feel capable and powerful but the absence of those wouldn’t get me down.

[EsStagefright]

I'm glad I had a dad in my life, he taught me how to respect people and to control my emotions while still realizing that they are valid and important

[michaelhart]

With a young boy, start with ‘how/what are you feeling?’ And end with ‘and what are you going to do about it?’

Develops emotional understanding and the recognition of responsibility at the same time

[mmmeaks]

As a female psychiatrist this is super useful to hear. Men respond so differently to things and hearing men’s’ views like this helps me massively. Thank you.

[julietmike]

Dude this is so freaking true. I grew up with parents who always told me things would be ok, but what I really needed was to be charged with the responsibility of getting myself out of the holes I dug.

[rejectwokeness]

For someone who's been going through really bad stuff and currently jobless for 6 months and being rejected countless times despite having really good feedback from interviewers, and wondering whether I'll even have a job ever again, I really think men just needs a hand over our shoulder to assure us we are loved. We don't like to talk through our problems to a counsellor cos it only adds to our pain. We only want a listening ear and assuring touch. Because no one will give a man that, not even my parents who I imagine cares for me but never ever show it even when I look like I wanna end it all. I think I'll cry like a river if someone actually sincerely gives me that.

[seanbeebe]

Much of the time, depression is made up of unresolved issues. Don’t be afraid of it because your inner mechanic needs to get in there and start repairing. Only you can do this. Don’t let someone who is unfamiliar with your condition to tell you what’s wrong and how to fix it. You need to be brave and face it yourself, man or woman.

[childofchief]

I think a balance is good. Tough love means the love has to be there for it to work to be tough. Showing young boys or girls how to overcome challenges and how to build their self esteem through facing difficult moments is a valuable discipline to learn. We cannot wrap ourselves in cotton wool for every difficult scenario

[willm]

I’m a 19 year old male. I’m in my second semester of my first year of college and have been visiting with a counselor once a week to help with the struggles I’ve been having adjusting to college life. Last semester I sought no help from anyone and nearly got suspended because of how poor my academic performance was. Getting over the roadblock of admitting I can’t do it alone has paid major dividends for me. Going to counseling has provided me with pragmatism that I think can benefit all men and women, and to learn about why these struggles come up and how I can deal with them is a skill that is useful beyond just school. Growing up with 2 older brothers and spending most of my time with them and my dad I’ve had no shortage of life lessons being taught to me through experience and learning from the other men in my life, but some problems aren’t so simple that they can be fixed simply by being grabbed by the scruff of my neck and being told I need to be strong.

[soulie]

Its true. This broke me out of my huge depression and entitlement complex.