How To Regain Respect After You've Lost It - Jocko Willink

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Excerpt from JOCKOPODCAST 91

[alphadogmindset]

Never lose respect for yourself...always progressing, always learning

[AwakenedMan]

I always liked the dog growling analogy for this. I was too pally at work when I got in a management position and it led to being undermined. I tried being 'The Boss' after that and it worked but I could see I was being a douche and staff lost respect for me. However I did find a happy medium in being friendly, yet when people overstepped the mark giving a warning, giving another warning if it continued, and then really 'going nuclear' if it still continued. After that a boundary was set and an initial warning would suffice (i.e. once you've shown your teeth you only have to softly growl and folks will listen).
The key in getting it right for me was in speaking with my buddy and crafting an assertive, strong response without being emotional. Hence I was ready beforehand and knew how to react. After that I think I learned people LIKE boundaries, they just don't like boundaries being set if the person setting them doesn't honour rukes in an honest, strong and consistent way. Or when someone sets them simply because they're a power-mad autocrat.

[michaeljames]

I’m a huge Jocko fan and his perspective isn’t everything but the range of topics covered and getting his point of view is a valuable resource: thank you!

[joshholbrook]

Jocko u literally have help me figure out who I am an what direction I want to go in life...u are a true role model

[Backflipmarine]

My methods (writing before watching)
With types of work:
1)Take on as much responsibility as possible, including things that are not usually your duty but you have access to doing.
2)Do not complain externally at ALL, not even with your facial expressions.
3)Be early, leave when the works done, not at the bell (within reason).
With people:
1)Tell the truth always.
2)Actually listen to hear what they're saying and talk back to what they said not to what you were waiting to say.
3)If you were wrong about something, own up to it in front of anyone you want respect from.
4)Prove you are better than the person that lost respect is by working harder than anyone around you with a solid attitude.
5)Help, don't dominate

[leonflorence]

Come across a lot of business owners who needed this mindset. What happens most of the time is that they try and turn things around far too late, lose their employees along with the business, and burn bridges in the process of doing so.

[AI_Talks_About_The_Bible]

Always be fair, firm and consistent as a manager.

[mjjumps]

Always respect yourself and others will follow

[edwardspence]

With questions from employers I always wonder if their staff are really being difficult or if they're reacting negatively to a bad boss trying to squeeze them.
Like, it COULD be:
"please help Jocko, I'm a fair boss but some of my workers are taking advantage of my kindness"
but it could ALSO be:
"Please help Jocko, I pay them as little as I can get away with, mistreat them and use them up before discarding them, but they are resisting . Help me control these peasants with your Navy magic, sir."

[RattaTheMuss]

Change of behavior, attitude is built in to this.

[Yetipfote]

I have the feeling that Echo is a really good dog and Jocko is pretty proud of him.

[martindrengenxbox]

The thing about bosses following their own rules, that called leadership. You lead by example if you want solid results, you lose respect by putting yourself above the rules, at that point you're just the boss, not a leader.

[SebiJupanu]

In software, if you want to keep them and in the same time make them more productive, give them the option to work remotely. Not many companies offer that but almost all developers are looking for it, so you won't have problems replacing them if you need to fire them for being bad employees.

[petergarrison]

To be honest the way i have always seen it and taken is this .You can not lose what you never had.

[zodjenkins]

Jocko surprises me with his quite shrewd responses. Good teamwork ethic and perspective; thanks.

[GBLynden]

I am most curious about their hiring practices. It can be challenging in that space to get people with the work ethic required to grow a startup like that. It sounds like those they have hired are not the creme of the crop.

[junior]

Been tuning in through YouTube love the conversations u and echo are having. It reinforces the ideas I’ve already had and shines light on new perspectives On how to handle situations

[maxdavies]

U won't like me if U straiten me up.
Father Bob told them years ago to just let me be.
I need justice.
I spoke with general mattis, I wanted him to run my fortune, I just wanna retire but uze want me on the job.
Need to paint a picture of what we are trying to achieve.
Elon is good like that but it's obviously my embezzled bizzness from my point of view.
Jocko was hard core.
I was extreme.

Torture changes U.
I didn't need changing.
I needed ppl to stay the out of my life.

It's great listening to U Jocko lifts the whole team.

[justintorrex]

I remember reading in "the art of war" that zun tzu wanted to train an all women squad but they were giggly and undisciplined, so he put the emperor's favorite apart and chopoed her fkng head off. Next thing you know the women became obidient and serious.
This couple should fire one employee en front of everybody as soon as they're given suficent reason and see the others fall in line inmediatly.

[letrasimperfectas]

What a wonderful oportunity to be better!
Thank you sir