My Divorce Story: Chriselle Lim’s Lonely Marriage and Self-Discovery Journey

This week, Valeria is joined by the iconic Chriselle Lim, an OG fashion and lifestyle influencer, entrepreneur, and content creator. The shock of Chriselle’s divorce came after years of her sharing her picturesque seeming family & relationship online - her journey is a true testament to the fact that women continue to suffer in silence in toxic relationships. What you see on the outside is so different from what’s happening inside a marriage. Chriselle is blazing the trail for changing that narrative, breaking down the stigma around divorce and failed relationships, and giving hope to those who are struggling on their own. Valeria and her sit down and chat all about Chriselle’s self-discovery journey throughout and after her divorce, the internal shame that comes with learning to love again, and how they are planning to raise resilient children through positive feminine and masculine role models.

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What We Talked About:
00:00 Intro
00:42 Self-discovery after divorce
03:47 Feeling alone in a marriage
06:45 The reality of young marriage
10:28 Prenups and partnership
13:25 Embracing change in relationships
16:42 Redefining masculinity and femininity
20:25 Rediscovering joy and feminine energy after divorce
25:58 Present parenting
29:34 Building a solid co-parenting relationship
37:18 Why Chriselle shared her divorce journey
40:48 Letting go of past self
44:40 Finding strength in vulnerability
48:35 Celebrating life after divorce
50:41 Setting boundaries in the world of social media
1:00:57 Overcoming relationship trauma and trusting again
1:03:34 “You don’t need marriage…”
1:12:07 Who is Chriselle now?

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[sarahex]

Something i see in Gary and Valerias relationship that i think makes it successful (from an outside POV) is that they communicate ALL expectations. All of them. There are no set ups for failure, if Valeria needs something from Gary she tells him. Additionally they have similar definitions for what respect is and are so respectful towards eachother. It's inspiring

[woolypuffin]

It was for me. I can't look at old pictures of myself now and not pity myself. I was miserable all the time, now I can be a sunshine most days.

[Klynker]

Started my separation on November 11th. I needed to hear this as a 32 year old woman who is starting from scratch after 10 years! Thanks ladies 🤗

[smyying]

Side note, I’ve been following Valeria on and off. From this interview, it is magical to see her evolution over time.

[meru.telman]

As a semi-recent divorcee I loved this so much. So many things that Chriselle said resonated with me. I was also completely alone in my marriage and in motherhood. I was a married single mom basically. Granted my ex turned out to be pretty much a narcissist (and I am not describing just a regular egoist). But this was so helpful in ways I didn’t even realize I needed to hear

[plethoraria]

Just found this, and I'm so impressed with how articulate Valeria is, especially with conveying emotions. The spoken word can be such a gift and strength.

Also, Valeria's wisdom and maturity is inspiring. Keep shining and leading the path for others! 🌟

I watched for the first time this podcast and I was hooked until the end of the episode. I’m married and it was so refreshing to hear two women talking so smoothly about the perspective of marriage and divorce today. Thank you so much for sharing this ❤

[katyashvirikasova]

I love this ! I just went through separation and I can relate so much . So happy I choose myself. I am insanely happy now .

[ainatler]

I'm a big fan of Chriselle, I follow her since the beginning. Now i respect her even more! Big hugs from Mexico!

[s.nicole]

This podcast brought me to tears. I felt all the same feelings when I went through my divorce 4 years ago. I hope you find your partner to grow with you. I found mine and I don’t even remember the girl I was back then now that I have my true partner in life

[jaquii]

Absolutely beautiful podcast. I love how open and authentic Chriselle is ❤

[curiouslyunruffled]

This talk thankfully made me realize how I was living in the future in my head, no wonder I was feeling sad in the present. I totally got reminded to live in the moment which is something I stand by. Thank you for this insightful episode, loved it from start to finish. Keep going! ✨

[lalanguyen]

I was so excited to see two women I follow the longest time together! Love the podcast you guys are the best

[mariesanchez]

You and Gary are a team! What a great example of a couple that is together and helping each other! Love how you share your points!!!!

[Kemzozo]

Great podcast - i love the way they were both asking questions and both being thoughtful with their answers.

[AsiaRamadan-jfxs]

She married Allen because it provided her security and as she said, her side hustle exploded. She became of fame and recognition when she was in the older side so she wanted more and travelling everywhere. Seems family and a husband was not in the right time for her. When she talks about a prenup she is implying Allen took her money. And its important to note he was always with the girls while she went travelling so in this case I feel he deserved it. When he said: “you have changed” and its true we can see that, her goals changed, her priorities changed and he didnt marry thinking in her been all of this. Its understandable the divorce but she shouldnt mention this is negative, he has the right to tell her she changed to became more materialistic.

[entirely_ok]

I found this podcast very beautiful!The insights and the wisdom shared in a calm conversation that makes us feel like being part of a lunch catch up date with them makes it relatable and actually allows to think of so many more perspectives. Loved the acknowledgment of we are thinking ahead but actively stepping one step back and focusing on the present moment. And the emphasis on feminine energy and allowing fun (especially after mentioning to have surpassed the ‚man hating phase‘ of the divorce)

[Usersq]

Omg valeria! The amount of people you are helping, guiding through life and motivating is incredible! Thank you so much for this podcast! You are such a role model and an archetype of how women should be. So much love❤ i absolutely adored this episode with chriselle. Keep up the great work🎉

[jaysartori]

That is so true and such great advice about divorce, like you feel it way before you even think of putting pen to paper. It's like a storm coming way before you see it but you know something bad is coming off on the horizon.

[Asia.]

Thank you Valeria ❤ Being in a marriage or divorce doesn't really matter, except our wellbeing and the kids one🌹 There is so much on our plate from both reality anyway, ultimately being healthy, honourable with our intention and happiness are the fundamental pyramid. I wish the best of luck to both of You ❤ I love you