Your Introjects (Inner Voices) are NOT YOU!

One of the most common attribution errors is the mistaken identification of one’s introjects with oneself.

The internal objects and voices that populate our inner world (automatic negative thoughts ANTs are a class of such voices) are not a part of our core identity - but they appear to us to be so.

Therapies - from CBT to schema and gestalt therapies - silence these echos of meaningful others.

[carmelocaramelo]

Once the chatter inside your mind is gone, you feel way different. Some of us at certain point had a chorus of demons screaming at us, and we mistaken them for us.

[gorunsko]

This presentation, prof. Sam Vaknin, brought me to tears of pain and relief. I recognize "the recording" of my mother's voice blaming me for everything happening to her, to my younger siblings and for any boundaries' crossing against me, committed by others. Those introjects are Heavy burden on my shoulders... every time I try to trust myself, (" I just got hurt by some unprovoked hostility"), the interject says:" It is your fault! You shouldn't have stopped to greet neighbor's dog! If you would not been so friendly to this guy's dog, he wouldn't have said xyz to you!" Wow! I see how I got gaslit by both parents and how I ended up married a covert narcissist, who his never responsible for crossing my boundaries. I "make" him do xyz to me. No! enough is enough! Thank you, Sam. May you be blessed with good health, peace and serenity.🙏❤

[joliejolie]

Prof. Vaknin
Let me tell you I am devouring your videos as a hungry soul. Your teaching
heals my heart and broadens my knowledge. It is an honour to be your student albeit not officially. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your sacrifices for the time you put to spread your knowledge to the world. You have lots of dignity and class you never ask for likes and follows…you rarely brag about your high IQ and your studies and books. It would be a dream if you come to Australia 🇦🇺
Lots of love 💕 and please take good care of yourself …humanity needs you

[kevinfischer]

This is Sanatana Dharma. It is there in - at the core of - The Upanishads, The Bhagavad Gita, The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali, etc. and it is vital that psychologists understand it. Thank you for the video

[mysticalgardentarot]

This is me, but I realise this and I tell my thoughts you are not real. But I am a borderline and I fully understand my thought patterns now. But I have so much fear that I can never be of value, I do the abandon before I'm abandoned on myself. I envision the old version of myself in my mind, but I can't get rid of the beliefs.

[alfaunicorn]

I've been thinking about that a lot lately. Thank you.

[angeliquedemeijere]

Love this...listen to one sound only, in the desert of your soul, that of your inner God, the voice that whispers; your authentic Self.

[brainchildabacustt]

Your videos are so informative and qualified. I literally can't listen to the others anymore.

[milvusfilms]

Your videos help me a lot! Thank you very much for your important work, prof. Vaknin!

[catthia]

This was an important missing key 🔑 Thank you. I am finally ready to take the next step. Big breath in and out. 💗

[sarahmichelle]

Can these voices make you freeze? I know there’s fight and flight, but I feel frozen sometimes. I have to look in the mirror and tell myself to snap out of it. It’s the weirdest thing to be frozen…..

[MrMusinus]

lightly and peacfully observing it and being more authentic free from others

[Gordonhermederme]

Highly relevant to my experiences today. THANK you Professor!

[sandralessley]

You nail it and I can understand. You are one of a kind. Thanks for Being.

[lucyh]

Thank you Thank you Thank you. I feel much stronger now!

[irenealvarez]

Thanks for the insight. I thought I was debating myself on a certain subject. Now with this new found information, it all makes sense why I had those after thoughts. I already made a choice, it offended someone, I apologize and don't offend them again. We are all adults. We all have our own boundaries and some people's boundaries are not as big as others. In this life, we learn each other's boundaries as we go.

[imlate]

Funny how I'm the ONLY one who I know that remembers the first time I was able to think with an inner voice.

[CYellowan]

At 1:30, you said it. Automatic. That's exactly it. See, everything is manual in me. This entire concept is completely foreign to me. Then again, we are all different anyways. VERY interesting stuff.

[haikeaintiaani]

i dont have always inner negative voices they are flashes of unpleasant situationts from past and some tims they are sudded and kind a distracting

[delilah]

Professor, where is the link to the video you mentioned near the end?