When Your Partner Feels Like a Roommate

Have you ever felt like your partner is more of a roommate than a romantic partner or spouse? Maybe you two make a fantastic team - getting the laundry done, going to the grocery store, getting the kids to and from school - but it doesn’t feel like a relationship. Psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini talks about what happens when you feel emotionally checked out of the relationship.

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[drpc]

The worst thing isn't being alone.... It's being with someone that makes you feel alone. facts!

[tayoriginal]

Ugh this is my reality 😩
No affection
Just raising kids and running a home together

[amazingbiblefacts-wscript]

In reading comments. I realized that I'm not alone in this kind of situation.

[wendyperalta]

Have you ever been married and feel like your the only one who puts forth the effort in the marriage? Like your married but they are never present or there in all aspects of life. You communicate with them and they don’t speak back. So you feel like your having a conversation all by yourself.

[calgal]

I was married for 25 lonely unfulfilled years. Divorced for 15 self fulfilling, non lonely years. Just because you are single doesn’t mean you have to be

[jennifermichaels]

Doing the second suggestion about telling my partner how I felt actually made my relationship so much worse. In the end though, I realized that there was no way to fix the issue.

[billcaddell]

I have been married for 40 years now and the only thing keeping me from divorcing my wife is the kid's and grandkids. I live a very lonely life and see no way out, sad because I feel like I have missed so much in life. We will most likely be roommates till I die...so sad.

[pinkreik]

Story of my life....🥴😴. Especially when they are non- affectionate.

[solstice]

I'm married but I don't have a husband, I workout, I get male attention so I know for a fact that I'm beautiful and attractive, the man I'm married to just prefers alcohol and TV, I'm done with, I no longer want to work on this relationship, I've been the only one doing any work and it takes two, financial reasons keep me in this relationship I just need to find a way to make this situation livable for me, all the videos I find are about working it out, I don't want to work it out, he's not interested, I want to know how to love myself enough to stay with him without feeling hurt.

[andrebarberis]

These pointers are accurate in every way. Talking is always being sidelined and not taken seriously, in many instances it is being avoided.

[Random-rtec]

Single & dating = happiest days of my life. Marriage = unhappiest days of my life.

[mscandys]

Almost 19 years of marriage. I’m 48 he’s 59. You touched on us. He quit counseling. I’m sick of this lonely shit. I cry cry cry. Two kids are grown and out. 11 year old gets all of the attention. No communication unless business

[sophyroeun]

Don’t be sad 😢 set a goal how much money can you save, money can save your life, husband or boyfriend never last or save your life, but money can . I’m trying to say is take care of yourself first if you in a relationship you don’t know what’s the future gonna be like with that person you’re with. They can get sick of you and leave you, but be prepared for that if they leave you at least you save enough money to take care of yourself. Relationship is a lot of stress and a lot of work. You can love a man but don’t over love him if he leaves you then you don’t get hurts as much. Love your self always and pay 💰 yourself first always.

[GabrielB]

My husband has narcissistic personality disorder symptoms. He hates human emotions and intimacy. he will use sex to control relationships, he will withhold it and use it if he wants something. He will devalue me intentionally

[realtalktherapyreactions]

it almost makes you wonder if living together is a good thing or not

[behindcloseddoors]

Yes. The loneliest I had ever felt was laying in bed next to my husband…… Well now she has to be ex-husband as we are separated as of this week. I had to learn all about narcissistic traits and abuse… All that fun stuff

[BTmomma]

I'm a female in a 17 year relationship with a man who hasn't touched me in 9 years, that means no affection whatsoever, not even a hug. This once romantic relationship is simply a platonic relationship. I've tried talking to him. He tells me "it's not you, it's me". I've been rejected physically by him and told "take care of it yourself" so much I don't attempt to get close anymore. I'm a glorified roommate who sleeps in the same bed but that's it.

[longredroad]

When you get married it is the beginning of the end of sex. The act will be gone someday but before that the emotion, desire and quality will all die.
Being trapped in a dead marriage (38 years into a life sentence) has eliminated any fear of death and being alone

[GBU]

Why would anyone allow that to happen? Any time a woman tried that on me I gave her one chance to fix it or I left. Unfortunately too many people accept or settle for an unhappy relationship.

[danieladenuta]

Spot on, i felt that for 7 years and at my age of 31 i got the reflection of my actual relationship.