How to deal with the silent treatment in a toxic relationship?

how to deal with the silent treatment in a toxic relationship with a narcissistic person. The silent treatment happens when a narcissist or toxic person decides to punish you with a lack of communication.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[scottriedel]

When the silent treatment comes out, it's time to leave.

[wendyfitch]

I just went silent too. Put a big smile on my face, watch TV, bread a book. Oh yes, and I did lots of humming. Boy do they hate to see you happy when their goal is punishment! 😀

[Ezarhia_The_Fulani]

All you have to do is be silent too, smile, laugh, get busy and keep it moving. Narcissistic people can't stand that 😂😂😂

[tehrag.]

I refuse to be in a relationship with someone who gives the silent treatment. It's hostile and controlling. They don't get to decide when we communicate. Unacceptable.

[TheVaultwest]

“They teach you how to live without them.”

Proof of how little they care or how full of themselves they are.

I’m using the distance to heal myself

[JerseyNurse]

After so many years of getting the silent treatment intermittently and not knowing what it was, I finally gave it back and acted like it did not bother me because I am now aware of what I was dealing with. It lasted months, living in the same house. He couldn't handle it, and just like that, the relationship was over. ....

[beastie]

My guy is giving me the silent treatment right now after bringing it to his attention that i know he has been lying to me.... It is exhausting to never be able to talk about how my boundaries get trampled on. He combats my concerns with being loud, name calling, threats, and silence. I am tired.

[ms.generatorsnatcher]

Use the silent treatment to your advantage. It's their loss! If you think about it, their conversations are very surfacy. No depth. Consider it opportunities of peaceful moments. Enjoy them!

[stBorn]

It's interesting to watch how they intentionally do things thinking it's hurting you...The silent treatment is a blessing in disquise and your great escape if you choose to walk away permanently...

[edwinacejnar]

The funny thing is that I have always loved the silent treatment. Like, how can you be such a terrible human being and think that I would have a problem with you not talking to me. 😂

[TC-hyev]

My husband is doing the silent treatment right now and I'm enjoying it, a peace of mind. No talking my head off, no rap music, no complaining, the list goes on, lol. I'm drinking wine and listening to my jazz music.

[jennyk.]

Mine would give me silent treatments often, turn around and tell me I was a terrible communicator 🤦🏻‍♀️

[Cellia]

Mine has been giving me the silent treatment since January of this year Lee. So i immediately went no contact and have been completely silent now for 158 days now. I have been having a party lately! I don’t care! There’s the door! I hope it hits you on the way out bitch! God! My blood pressure is lower and I’m not pissed off and I don’t feel like my eyes are popping out of my head from rage anymore. I have been enjoying all of my hobbies and every aspect of my life now… good riddance to him!

[marcialane]

“Learn how to enjoy the silence”. Brilliant.

[tiffanymorris]

He left emotionally.. several, several months before he left physically.. greatest gift, because I know very well how to live without him

[stylist]

He would give the silent treatment, because he was chatting with someone else, he did the rage Beautiful baby🙏🥰🌺when I was at peace, then go into silence, never knew someone can be so evil and vindictive justifying hurting a woman, really repulsed me

[MarasWay]

4:57 THIS‼️ Thats exactly why Im staying busy and moving forward. While their being spiteful and toxic, Im out LIVING‼️💃🏾

[shawshank]

We be married 39 yrs next Wednesday. Its another silent treatment 8days into it at this moment. The only reason its gone on this long is because im learning from these videos im not grovelling anymore, now that i finally know what I'm dealing with. I have always been the one to go say lets talk, what's wrong omg! Never again. He was so rude to me walked away i just watched him storm off before i could respond ( the usual pattern) i havent uttered a word. I make sure im not in the comon areas of the house when he gets home. Im actually comfortable with this for the 1st time. Coz now i know im busy with a Narc. I actually want out now finally. I have to start learning to respect myself more. Believe that

[tanyajohnson]

Literally one minute he was kissing me telling me how beautiful I was and the next minute. He raged at me about something I had no idea about. When I tried to express myself he told me to get out of his car. He yelled and told me to get the f*** out of his car. Then drove off. Now I'm getting the weird silent treatment AGAIN! Now I'm the bad guy and he's a victim. I've never been so humiliated. Thanks to your insightful videos I've learned that it's not me. He's a narcissist projecting his lifetime of misplaced anger and false securities on me. They have extremely fragile egos and the slightest indifference or misunderstanding or accountability turns me into the enemy and they're the victim. I loved him so much and gave him every fiber of me. I walked on eggs and always handled him carefully and yet it was so easy for him to ghost me and discard me as though I never existed. AGAIN! Thankfully I'm taking my time to heal and recognize my power is to stay away and never let him back in. He will never change. I know this for sure this time. Thank you for helping me heal. Your videos are gold.

[mortischahicks]

My ex loved the silent treatment. He used it as punishment against me. I would enjoy the silence it first it used to hurt me. I got used to it real fast.