6 Ways to Heal Perfectionism

Are you a perfectionist? If you find yourself driven by the intense pressure of making sure things are "just right" you are probably under its influence. You feel you have to make sure your thoughts are "just right," your actions are "just right" and what you produce is "just right." Many are tormented under the pressure of perfectionism, but they are not quite aware of it.

Today I want to bring out what perfectionism does and walk you through a brief journey of what the healing and freedom process can look like in your life.

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[dutchcoiner]

Perfectionism can seriously ruin your life. It did mine. I'm in the challenge of break it since a few weeks and it's tough. But I will get there!

[dreamer]

Ugh when he said "God loves you as you are, even your flaws" I was squirming so hard for a moment and then I started crying.. I really needed this video. Thank you for giving me concrete steps to work on to heal my perfectionism!

[slcollazo.]

Mark, you’re HILARIOUS with your facial expressions, impersonations, and don’t get me started on the Church Lady!!! 😂

One of your gifts, (amongst other things), is DEFINITELY being a Comedian for God.👍

There probably isn’t a dull moment in your family! I love it how God takes our lives of trauma, abuse, triggers, dysfunction, OCD, etc., and turns into a life joy. ❤

[regenaupsher]

I am cracking up in the car on the way to work!! The laugh did it for me. I can admit I am a perfectionist and I am grateful to have come across this ministry to help me alter this mindset.

[Blessednesting]

Literally prayed about this trait in myself yesterday I believe. I’m not type A but have always been very hard on myself for not measuring up in one way or the other. Whether as God’s daughter or as a mother.

I’ve been working through it with a counselor and my husband but have had a very difficult time accepting residual thoughts/feelings/emotions that originated from peer sexual abuse as a child.

I’m trying to allow His love to drown out the lies attached with it all as you mention. I think I’ve taken on the perfectionist attitude in order to gain approval before God, others and myself. I’m slowly learning and truly accepting that we aren’t perfect and we all need a Savior in one area or another and that He loves me regardless if I do fail.

[sherridean]

The reason perfectionist thinking looks at the rules and how to "do it right" is because the personality formed under the pressure of complex trauma remembers that if I do ANYTHING out of the normal, I will be beaten and thrown away(verbally or otherwise). I thought I had learned, walking with Christ for over 30 years, until I made enough relational mistakes and the ministry the me away😢

[NiyasPrayers]

Thank God for Christians mentors, coaches, authors, they understand what we are going through and how we want to please God and be in right stand with Him (possible only through Christ). But the world does not understand our path. They give us temporary solutions and tricks that do not last. Only God knows our soul and what we are going through and why. He wants to helps us and will send us leaders/examples on earth to teach us. The Holy Spirit is the ultimate Teacher, His truth is guiding us and His chosen vessels. Yesterday evening, God reveled to me that I am perfectionist. I would never have though. And today and I find you, Mark, and I am so grateful. I pray God blesses you abundantly with health, wealth to distribute and joy :) You explain things so well. I will continue to follow you and watch your videos. Thank you again. Blessings, Nini

[jennawillingham]

You're hilarious 😂 I love you Bro and Melissa too.. You have both brought so much freedom to me in this valley of the shadow of death season 😭 Thankyou father for how you express yourself so creatively through You're children ❤❤

[ladydonna]

22:20 this tag is for my own use so I can come here & watch this when I need to laugh. Seriously this made me laugh more than anything has in a very long time. So thank you!! 😊 ho ho ho 😂

[thedeekabides]

I’m Santa Claus belly laughing at my problems while I feed a dog and a cat. God is so good!

[dezmondphillip]

Thank you so much Mr. Dejesus. This really speaks to me and I am using this phenomenal information to help me with my walk with Christ Jesus. Thank you for reminding me I am not alone even though I feel like it and I easily forget that I am not. God bless you sir and I will keep you in my prayers.

[Mumsy_Soap]

Hahahaha 16:26 you ask a question... " Does God love all of you??" Reumanating pressured thinking, should be yes, BUT....CRICKETS.
Mark: I can't hear you.
That's cause I didn't say it yet
Thanks for the humor.
Yes God loves all of me
TULA now. I trust Him.

[Dais]

Santa Claus luaghter is one of the best antidotes I've ever heard of, many thanks Mark! :D

[ednasanchez]

The Santa laugh is the best advice ever😄

[donnasantagata]

Hi Mark.
I am literally sobbing as I listen to this video. I’ve been diagnosed with OCD Scrupulosity when I was 29 (now 56) and since I can remember I’ve always wanted children. And I have a boy and a girl. (25 & 23 now). And I totally feel like I’ve screwed up as a parent. Always been black and white in my thoughts. Always hyper religious. Always stressing right and wrong but never had the in between grace to my children, husband or myself. Very very harsh. I HATE MYSELF.! I still have outbursts and I always feel like…. Why can’t I get this right. God must hate me for screwing this parent thing up. Well I know my son hates me. My daughter is doing very well. She is married with 3 kids and she is amazing with them. I always tell her how amazed and proud I am of her. I see how her kids are always smiling and laughing and always feel like a failure. I’ve been taking notes on your videos and I’m so glad you do this. I just need so much help. My flashbacks haunt me.

[miggyg]

Mark, thank you for your messages! They’re hilarious, impactful, and transformative. 👏🏻🙌🏻

[AA-lqpu]

Wow, I just realised this is a major underlying problem that effects all areas of my life. THank you.

[aniya_patel]

I know I am perfectionist, that I feel I need to cure it so I can do the "just right thing" !!

[nicoleanthony]

This is literally the best video on the internet

[Hiimnickw]

Yo, the Santa Clause bit had me rolling. "Mark... you don't know the thought I just had..." 😂😂