Anger and ADHD: How to Build up Your Brakes

Impulsivity is one of the main characteristics of ADHD, and building up our brakes is one of the most important things we can do. Here's the science behind it and 5 things that help.

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Anger and ADHD: How to Build up Your Brakes

[laocoste]

My Brain : "I REGRET NOTHING!!"
My Brain 2 sec later : "I REGRET EVERYTHING!!"

[brighterandgayer]

“ADHDers are impulsive, and not just when we buy office supplies” I feel personally called out

[sunnirobertson]

“We can be very fun…when we’re in a good mood”
Completely true! When I’m in a good mood, people think I’m funny, I’m super nice and outgoing and I love having fun and being playful. However when I’m in a bad mood, I get super nasty and explosive and I tend to disrespect authority.

[jornsyy]

Oddly enough, despite my ADHD making me easily frustrated, I’m described as a very patient person and even work with special needs children. It takes a lot of masking, but it’s very rewarding to know that I’ve learned to suppress these emotions and am able to work with kids struggling in school… who often happen to have ADHD as well. To have first hand experience with the disorder that causes the kids to struggle so hard is invaluable in my ability to connect with the kids and allow them to succeed.

Just… don’t ask me to be patient with myself. If I make one small mistake I’m immediately useless and the worst at whatever task I was attempting… I’m a work in progress 😊

[pokemonmanic]

ADHD sufferer here; I think for me part of what happens when I get mad is I tend to stay mad because it’s embarrassing to get so worked that you intentionally want to stay worked up so the anger doesn’t feel like a waste

[AmyNoelonDyslexia]

My therapist taught me to do an “anger drill”. When I notice I am feeling stressed, I go to my room or somewhere private and do some intense physical exercise while I talk out load about what is going on. I made an 80% improvement in controlling angry outbursts after just one week of doing anger drills. AND I got awesome abs after so many sit ups!

[UmbreonMessiah]

As someone who has lived with ADHD while around unsupportive parents who refuse to learn anything about the condition, these videos are exactly what I needed. I needed to know that I wasn't the freak they think I am. Thank you.

[stagehand]

This is a biggie for me. Emotional dysregulation. Holy Moly. Being diagnosed was the light that shone on this crippling issue of mine. Im new at this walk so these vids help a lot. Thank You from a 57 yr old newly diagnosed...

[lauramarie]

Sometimes i get so angry, that i start shaking as if i was cold or sometimes i self harm out of anger

[antoinettejoubert]

The worst part is, I think a lot of us don't even know we have ADHD and just suffer in silence because we think everyone around us was at a meeting that you weren't invited to because you don't seem to understand or work like the others do.

[ectopasta]

this video is nearly 5 years old, but, often my brakes fail when I'm getting emotionally worked up over feeling neglected. I'm doing a lot better since 2021 started, though. 2020 put me through the ringer way harder than I've ever been, and...now I'm just hopeful, I wanna control my breaks better before I hurt anyone.

[wendela]

I was brought up with the notion that being angry is bad. So I compulsively try and don't show my anger because of an innate fear of being abandoned. So this means I tend to be hugely frustrated and take my anger out on pens, hard drives, anything I can break or hit. But that people won't notice 😆

[snoopygonewilder]

You mean like punching holes in your wall, and realizing 30 minutes later it was a stupid choice, you over-reacted, and now you have to go go to Home Depot and buy a wall patching kit and paint that matches.

I'm constantly having to apologize to people because I'll say something shitty, and immediately realize I've said something shitty... then not being someone who likes to hurt other's feelings, I feel bad about it almost immediately.

[swinxfee]

I tend to get really upset but keep it in and then instead i start crying hysterically....

[Knightviper]

From the colors, the rapid picture changes and added funny scenes. This video not only has great info but its actually well thought out to keep our ADHD in check while we process it. Awesome job

[marquittas.]

Thanks! I'm in my late 40's; diagnosed around 20 yrs. You explaining HOW meditation can regulate ED is revolutionary for me. I'm blown away!

[jamescastle]

I've also learned that 1 when my blood sugar gets low (I'm hungry) and 2 I'm sleep deprived I flip out more easily. I think people with ADHD need more sleep than those who  don't have it, because it takes us longer to recharge our batteries so to speak One of my nephews is the same way

[coopsexperience]

every time I hear "hello brains" and see a smiling face it instantly turns my mood around. your videos have helped my immensely and I check daily for updates. thank

[rohwermusicstudios]

Thanks for the insights! I’m a teacher with a few ADHD students, and I’ve loved watching your videos to understand some of the ways to help my students. I also love resources and tips you’ve shared, because I struggle with mental health issues, and a lot of your advice seems to be universally helpful, too.

[lreevesnyc]

The way the video is presented with a cuteness spin and “ah chucks” totally ignores the agony and pain caused in a relationship. These outbursts of rage are debilitating to the victim, ruin special holidays, destroy the victims relationships with their friends who witnessing this behavior pull back and avoid and stop including you and your partner from social engagements.
I do not live with my partner and after 8 years always believe that this rage won’t happen again. Living apart I
Can take days and weeks needed to recover. My mother died 2 years ago I am an only child of an only child on both sides and no siblings so I have no family. He was my family.
There is no history of someone like this in my life. Grew up with unconditional love so I felt sorry for him and thought my secure stability would make him calm down. It didn’t and now I want to distance myself but that’s so hard living in Manhattan in these times of chaos after COVID ( which took my mother) with no support. I’m 73. When our partner has this disorder over time it gives us trauma which I never had.