Lesbian Advice: What If You Never Find Love?

What if you never find love?

What if nobody we truly desire ever desires us back?

What if there is nobody we ever want, who wants us back?

It’s normal to be afraid that we’ll never find love.

But fears can be dangerous.

And the fear of not finding love is one of the most dangerous fears of them all…

The fear of not finding love is a powerful force that can drive us to doubt ourselves. And when we doubt ourselves we can end up feeling so insecure that we turn women off.

When we act out of fear we do not stand in our power.

When we act out of fear we risk letting out all the worst sides of our personality.

Whether it’s neediness or desperation or jealousy or negativity or anger, insecure behaviors are a huge turn-off to women we meet.

It is normal to feel afraid that perhaps we’ll never find love in our lives.

But we can’t let this fear control us.

Here’s the truth…

We have total choice over the thoughts in our minds.

When fearful thoughts enter our mind that tell us we’ll never find love, we don’t have to listen!

Because I’m going to promise you something…

Love is real.

If you don’t already have someone in your life, it means there is someone on this earth right now who is perfect for you. She’s someone who you will think is so hot (and she’s going to be just as attracted to you as you are to her). And you’re going to think she’s so cool and awesome, and she’s going to find you just as cool and just as awesome. You are going to be crazy about each other when you meet.

This is a fact.

And wherever she is, she misses you just as much as you miss her.

Wherever she is, it hurts her just as much as it hurts you that you are apart.

Believing in love is the key to finding love.

So she needs you to believe in her.

She needs you to be strong and not give up and not give in to fear.

Are you willing to do that for her?

If so, leave a comment below and promise her that you believe in her and that you won’t give up until you find each other.

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[thetranspersonalalchemist]

I appreciate how practical this approach is. But, I want to call out that studies show that single people, on average, are the as happy as partnered people. People in relationships are happier in the first 3-6 months, and then return to their baseline, whatever that was. It’s totally valid to want relationship, but I think it’s important to remember 1. that’s not necessary to be happy and 2. Happiness is an inside job.

[mariagabrielamartucci]

Maybe those ladies in the hallway are not lonely and find themselves happier being single. Does it have to be so bad if we indeed end up alone? We can have a good network on loving friends and family without necessarily being in a relationship. Do you agree? I have failed many times in relationships and now that I'm single I find myself in a peaceful place. Yes, sometimes it gets lonely but the majority of times it is actually fulfilling. I have been in relationships that made me feel lonelier than how I feel now.

[shyguy]

I watched this video months ago when I was lonely. Every night I’d think back to this video and how it made me cry the first time I watched it. And now, I’m here. After spending a whole night talking to my girlfriend and falling even more in love with her. In 7 days it’s our two month anniversary. We live very far apart, but we found each other and we make each other whole. I’m so in love i went outside to watch the sunrise while talking to her. Life changes a lot, and everything is insane with quarantine and BLM protests and the new rights gained by minorities and so much more. But the thing that has kept my smiling through all of the chaos and uncertainty is her. She means the world to me, and things do change. I found love. It’s new and exciting, but it seems like it’s gonna last. I’m optimistic for once.

[JB-hjvj]

Thanks Jordana. This is what I need to hear at the moment.

[beinlovewithyourself]

Congrats to your 400+ subs, JM. And thanks for this video. It's not deep. 😁 Seriously, I still believe I can find love. 🌈❤

[Laffingrl]

I have been alone a very long time...I hope your right Jordana...

[maianhdao]

I thought I was a straight and after a couple of years I slowly discovered that I'm into women more. I failed in my previous relationship and feel like my self-worth is low. I'm just trying to work on myself to feel ok again and it does feel lonely these days but oh well, life goes on I guess. I'm afraid of being alone, yes, but I guess I have to endure it whether I meet my dream woman or not. Thank you for making this video. It does help me a lot because when I look at couples around me seeing how happy they are, I wish that that could be me with someone else, a lovely and caring woman. I'm glad that I found your channel. Sorry for the long ranting, I just feel like to get out my feelings somewhere safe and I believe this is a safe place for people like me. Looking forward to more of your videos.

[prody]

I do not think that finding love means spending the rest of your life with someone. If you live a couple of years with the same person, you'll see how this kills the attraction and you end up not seeing the other anymore. I think that this living-together thing was made for raising children, otherwise it kills the relationship. When it comes to the lonely old ladies, a majority are heterosexual and a lot of times men die sooner... So you can find love and still die alone...Anyway, I have to admit that I've never seen an elderly lesbian couple and this makes me sad.

[twoawesomedogs]

I'm that person who will never find love. I'm tired of being abused, thrown away, cheated on, lied to. There's nobody out there for me at all. I'm not lovable.