Should I Date Someone I'm Not Physically Attracted To?

[Malik_Hoff]

Dating seems impossible...
Not only is it hard to find someone your physically attracted to but you have to be attracted to their personality
Then get along with their family.
Those are crazy odds. I might get one out of 3

[griff]

I had a girl that I did this too... I’ve always been told it’s what’s on the inside that counts (she wasn’t ugly) but I wasn’t sexually attracted to her... we dated for 9 months and she always asked me why we didn’t have sex more often? We finally broke up bc of it... I feel so bad bc she thought it was something about her body. I feel that u need both... it’s not shallow to say but you need the physical and emotional to make a relationship work.

[sXewriter]

This was helpful. I have a co-worker that's the most beautiful person on the inside. She's sweet, educated, and we can talk to each other about anything! But I'm not physically attracted to her in even the slightest bit. I've been thinking about asking her out, but your video is just further verification that it's not the best idea.

[eatmeatandliftweights]

Well said. I have kept on dating guys that were nice with great personality hoping for the spark to develop. it did not, I could not bring myself to be intimated with so I ended the relationship so that I wouldn't waste their and my time. Both personality and physical attraction are important in a partner. if the spark is not there and it does not develop after a few dates i't s no point in flogging a dead horse.

[elozaa]

This situation is one of the worse in the dating realm....Especially if its online dating and said person looks different from their pictures. Like mabey they are heavier set than you thought. But its better to rip off the band aid sooner than later, it saves alot of heart ache and time.

[swatip]

Being single is better than forcing yourself to be with a person u will feel disgused in yourself when you dont want to sleep with him but pretending nd faking u r making yourself fool and other person too
Just be honest

[thedreamworldlives]

The epitome of well said. I see so many saying "wait it out, the attraction may develop later" - NO, if you're feeling like this is a problem. Trust me, it is!!!! LEAVE!!!!

[ashleymacaroni_]

Really wish I was physically attracted to my best friend :( He’s always had a thing for me, but he’s always kept it respectful and we’ve been platonic friends for years. I am so incredibly comfortable and happy in his presence, and the conversation we have is unmatchable. I’ve never connected with a friend they way I connect with him.

Any time I try to date someone, I find myself wishing they were more like my best friend. It’s to the point where I think I may be starting to develop serious romantic feelings for him.

It breaks my heart that the physical attraction isn’t there 😔

[BunkerWise]

I just broke up with my girlfriend today. she was the perfect girl for me in so many ways. We would have a laugh she understood me as a person we had so much chemistry in terms of our personalities being similar. But I wasn't attracted to her appearance. I was with her for over a month and I started to question whether I was a jerk for being so vain. I said I wanted to break things off with her because I couldn't handle the long distance relationship, but really it was because of the lack of attraction on my end. It's extremely rare to find someone who understands you I wonder if I've made a big mistake. Time will tell I guess.

[privateprivate]

I wouldn’t date a guy I wasn’t physically attracted to because I think there’s enough men out there who might feel that the relationship is all about whether they’re attracted to me anyway. I don’t respond to a lot of guys on dating sites, because I already know I’m not attracted to them and the moment you smile or say hello, it’s “on” in their minds. I’m sure many of them simply feel ignored when I’m trying to just not waste my time and theirs. But, I feel like I’d be working hard to launch him out of friend zone in my mind, which might never happen. When you waste time, you waste life. Yours and someone else’s. Don’t do that.

[livyy.vibexz_]

Why would i want to be in a relationship that Im not happy in or the person that i find not attractive.

[joecool]

Follow God and What's inside your heart inside your heart. Don't be with someone you're not attracted too. It won't last. There's someone better out there.

[CharLotte-rjcq]

Perfectly said, this answered my doubts. Thank you!

[adrianchico]

I would never date someone I’m not physically attracted to I just wouldn’t be able to do it no matter how great of a person they even if they have the best personality if you don’t look at least somewhat attractive or someone that just doesn’t do the bare minimum to at least make yourself look presentable it’s a no go it tells me the person is lazy and does not care about the way they look

[elodeagg]

Very nicely put and very helpful. Thank you for this video. 🙂👍

[palindrome]

As a man I would say if it’s not a hell yeah then it’s a fuck no.

[harris]

Thanks man. This girl was cool and had everything I wanted but I just wasn't feeling her physically. I was like damn am I being a douche but good thing I didn't sleep with her. So i dont feel too bad. Gotta cut ties

[AdventuresWithBrie]

Met the nicest guy ever, and even with my high sex drive I don't even want to be intimate with him cuz I am just not physically attracted to him in that way..and the more I think about that and him wanting kids and me not wanting kids the more detached I become and think it's better I just stay single...

[eatmeatandliftweights]

You are right! I have dated guys that I was not physically attracted because they were age appropriate, had nice personality and I did not want to be alone on Sat night. I tried but sparks did not develop, I wasted not only my time but they time as well.

[MariaV]

I am dating a guy who is physically not my type. But his personality is so great, he is kind, understanding, intelligent. It instantly makes him attractive, because I feel comfortable around him, I know he cares about me. The older you get, the less important appearance becomes. You start to value other things. Attraction can be found in different ways, beyond the physical.