What People Don't Understand About the Friendzone

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[emalali]

The key to life is: not to have expectations and be yourself and original. If people don't like that about you then you saved yourself time trying to win their approval and being something your not.

[Brickinasock]

Brilliant clip. Confessions are a movie myth.

[petergriffin]

It’s all so annoying and complicated these days especially with social media having such a huge influence on people. I really hate tbh.

[Olfan]

One big problem with this beautiful loop video is the "invested six months" part. It sounds so much like that's now a failed investment when it really shouldn't. Close friends are awesome even if they don't want to marry you. They are still your friend, and they're just as lovely to be around as they were before your coming-out. If you truly love someone you want them to be happy. If they can't imagine being happy with you as their partner but they're obviously happy with you being their friend, you should be glad not sad. If you "invest time" and then just ditch them entirely for not taking that last step with you, how good of a friend have you really been all this time?

[baconbits]

I literally love you so much. everyone needs to be exposed to thus knowledge.

[Zaphlox]

When I was single I had something like this happen in childhood so I made a rule for myself that if I developed romantic feelings for someone I need to ask them out within 2 weeks so that if they don't feel the same way it's easier for everyone move on from it.

As a woman as well I would prefer if a guy was transparent with me about their feelings early on as well. Knowing a guy has feelings for me isn't something that would necessarily be something that would ruin our friendship, however if a guy was hiding their feelings from me for some time it makes you question the friendship entirely and trust that person less since you've been so blindsided. Sometimes it's not so surprising and you pick up before that point on it and the friendship ends up fizzling out entirely because you end up not wanting to hurt their feelings.

If you want to maintain a friendship I think it is best to be honest and I have a lot of respect for people that can do that. If that person does develop feelings for you in the future they also know that you've been interested in them in the past; though I would not continue the friendship expecting that to happen, it's only a possibility.

[john-icpz]

friend zoning is just foolish. long term, who are you going to stay with? someone you enjoy spending time with - a friend.

lust fades. enjoying someone's company doesnt (unless they grow apart from taking each other for granted)

[frankoconnor]

I’ve been wrong many times in my past and it’s in the open honest reflection that we all grow. ❤

[arminislam]

I feel like even if ur rejected as a romantic partner..u both still can be amazing frnds..it's upto u both how ur gonna deal with the relation after the whole situation..if both of them r matured enough to accept each other's feelings ig they can continue as being really good frnds..bt most of the time we can't deal with the rejection and the person who doesn't like us back as a romantic partner acts like being weirded out

[sadface]

I think this misidentifies the problem. The more some sees you as a friend the harder it is too see you as a romantic partner. Though the challenge is giving up been see as friend to be seen as more then that.

[rubyred]

Had a high school crush since grade 5 ALLL the way to GRADE 10!! Went from best friends to him kinda making a move, but that didn't last long, to getting friend zoned AND, here is the main part, being the third wheel for him and another besties, WHO SITS RIGHT BESIDE ME!! So o viously, they flirt, and talk to each other constantly while I just sit there and smile, breaking from inside every single day, and whenever they would come near me and ask me advice or ask me what the other person likes to get a gift, etc...

And then right after graduation, they broke up becos according to her they zodiac signs are not compatible.

It's been 6 years, and yeah fully over him now.

[Hareluya]

That ending is so unpredicted, I almost spit my lunch out.

[Gmer_Dd]

$iend zone happens to us all. Recognize and move on. They are not the one. You probably imagined stuff about them. Its a fantasy. Has nothing to do with real love... real love comes after real life shared together

[ghostinquisitor]

Common love crush story in anime.
And we, unfortunately for boys, are fully educated that’s the way things go IRL.

[damson]

U gotta like make moves while building that connection you have

[zoeollie]

Every guy ever upset I just wanted to be friends straight up broke up with me at that exact point… like, don’t you want friends dude? I thought you liked me as an individual and liked spending time together… one guy said he “couldn’t see (me) date anyone else, I can’t see you anymore.” I was single! So I can’t imagine it as anything other than ego. Friendships are deep and fulfilling, you can talk about your life, your thoughts, be seen for the little things you do, think, and say. Have someone who knows you. I don’t understand why some men are raised to only have superficial friendships and think all social fulfillment is supposed to come from a single romantic place. If we just step back for a moment: we were already friends. We could just stay friends. Girls have to break up with dudes that confess their feelings because they don’t know how to behave without entitlement to romance after, even though you already said you’re not interested. Wether there was a chance or not, acting entitled to romance directly after leaves you feeling like they were never really thinking about your choice in the matter.

I married my high school friend. If he told me earlier on I would have rejected him because: I had a lot of abusive boyfriends and it made me an angry reactive person and I didn’t want him to be hurt by that, I only saw him as a peripheral option at the time if on the table at all. So instead we were friends for four years, senior year it was clear he liked me, and he didn’t pressure me about it. By graduation we were going steady, our first date was three months before graduation. The point is he didn’t scare me off with high expectations so I had time to really imagine a future together and choose for myself. By starting with friendship and trust without expectations, we have a much closer bond and I feel respected and seen for who I really am, not just what I can do for him.

Edit: we’ve been together eight years! We have two children. :) yeah I would have said no as a freshman but the point is because we started friends things changed and he could circle back. I love him so much and I’m so happy to one day grow old together. We do what we did as friends still, go on walks, play guitar together, write songs, friendship was a good foundation. I seriously think people grow no matter what and being married is about seeing the trajectory and life the person wants and choosing to grow together towards each other. I just wanted to give hope to people in the friends zone. Like don’t count on it, don’t act entitled, but things could very well change over time.

[iamhugry]

Sysiphus relationship loop doesnt exist

Dr k: hold my psychological knowledge

[Thatnormalted]

You are getting too comfortable again

Remember what happened last time

[brooklynnmcloud]

I think the term friend zone was cute but now people act like it’s a punishment

[Sucellusification]

That I learned, I think, and that's why I have several female friends