Get Rid of Self-Limiting Beliefs 27/30 How to Process Emotions

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In this video you’re going to learn how to let go of self-limiting beliefs, how to stop labeling yourself, how to stop getting stuck hating yourself, and how to find a healthy sense of self.
The labels you give yourself, whether you call yourself broken, stupid, bad, or even if you give yourself positive labels, these are just like painted-on cattle guards: they are self-imposed limits. And today, I’m going to teach you one way to let go of them.

Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health.
In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction.

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[KrystalNCMA]

I feel like listening to you for 15 minutes is more helpful than speaking about my problems for an hour with a therapist. Thank you so much for being a positive instrument of God.

[jessIe]

This helps with illnesses too. "I have trouble with xx...but i am not the illness."

[ascia]

1.Notice how you label yourself write them down.
2.Try to step back from them. Practice watching thoughts.
3.Explore these labels
-ask yourself Which one of these are helpful or which one of these beliefs getting away of change or grawth.
-hilght the labels that serve as an excuses for you.
4.Consider changing these labels by positive mindset.
5.Get a perspective of a therapist or a safe friend.
6.Let go of false sources of self- worth like perfectionsim, approval, comparison...
7.spend less time obsessing about your identity and your ego and more energy focusing on your values.
Thank you ❤️

[ginenelafontaine]

I wanted to add that on my kindergarten report card the teacher wrote in a note to my parents, "Ginene is very anxious for such a young child." I'm 70 years old now and instead of saying that I'm experiencing anxiety, I've been telling myself that I am an anxious and depressed person my whole life. Wow!

[jenniclaire]

She is strangely, spookily wise for such a very young person.

[mouse]

I wonder how many of these comments you read?

Anyways, I wanted to thank you. I had my life changed by therapy back in 2019. I was having a difficult time with friends, family, and feeling like a failure, but managed to grow past everything and develop this sense of peace. Last year, that sense of peace ended up slipping away from me and I ended up struggling, once again, with friends, family, and feeling like a disaster. I was put on a waitlist for therapy, but I'd have to wait months and I was in crisis mode. I am so, so grateful that this playlist is here. Your advice and guidance allowed me to rebuild who I am and set me back on course to who I want to be. I've been recommending it to people in similar straights as I was in.


It's also small, but I find it interesting when you bring up your relationship to your religion. Each time God comes up, I feel my own hackles raise because I'm so used to people trying to take every opportunity to proselytize. I was raised evangelical, but turned out queer and atheist, so you can imagine where that stress comes from. While I don't imagine that I'll be able to let my guard entirely down, I do appreciate how your beliefs come across as both incidental and sincere. It's pleasant to be exposed to someone who lives by kindness when all my life I was exposed to faith being a weapon. Thanks again for everything. I do hope your God blesses you. :)

[liamanderson]

I wish I heard this 20 years ago. Beautiful. Thank you❤

[yoyox]

I'm teaching a friend of mine Irish, and something you said reminded me of what I'm going to teach her next week.

In English, we describe feelings and emotions as things that we are; for instance, "I am happy", "I am hungry", "I am worried", etc. But in Irish it's phrased a little differently: "Tá áthas orm" literally means "Happiness is on me." "Tá ocras orm": "Hunger is on me." "Tá imní orm." "Worry is on me." and so on and so forth. These feelings and emotions don't make up the entirety of who we are, as the English language implies; they're just things that we experience for a time, that come and go like leaves or snowflakes falling on our head, as Irish more accurately gets at. (Not a criticism of the English language btw - I just love the little differences between languages that make life more interesting!)

Your video was a really good reminder that we don't have to believe the stories that we tell ourselves, and that even if we do have some very real limitations with our circumstances or state of health for example, we can still choose to focus on what we can control and on what we're grateful for. Thanks a million for this series, or as we say in Irish, go raibh míle maith agat! :)

[muhairwealbert]

This is so beautiful, I must confess ve just spoken direct to me I need to pick myself up and start doing the right thing. Many thanks Ms Emma Lots of love from Uganda.

[ryanharuo]

This is so powerful and eye opening thank you very much for this!

I like to use the shirt metaphor when I start judging myself as well as others. I ask myself: am I this shirt? Obviously no bc I can change my shirt if I feel like it- it's totally my choice. I can wear a red shirt, blue, etc. Thoughts work the same way. When we identify with our thoughts, it's like identifying with our shirt- it doesn't define us and we can change it if we so choose to.

To change our reality, we must see that the judgements we place upon ourselves are the same judgements we place on others, and vice versa. Life is a mirror. When we treat ourselves with unconditional love, we do so to others as well. However, never pressure yourself to be more loving, for that too is a form of judgement. Rather, write down the consistent beliefs and thoughts you tell yourself and determine how someone else would feel if you told that to them or even someone who is experiencing the same specific challenges as you. Like a passing cloud, thoughts come and go. Just take a deep breath and let them pass. They always do. If you were your thoughts, when they fade, so would you, and yet you remain. You are more powerful than you realize!

[ridjf]

Really good video, I'd give it 5 stars if that were still a thing on Youtube.
Instead of saying "I am an introvert" I like to take on an observer viewpoint of "I have parts of me that are as a social animal, and enjoy having food, water, and a sense of community"

[gerlindechristina]

Painted cow cattle guards is about the best analogy I have heard, ever! You are so creative, Emmal - love it. Thank you!

[danimolusco]

Woah, that feeling of predestination is something that rules my life, I'd never seen anyone articulate it so eloquently and I didn't even realise it was a common experience🤯

[sarahblunden]

Been labeling myself saying "I'm a failure" "I'm stupid" "I'm an idiot" "I'm a bad mum" This has opened my eyes. I'm definitely keeping a check on it now

[shyhouseplant]

Not me having to check the title of the video again after you jumped straight into talking about cattle guards and agriculture 🤣🤣

For real though, these videos have actually been a godsend during the pandemic and have been helping me so much as someone who can’t afford therapy rn and is living in lock down. I’m taking notes during every video like a good little student 😅 Thanks for making these lessons freely available and always taking the time to explain topics in depth. It’s been helping me more than you’ll ever know and I suspect it’s the same for a lot of other people watching too. You’re a gem!

[iloveyellow]

You do know just by discussing these things and also your anxiousness topics you're not only helping us and my friends( I actually recommend your channel everytime) you're also making other people whos so deep in the "dark" inch by inch understand themselves and even saving a life.

THANK YOU FOR THIS I dont know about the others but I am so thankful your channel exists

Be safe and healthy thank you :*
sending digital hugs and love from Manila

[SaveTheEcosystem]

Omg you are like a modern healer.

After this video was over I was able to listen to my thoughts and I recognized I was setting myself up for failure. Wow just wow.
You literally made it so I could let love in and rationalize my thoughts and emotions. You are an angel!

[mn]

The best video on Youtube about limiting beliefs! 🙏👍👌

[elkanaharthur]

Emma, thanks for sharing this message of HOPE and not allowing us to wallow in our broken past. I am a new creation!

So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation.
2 Corinthians 5:16‭-‬19

[georgiabandy]

I love that your a spiritual person. I have not found many doctors that are in my area. Your a jewel. Thank you. You have helped me so much.