6 Signs Your Love is One Sided

Is your love selfish? How do you know if you’re mistaking your attention and desire for someone as love? Maybe without realizing it, you’re only focusing on your needs and fulfillments? Perhaps it’s not true love after all, but a selfish relationship with so-called ‘selfish love’. Whether you think your partner is the culprit, or you suspect you may be being selfish or possess selfish tendencies, here are a few signs of selfish love to help you out.

Writer: Michal Mitchell
Script Editor & Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Zyan Méndez
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[sickandtired]

my parents are like this with me and it's emotionally exhausting

[anaghashriram]

1. They talk over you
2. They don’t ask about you or your day
3. It’s always their way
4. They control you with their rules
5. They don’t listen to your opinion
6. They’re always taking but never giving back

[namelessflower]

"Selfish love"
I think it's not selfish love.
It's just a selfish partner.

[frozen_eclipse]

#6 hurts a lot. when you put so much effort, time, money, energy and get almost nothing in return.. my cat sucks

[alialtersaccounts]

Ask yourself these 5 questions

Are they gonna give you up?
Are they gonna let you down?
Are they gonna run around and desert you?
Are they gonna tell a lie and make you cry?
Are they gonna tell a lie and hurt you?

Continuation of last part:
We’ve known each other.. for so long. Your hearts been aching but, you’re too shy to say it. I don’t know what’s been, going on.. but you know the game, and we’re gonna play it!
And.. if you ask me how I’m feeling.. I’d tell you but you’re, too shy to see.

*NEVER GONNA GIVE YOU UP*
*NEVER GONNA LET YOU DOWN*
*NEVER GONNA RUN AROUND AND DESERT YOU*
*NEVER GONNA MAKE YOU CRY*
*NEVER GONNA SAY GOODBYE*
*NEVER GONNA TELL A LIE AND HURT YOU*

And thank you, for the likes.

[IKEMENOsakaman]

On one side, people say "you shouldn't let your partner trample on you", but on the other side, we learn "don't be a selfish lover, give and fulfill their needs too". The balance is hard!

[TheLeah]

Damn I am selfish. No wonder my boyfriend called me selfish. Let me go apologize to my man right now and start listening to him.

[datboi]

1. They talk over you 0:41
2. They don't ask about your day 1:13
3. It's always their way 1:53
4. They control you with their rules 2:38
5. They don't listen to your opinion 3:13
6. They're always taking, but never giving much back 3:42
I hope I could help! (:

[Mel-skio]

Just a little disclaimer for ADHDers, the first point doesn't apply. Constantly interrupting people is a form of verbal impulsiveness that does not make you selfish. I used to watch this video and felt so bad because I keep interrupting people, but not because I was not interested but because it firstly just came out and secondly I was afraid that I would forget it and then wouldn't know what to say next and then look stupid

[anyavanesa]

My brain : omg break it off
My anxiety : NONONONONONO-
Me : y'all. Please agree on smthng.

[pyschologygeek]

Here are tell-tale signs of a selfish lover. He expects you to be okay with having sex whenever he wants. It's all about his desire and convenience, and if you say no, he makes a big deal of it. ... He'll put in effort when he wants sex, but otherwise, he plays hard to get. It's always quick and dirty with him.

[DrLizListens]

Unclench your jaw
Take a cleansing breath in
Exhale what no longer serves
This is a positive sign.
You are beautiful. You are brilliant. You are worthy of the love of your dreams. May your worries wash away and you find pockets of peace throughout your day 💗 Dr. Liz

[Gilded-girl]

I thought my husband had serious narcissistic tendencies with trying to make all the rules and holding everything to a high standard. But I was confused by his generous gifts and sweet way he listens and calms me down. Then we realized he has Aspergers and well- that’s a whole other ballgame.

[hey_this_is_a_handle]

Fun fact: fifty shades of grey was a twilight fanfic.

[amberd.]

Ugh 9 years and I tolerated this for 7 of them.. I just thought if I was selfless enough, he'd realize how selfish he was and finally appreciate me.. I feel sick remembering it sometimes..

[knucklesfieryheart]

I’m like this a lot I’m trying to be better with my boyfriend.

[estherkissoon]

Soon enough everyone the whole comment section will have time travellers :l

[finalarbitrator]

Does 'love' even exist? Most of what I observe everywhere is just people pretending that they love each other because they need someone to ease their loneliness and their selected partner is just the best they could do at the moment.

[ItsAnOldCroneLife]

This was definitely helpful. I left the relationship a while ago, but when I look back and diagnose not only the selfish person I was with but that I was in love with an image of what I believed he was and not who he truly was. And, yes, he was definitely a narcissist.

[ranapratap]

Trying to make people aware on the Valentine's Week 🤔