The Reality Of Being With A 'High Value Man'

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[profwaynewsmith]

What one values says a lot about how they see themselves. I didn't care about my wife's external qualities (beauty fades, incomes can change), it was her heart, her trustworthiness, and her intelligence that has kept me married for 25+ years.

[stephensams]

I'm 68 years old and I had never heard these terms until a few years ago and I've got to say, it leaves my head spinning watching these women. As far as being high value, I think a lot of women have different ideas of what that means to them. I've been married for 38 years and I'm glad that I''m not dealing with dating scene any longer : )

[omyota]

39 seconds in and I'm chuckling. Yes, a high value man is going to want to be with a high value woman. This shouldn't be a surprise.

[marissa.h]

i absolutely agree, when i started dating my fiance i was very surprised to learn that i did not have healthy relationship skills. my fiance always called me out when i was acting disrespectfully, he tells me all the time that he wants the very best for me and every piece of constructive criticism is to help me be better. not only for him, but mainly me. it is very hard to continually work on yourself and learn new things that can be fixed, but i am such a better person now because of him and he has taught me so much. high value men will shock you to your core and lots of women may not be ready to hear that they have work to do.

[su-minoon]

I follow your YouTube postings because I have 2 young adult sons who are dating. Reflecting on my dating experiences over the decades from my 20’s to my 60’s, I find that the older I get, the more independent and secure I get, the more education and success I attain, the more financially secure I become, etc., the more I don’t put up with crap and quick to reject women. I don’t need women who bring drama into my life. I move on without giving them a second chance. I tell my sons to do the same. Gather up your toys and move to a different sandbox if a girl does not play well.

[travisscott]

Yeah, whenever I bring up ideas of personal progress or goals or responsibilities to some girls I've dated, literally just flies over their head. I feel like there are many out there who want to just float along and have a guy give them stuff.

[NiTeFiSe.collie]

A 'High Value Man' is when one year into our marriage we experienced a catastrophic event and he was RIGHT BY MY SIDE. It took us years to recover and it was very difficult. Neither one of us was going to bail or let the other down. 17 years later, we are stronger than ever.

[Metatarsus]

This is why men are putting more value on reciprocal effort at all stages of attraction. High value men usually have the most to lose but nobody likes being used or taken for granted.

[yongkysiaw]

It really is cringe calling rich dudes as "high value".

[moleahy]

I'm an older guy and have noticed that most women want to date a very successful man and to them I answer be careful what you wish for. If a woman wants to be loved, adored, prioritized, and maybe even put up on a pedestal she is far more likely to get that from Joe Average than Joe Highly Successful. Successful Joe prioritizes himself. His needs and his wants and that's why he's very successful. He's loved himself for far longer and far better than he's ever going to love her. And that's not going to change merely because she shows up. Too many women nowadays have a very inflated sense of their values. They all think they deserve nothing less than that very successful man. But the majority of these guys have lots of options and they aren't going to be particularly enamored of any one woman. If anything, he'll think she is very very lucky to be with him.

[michaeloconnor]

I totally agree about the term "high-value man" being worn out. I've noticed that can mean either a man with a lot of money or a man who's emotionally mature and secure in himself (or both), and I have to try to read between the lines to figure out which one they're talking about which is annoying.

[jtrojan]

Seems that A high value man has become a label for men that many women are willing to share. These man possess the looks, success, money and life style that women are attracted to. No mention of these men having integrity, being honest and respectful in their interaction with other people. Women have posted lots of videos on Tik Tok about their disappopintment that the men they desire did not want them.

[davidpeel]

A high-value partner is someone who will stick by you when the going gets tough. Everyone loves you when you're winning. The person that stands by you when the chips are down is a high-value person!

[David-qnot]

Your takes are spot on. But more importantly, your delivery is easy to listen to and makes people wanna watch the next one. Thanks for your thoughtfulness, calm demeanor and integrity. So refreshing.

[maxwillson]

I know a married couple that are multi millionaires and they rarely post to social media. Their life is so busy, they don't have time to post to social media. They don't show their mansion or anything on social media. You wouldn't even know they're multi millionaires if you saw them walking around Walmart. They look like normal people.

[selfdefenseacademy]

I think it is important for women to understand your last statement about having more than looks. A man that is seeking a great quality long term relationship knows that looks change over time. Attractiveness that transcends the physical aspect is what keeps the relationship engaged and healthy in the long run.

Invest in more than just your physical beauty.

[Jacobtube]

Hi courtney,
New viewer here, awesome message you are conveying here, so appreciate it. Coming from a long line of strong masculine men in my life. War vets, business owners, all married 20 years plus. I've always been taught and shown. A mans value in all walks of life is whether it be military, business, or even jail. Is his word. Because if you have nothing, at least be sure your word is your bond. It's powerful and shows integrity and trust. When i met my wife, i told her who i am and what i am, and what i can provide as a man. And I've never let her down. Never. Being 10 years younger than me, my leadership and showing "doing what you say." is important, and she now lives by this and has made her and my life something to be proud of. In short, if all else fails, be what you say you are. Do what you say you'll do and never break a promise.

[leonh]

For 6 years I tried to keep my ex girlfriend accountable and raise the standards for our relationship. When i would call her out on things she would consistenly misinterpret them and say she would never be good enough for me. When in reality, i just wanted her to improve.

[TheSheepdog]

Courtney - Your perspective on relationships, style and what is important is refreshing. I, for one, envy the happiness that your husband must have due to being in a relationship with you.

[stardream]

I fell into the trap of getting "holding accountable" and "expectation" mixed up in my relationship (especially emotionally), so I appreciate you using them distinctively.

And, yes, I find all these terms (alpha, beta, omega) a joke. We should all be high value people, it's just a matter of do we want to be better than we were yesterday.