PRIVATE Men Are MORE LIKELY To Be Partner Shamed

[MrCovi]

Red flag if she is worried you'll find out what she says about you in public.

[brendancoulter]

"I was really worried you were gonna find out about Tictok" Not what you say if you are treating your partner with respect.

[briancasey]

I was raised, "don't put your business in the street", and "don't do business with anyone who does." This has served me well for 72 years.

[christopherduncan]

If you're "worried about" your partner finding out about something you're doing, it's because you know it's wrong and you shouldn't be doing it.

[ShadowRulah]

If you’re worried about getting caught you’re doing something wrong.

[OMartinez]

Meanwhile, my fiance is a private person who barely used social media, and it seems it makes her a better person simce she doesn't let outsiders influence her thoughs

[randomuser]

Note to self: have secret social media accounts for lurking

[daycrow]

i am reading “ self made man “ by norah vincent who played as a man for a year. it is so validating for a woman to see first and how horrible women generally are towards men

that isn’t paraphrasing. she literally states women treat men horribly because of their own poor choices which creates a cycle. most guys already know about her but more women need to read this book to see we are being 100% honest

[ChevyConQueso]

I gave a speech as best man at my buddy's wedding, and in it, I gave some advice learned from my own marriage. Don't talk ill of your partner to anyone, especially friends and family. Their entire impression of you outside of spending limited time with you, is based on what your spouse says about you. It's all they have to go on. Your partner could be awesome 99% of the time, but if you're only venting about the negative things that happen in the 1%, they'll think that's how it is ALL of the time. It's all they have to go on. Don't make your spouse's reputation negative by forgetting to talk about the good things, often. Most people make this so much worse by venting on Facebook and similar platforms.

[GreatStar]

Yet if a man did this same thing to his wife, it would be blown up on social media as abuse.

[Zso-VIII]

People who equate shame/guilt to whether they get found out are disturbing.

[dbird]

If this women is a wife… that’s her mulligan. If she’s a gf or fiancé… she’s gone. She has demonstrated her true self. There is absolutely no justification for this kind of behaviour and betrayal.

[Bluejsa]

Theyre never sorry they did it only they got caught. Attentions a hell of a drug to them.

[ddevil]

That's when you show her the door and tell her to kick rocks. Then find someone who respects you and your relationship. Which isn't easy to find nowadays I'm 39 and still haven't found it.

[robmckinney]

Its sad and ridiculous to know social media has all this for posterity. Family, partners, everyone gets to watch and hear, "as the stomach turns."

[nicklapallo]

My partner doesn't have social media and the concept of doing... ANY of this shit has literally never occurred to me. She doesn't like pictures of herself, but doesn't fret if I take a photo of her because she knows I'm not gonna blast it. Why tf would I squander that trust??

[veronhoness]

I wouldn't say "empowered, " but rather a sense of "entitlement!"

[Shivris]

I’m a very private person. I don’t tell anyone my business and if my partner put me out there like that for the world to see then she wouldn’t be my partner anymore. I don’t play that bs.

[TheyCalledMeT]

Public partner shaming is a violation of trust on the level of adultery

[PhillyChzStak]

You know, it's never "positive" channels these people run, like "quirky behaviors I love about my boyfriend/husband" where they show appreciation (even if it is extremely strange to do it this way, in my opinion), but "negative" where they rag on their partner behind their back.