Competitiveness Psychology

Being competitive is completely natural! In fact, it's in our nature to be somewhat competitive. But at some point, competitiveness does have a cost. This video discusses the psychology beneath competitiveness and what differentiates healthy and unhealthy competition.

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This video was created by Barbara Heffernan, LCSW for educational purposes only. These videos are not diagnostic and provide no individual consultation. Consumption of these materials is for your own education and any medical, psychological, or professional care decisions should be made between you and your primary care doctor or another provider that you are engaged with. Barbara Heffernan is not available for individual consultation via YouTube, social media, or email, and provides services only in the manner mentioned above.

☀️☀️CHAPTERS☀️☀️
0:00 Where does competitiveness come from?
2:20 How competition motivates us
4:06 Healthy vs. unhealthy competition
9:39 The 3 deep issues beneath competitiveness

[tveltvel]

This is GOLD
i always considered my self non competitive even though i want to compete i just didn't believe in myself, funny when i was in competitions (bc i had to) and i would win i would still not feel happy and think that i don't deserve it and my work is not good and sloppy plus my imposter syndrome comes in telling me that i will literally get caught one day, bc of all this i become very anxious and stressed to the point of physical illnes I developed eczema, cycts ... All of that bc of this
this video really helped me observe my behavior and see my self in a new light it is helping me pinpoint what i need to work on in my self so i could become happy, thank you doctor 💜

[sheetalkawali]

This video has arrived at the right time when I was caught in unhealthy competition with my sister. Even I am surprised and shocked to see my such thoughts and emotions. I was miserable and looking for help and you are there providing support. I am blessed and great full to you 🙏. Also eager to attend tomorrow's 12 pm webinar.

[vickyg]

I have twin grandsons that are on the spectrum.
They are very competitive with each other and with their 9 year old brother.
The youngest brother is especially sensitive and does not take “losing well.”
When we applaud the boys in their efforts and not focus on the “winning “ they argue with us and each other looking for affirmation of their success . The argument between the two boys is so intense that unless we declare that they both “won”, the youngest sulks and refuses to participate in any further activities!
We do try to focus on the activities and not focus too much on the outcome.
Regardless, the boys insist that one “won” and that the other “lost”.
Any suggestions?
Thank you.

[Poppy-yxjs]

What about backstabbing people who are sabotaging you behind your back?? I don’t compete with anyone- and I’m still very sad my peer group felt like sabotaging my life so I don’t have a life. I usually run my own solo race - I don’t pay attention to others- and no - I never had any family dynamics with competition- my brother was usually happy for me and I would be happy for him - neither parent is competitive. My dad is intellectually gifted - so is my brother- many of the kids I grew up with too since we were kids from academia. I never saw unfair behavior. I am shocked when people find it ok to do terrible things to people and think they have won . I never have cheated to get somewhere - I think people just are who they are - I am talented in a multitude of areas but I don’t see the point in seeing people around me as competition- maybe that’s a problem. It hasn’t always helped to not see the people around me as wanting to take things from me - including sabotaging my wedding- job - and other important things in my life.