I HATE this about Thai men *trigger warning* #AMWF

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Hi my name is Lilly and I am an American expat living on the island of Koh Samui in the gulf of Thailand for the last 9 years. My husband is Thai and his name is Wat. We have two boys named Luke and Leon and a new baby girl named Lyla. Nam is our Nanny and she is like family to us. She is from Myanmar and has worked for us for over 7 years.

[anitatheuil]

Don't worry Lilly! He will always be by your side. He is a good father and he is a super hero!! He went thru the window of the bathroom to save his baby boy 💪💪😆...Wat! 👊👊👍

[jesscolton]

My Thai fiancee is the most supportive man I've ever met. He does everything he can when I have any kind of pain. He's the only reason I've ever considered having a baby (haven't yet). I would say my Thai guy goes above and beyond any American guy I've been with! There are perfect gems out there. Not all Thai guys are the same.

[shantatendulkar]

Lilly it's not just Thai men who can't handle pain or such a crises, there are many others from different countries who are the same. You have a lovely family & hope that Wat gets an American passport soon too. He is a very caring father.

[sandrapadmindra]

I can totally relate to your experience. I have been married to a Thai for over 20 years. Asian men have been brought up to be responsible and protective over their family. Nurturing, nursing, changing diapers, feeding just do not fall under that umbrella. Not because they don’t want to but they feel we do a better job at it. So I try to encourage him rather than making him inept. When I was giving birth, his words of encouragement was “ you can do it. Julie gave birth to a 10 pound baby, so I know you can too. “ omg ..The cuss words that were flying around in my brain

[coffeebreakie]

I’m Thai and I really related with that. My dad is in his 90’s and has been just like that too, like when I was a kid, sometimes I got headace and cried he didn’t come to hug me but telling me not to cry because it never help and told me to take medicine. I know he loves us so much from hard working and always the kids first before themselves. It’s just about his personally is kind of tough sometimes. So I can tell from watching many of your video that Wat is genuine and has a nice heart and love you and the kids so much. And it’s hard to find Thai guys like this in Thailand because many of them nowadays might be so sweet at first and then change when being together longer.

[pete]

I’m Thai!! I think it’s nothing to do with Thai or any nationalities. It’s has to do with their personality. I’m sure there are many people like that not just a Thai guy!!

[shalom]

You made the right decision to have a C-section. Cultures are different. Wat is a great husband

[junebarnick]

Lilly you have a very caring husband 😘 gorgeous kids. I love watching your family 👪 stay happy, healthy and safe.

[hrlkt]

Wow you really surprised me I didn't watch the video yet but just the fact that you lived there for 9 years among foreigners, arguably not better than living in a two-room studio in LA and just the fact that you have that level of courage and confidence I admire you truly

[margieezeanyim]

Don't feel bad. I married to a Nigerian man, he acted the same. That's what we call cultural differences. I noticed that those who were brought up in tougher circumstances likely to hide their emotions n take pain quite differently. It hurts our feelings really if u don't understand the reasons behind.

[ckvbver]

Oh! Lilly, you shouldn't worry about that at all. Wat is such a wonderfu man. Every man is different and every woman is different. He loves, cares for, and respects you. He takes a good care of his beautiful 3 children very well. You have such a lovely family.

[shepherdboy]

It's good to express your feelings and release that stress. It's good for you to prevent postnatal depression.

[wandapowell]

Nam is an absolute pleasure love her smile and laughter! A lot of joy in your home❤️

[mayi]

Girl you’re not alone. It happened to me, my husband said to my sister, “I’m so tired I wanna die”. So you’re not alone and it’s a lot of Men are like that.

[jeni_bean]

Thank you for sharing. It is not just Thai men I believe most (not all) asian men are not good with relating or having empathy not only to pain but emotions in general. Its part of the asian culture to not tap into emotions much less acknowledge and express them outwardly. Also it depends how they were raised but generally that is like that. Thats why the mental health and trauma in the asian culture effecting and upbringing of children has past down generational curses and bondages. I appreciate you being open about it especially for someone who is not asian because it confirms a lot of what I have learned and seen growing up. It's sad but it's only Jesus who can heal those closed or broken areas of people in general. I am encouraged to see that you bring your faith and prayer into your family.

[crystalax]

Hi Lilly, I’m so sorry to hear all the hardships of your birth story with Luke. I used to be a Maternal/Newborn nurse in America and some American men are like this too, believe it or not. I’ve seen my pregnant women/postpartum women give these dads “death stares” across the room as these dads sleep away. Some even sleep through their newborns crying while the moms are the one doing everything 😢 It’s not all like this of course, but these types of men are everywhere lol. I hope Wat has learned from this and becomes better :)

[crazyinart]

Please don't hate him..Asians. men are like that..but they shy to show emotion...Watt is a lovely man to you and a good dad...

[mazivictorokezie]

I wouldn't sleep with my wife in the labour room. I went in there with her each time. I remember she would ask me to go back home and relax that she would handle everything. I would refuse and still hang around the place. For me if my wife is heavy am also heavy with her. Not easy road to travel though. Thank you Lilly for understanding and forgiving.

[patiencemtetwa]

Wow! I can relate to this story. It's very hard to be with someone without emotions. You love them, but there's a moment as woman you need someone to tell you ( we're going to get through this and yet nothing)..I guess really it's understanding the culture difference, the bringing up of that person, and how much you love them to take it all in... Also, just so you know, it's not only Thai man, it's happening to other cultures too. It has happened to me, You have a beautiful family Lily, wish you both well as a family ♥️🌻

[qutymakaya]

Wat is a great husband and father to your beautiful family. You have great people surrounding you Lilly♥️ Bobo and Nam are both adorable.