Reaction To Unique German Parenting

Reaction To German Parenting

This is my reaction to German Parenting.

In this video I react to German culture by reacting to parenting in Germany and how German parents are unique.

[Blue_Dodo]

It's not about not sharing toys. It's about not letting other kids just take your stuff. If you want to play with my kid's toy, ask first and the kid decides. Its more about the Independancy

[hannahm.b.]

The thing about the sharing (the way I see it) is that if someone walks over and just takes your stuff its not actually sharing, it's tolerating that behaviour without boundaries. The goal for a child is beeing willing to give the toy. In my experience sharing is practised with communal "toys" like the swing. Explaining that you have to wait until the other child is finished but that they have to give others a turn too.

[JasminMernica]

I‘m from Germany and living in Switzerland. The children here are very independent too.

Some months ago my husbands relatives from Kosovo visited us and we went on the kindergarten playground (it’s open during holidays). My son (5y) jumped around and started climbing to the top of the climbing frame. Husbands aunt was mortified and said:„He’s going to fall.“ I looked up for a second and answered simply: „He did fall one time. That didn’t happen again, because he knows, how he doesn’t fall down.“
How should he learn from his mistakes, if I putting him in cotton balls?
I did fall from trees, but I’m very much alive. 😂

[maja-kehn]

I workred in German Kindergarten for over 10 years and always had the philosophy of if the kids have the strength to climb up somewhere themselfs they they were fine doing it because than they also have the strength to come down by themself and also help themself if it gets more tricky. Of course one of us staff members would be always close by just in case but we let the kids explore and try out things.

[groundzero]

The trick is to let children be as independent as possible and allow them to learn from mistakes.
Usually works out very well.

[TheKampfschaf]

My parents always said to not go cheap on two things, tires for the car and shoes for the kids.

[nebelland]

From my working experience in kindergartens we started being more concerned, too. No open candles anymore, often no climbing on trees anymore…. and so on. We are not allowed to use the little trampolines anymore, if no staff member has a certain qualification for it (I used them for years without special training and without accidents….).
Personally I believe we go in the wrong direction with that. We don’t trust children anymore as much as we used to.
About the fence: maybe I am wrong, but it seems to me that these kind of fences are less available in cities today than they used to be. Also the smaller ones in the front gardens. They used to be a great training for balancing practice. Those friends of Emilia probably got that kind of balance training on lower stone fences from little on. They do that as toddlers, therefore the confidence when they are older (if they are not afraid of heights).

[Annie-exge]

A lot of German parents buy kid's clothes second hand for a song or even get them for free from friends with slightly older kids.

[irenestahl]

From Sweden here! I think were more german thinking when it comes to rasing children.❤

[atorator]

I was born and raised in Switzerland near the german border. My parents had no clue what we are doing outside. We had 2 pairs of shoes. We gave our shoes down to the little brother. We played with semi-professional bows. It's alle about freedom and development.

[corinnaschmidt]

I was surprised to hear that your wife was able to breastfeed the children in public in Malaysia. I would not have expected that from a Muslim country. It just goes to show how prejudices can take hold. Thank you for this enlightenment! That's why I watch videos like this: to learn what life is like in other countries.

[Bekador-GER]

There is no bad weather, there is just bad clothing. - german proverb (es gibt kein schlechtes Wetter, nur schlechte Kleidung)

another one: you can't kid-proof the world, you have to world-proof your kid.

Children need to test and learn their boundaries, what they can and can't do. I rather have a kid that learns (sometimes by pain) than a kid thats so hold back it never learns what its capable of.

[aaron_]

Oh yeah, I remember walking around on graveyard walls being a really fun activity as a kid. Always being a little afraid of the height and the possibility of some older people spot and scold us, made it the perfect test of courage. But it was quite safe, many trees near the wall, never did any of us fall and hurt themselves.

[TheDanimaniac]

Sharing stuff on a Playground depends on how Big the Place is and how many Kids are there. I don't want to leave the Place with only half of the toys left but if it's small and only a Few Kids of Course we're sharing all the Time. I'm Also really Happy she plays with other Kids and I can relax a little bit. If our Kindergarten wanted so much shoes I would ask if they are Crazy. We have Shies for Cold Days and for warm Days, and Something for running around Home.

[l.s.]

About the sharing... I also tell the 'other' kid that they do not need to share with my kids, and I tell my kids that they have to ask and if the other kid say no, they need to accept this. I would probably think other parents should do the same. BUT if my kids do not want to share, I would ask them to do so. I would never lecture another kid and have never seen that in Germany. But if my kid insists not to share I would accept it...

[lisameyer]

How terrible it must be to feel its more important to hide your pregnancy rather than having a good time. To bring a literal Life into Life is something to be proud about. What is the mindset behind this shame? Also, we was climbing as kids 15 meter high trees, riding ponies and swimming in lakes...all by ourselves. Yet, nobody died but we all learned to navigate life and trust ourselves.

[AnnetteLudke-jell]

We always had a moneybox for our daughter's shoes. Aunts, Uncles, grandparents put some money in it for her birthday or for Christmas instead of buying meaningless presents or sweets...

[TheKampfschaf]

I don't have kids, i can't have any. So i'm parenting my dog.

[beldin]

I would say that with the shoes is just Hipster nonsense. I all my life mostly just had an extra pair of winterboots for the winter, else one normal pair for everyday, then may 1 pair of sportshoes .. and thats it.
Growing out of the shoes is of course something different. But else i mostly wear my normal boots for 10-15 years, my winterboots are meanwhile nearly 40 years old.

[photooutdoor]

To the theme sharing: In my opinion it is explained wrong! When a child is on a playground swing for example, the parents tell their children to share it with others. But when a child brought his personal toy to a playground it’s absolutely correct, not to share when the child doesn’t want to share. Or do you let everyone drive your car. (No I don’t mean carsharing)