5 Things You Say That Show You Lack Confidence

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The first impressions that you make often hinge on the smallest of things. It can be a gesticulation or a choice of words. Your first impressions snap into place in just seven seconds. These judgments are influenced by a number of factors. Choosing the right things to say and do will affect your relationship with the person you are meeting with in a big way.

In this video, I want to share 5 phrases I hear all the time that can destroy your charisma. I will also give you some things that you can say instead, so that you can continue to make amazing first impressions, and become your most confident, charismatic self in the moments that matter the most!

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0:23 - Phrase #1: ”Sorry for taking your time”
1:45 - Phrase #2: “Fine”
3:03 - Phrase #3: “Hey…”
4:06 - Phrase #4: “Nice to see you”
5:07 - Phrase #5: “Can I buy you a drink/coffee?”

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[ladychips]

Me: Hi, how are you?
Dude: I'm solid, thanks! You?
Me: I'm gas

[jengaaaaa]

Nobody says fine in Finland. If you ask how someone is feeling, brutal honesty is what you get.

[XicGe]

Ultimate first impression killer: "Hey!... Nice to see you again! Sorry for taking your time, but... can I buy you a coffee so I can tell you how fine I am?

[waterlilynymph]

I’s so sexy when a confident man can say “I’m sorry” …honestly, it just makes me value a person even more.

[prashastisharma]

Just say, "Hello, I am Inigo Montoya, you killed my father, prepare to die."
Memorable first impression.

[mischarowe]

"Nice to see you"
"Nice to be seen."

[mistermister]

So, a quick (semi-quick 😁) summary:

*1. Don't apologize for taking time.* A better way to go about this is telling them you appreciate them making time to talk/meet with you.
*2. Don't say fine.* You want to stand out.
Substitute fine with another, more memorable word. If you haven't had a great day, just say it, but give a brief explaination without making it sound whiny.
*3. Don't say "Hey."* When you start talking to someone, you want to give whoever you are talking to a nice line of conversation.
*4. Don't say "Nice to see you."* This makes you come off as someone who they may have met before, but isn't going to remember them and therefore not someone they are likely to remember. Instead say something like "You look familar, have we met, " or ask their name. Be genuine.
*5. Don't ask to buy stuff for people when you meet.* This puts them in a 'give and take' mindset; essencially you are purchasing their time. If you do decide to buy them something like a cup of coffee, don't ask permission. This comes as a surprise and sets you apart from other people, thereby making you someone they will remember.

[bond_]

Best advice I ever received about forgetting someone’s name and not feeling like a jackass asking them again- go back up to them at the end of the meeting/evening/etc and say, “What was your name again?” to which they will obviously respond, “Oh, I’m Bill/Jen/etc…” Respond by saying, “Oh, I knew that, I meant your last name, I didn’t catch it when we were introduced.”
There is your second chance to remember their name, and it shows a higher level of interest in getting to know this person. Makes a good impression as well as covering that common social situation.

[susanmathenge]

This was a useful video. Please do one on how to recover from a bad impression

[joeywever]

I usually say; "Titanic" but it's not a good ice breaker

[Salmon_Rush_Die]

"Hello, I'm sorry you took my time."

[paulmaloney]

I really do not think words themselves ruin first impressions. I think the approach, the facial expressions, the tone of your voice, the mannerisms and the overall approach that leaves a good impression. Words do not have meaning they have usage, so it would entirely depend your environment and situation for the appropriate words to use.

[viktorhill]

I am Canadian, and sorry is part of my every sentence. almost as often as eh.

Sorry eh.

[suprbonnie]

I hate it when people greet in passing: "hey how are you", but clearly don't intend on stoping to hear an answer.

[AslanW]

"I hate to bother you"

"So why do you?"

[MichaelJordan-sjmb]

There's no problem with any of the phrases. I found some value in 3. It's you're perception of those words. I happen to view some of the phrases as being polite. Nice to see you can actually mean nice to see you.

[elintiriel]

Just gonna drop this here, as someone on the autism spectrum I am so grateful for your videos. They are real life-savers in social situations that are difficult for me to navigate and have helped improve my read on body language a lot!

[VLY]

"how are you doing?"


me: "fantastical"

[immarktbeipenny]

*Stranger: I’m solid thanks. You?*
*Me trying to improvise: I’m kinda hard...

[True-crime-junkie]

I’ve stopped saying
“ did you intend to get that haircut”

the results of not saying those words to people have been overwhelmingly positive.