Therapist explains Love Bombing and why it's dangerous

Therapist explains what love bombing is and why it's dangerous.
in this video, I will explain:

What is love bombing?
What is the cycle of abuse?
What are the signs someone is love bombing?
How can you tell the difference between genuine gestures and love bombing?
Are all love bombers narcissistic?
Will all narcissists use love bombing?
How can I make sure I am not being love bombed?

00:00 What is love bombing?
00:33 Understanding the cycle of abuse
01:58 What are the signs of love bombing?
03:31 Why is love bombing dangerous?
05:11 How to know if it's love bombing or genuine
06:23 Are all love bombers narcissistic? and will all narcissists love bomb?
07:44 Tips to help

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[Juliamh]

I just broke off a two week long fling because of this and I feel like I’ve been set free. He came on SO quick and intense. And became so possessive after just two dates. Was already asking me about ring sizes, offering to let me use his spare Jeep whenever I wanted, NON STOP texting. When I said I needed to set boundaries and needed space away from him and my phone, he would send rapid fire texts back to back telling me to “stop putting up walls”, and “let yourself be open to love”. I knew it was time to officially tell him we were done when I got home from work yesterday evening and the second I parked my car in the garage, he called me, asking me if I was home from work. I said I was and wanted to go inside to get undressed, make some dinner and relax… and he would NOT let me get off the phone. Not in an aggressive way, but he just kept making excuses to keep me on the phone….until I finally interrupted him and basically said “I’m hanging up the phone, going inside and putting it down for a while til I get situated and you need to deal with that”. I keep going back and forth between thinking I wanted a man to treat me with affection but also realizing it was an unhealthy level. Like stalker level.

[dbsw]

After one month of dating I was meeting his children and entire family. Month two he took me on a weeks vacation to Mexico. Month three he walked me into a jewelry store for an engagement ring. Month four I relocated to another state and moved in with him... after I moved in with him his mask starting slipping. After he started to see he could not control me, the discard happened. He broke up with me and threw me out of our house (a city where I did not know anyone). Needless to say, I have learned so much from this experience and am continuing to heal through the narcissist abuse. My intuition was telling me things were not right for a long time, please listen to your body!

[Gndrlvr]

i just left a year long relationship, that i should have left 6 months ago. This cycle of abuse describes that relationship perfectly.

[a.thibodeaux]

I just broke it off with someone because I felt I was being love bombed. What works for me is listening and not making them feel judged. If you listen close enough, people will tell you exactly who they are ❤

[kefentseKdot]

This is so painful by far the worst break up ever was with a love bomber…. The psychological damage that comes from this …

[nialeilakande]

They become obsessed possessive controlling and will manipulate you gaslight you and drive you mad 😡 😭 run 🏃‍♀️ for your life!!!

[joypressley]

In the beginning my boyfriend was doing all these amazing things for 3 months. But after that everything just stopped. He was acting strange and took away intimacy out of nowhere. He was really good at love bombing and use to say "Your going to be my wife" over and over. Glad the relationship is finally over.

[andeebee]

You are so right. I have just exited a 5 year relationship in which I was LOVE BOMBED. I went through all the stages of the narcissistic cycle but was unaware at the time. These people are rodents.

[Littlefighter]

I've noticed, that most narcissists, are actually insecure people that need validation from others.
So, when you consider yourself insecure and anxious, chances are, others will perceive you as a manipulative narcisist.
Both can be true at the same time from my experience.
You wouldn't be so susceptible to love bombing, otherwise.
The problem is, you might end up, mutually looking for validation in the other,
without actually feeling it.

[Ourtimeispast]

Wow this is absolutely invaluable. So spot on. I wish I was aware of all this before my last relationship. I'd have run a mile early on.

[rachelcarvell]

I just ended a relationship 5 days ago and one of the biggest things was feeling suffocated with love bombing. It was not genuine and it felt forced, how much we "connected" him laughing and holding me randomly. Paying bills and buying expensive things over and over again. And the moment there was an issue or he didn't get what he wanted he would pout and shut down. Full on hurt puppy with mumbling and silent treatment. I found this video after the break up and you are outlining my ex, I hope the right people find your video so notice the red flags I didn't.

[MarlonBrando]

Just got out of a relationship with someone who did this to me, she aggressively pursued me and wanted to move fast, her being a pretty girl I gave in and quickly fell for her, at first everything was great, then suddenly her behavior shifted, she started being dodgy with me, would go days with no communication and would act like nothing happened when we would speak or meet again. I suspected there were other guys potentially involved but kept giving her the benefit of the doubt. I kept sensing her drift further and further from me but she kept insisting we were fine and she just wanted to slow down. Finally she admitted that in her own words "I wasn't the only player in the game", I felt gutted. Even though we were only together a short while it felt a lot longer, we told each other almost everything about ourselves, had almost everything in common as well, music, movies, etc... She intensely declared things to me early on almost as if she desperately wanted me to believe what she was saying. I won't lie I really miss her, but as I said to her in return "I'm not going to be just another player in the game".

[simoneritchie]

I genuinely feel sick with how accurate this is. He would never get really angry, but the gaslighting 100%

[mayhemmuzic]

Omg this just happened to me. I was so confused as to why this guy switched up on me out of no where. It literally felt like I had met my soulmate lmao an I’m mad I fell for it all I can do is laugh. He went from talking with me about our future to telling me he didn’t see us going far.

[haileycamarob]

I broke up with him 3 weeks ago he had made me feel so special and told me everything I wanted to hear, so many I love you and descriptions on why and just so much caring at first. But than he started being mean, and cruel to me, and my feelings, he had treated me so good and sweetly and than just switched up so fast and he was hurting me and making me sob everyday. He began talking shit about me and the things he used to say he loved about me, I couldn’t take that disrespect and I couldn’t do it mentally anymore so I broke up with him. He had talked about breaking up with me to people so I did it first. I helped myself, and it was so fucking hard and I’m still hurting because of the betrayal and deception. It’s been 3 weeks and he’s already gotten a new girl. Men can be so fucked up. But I know I’m too good for him

[marlenigarcia]

It’s crazy cause I’ve been dealing with abuse and love bombing for over 6 years. The relationship started when I was 15 so I was a kid. It feels terrible knowing I didn’t catch on when I was younger and let myself go through that. It’s definitely affected me mentally.

[blondiekapowsksi]

It’s funny bc “love bombing” is a fancy phase for not having discernment, no boundaries, being too vulnerable, lack of communication and lack of accountability for not taking the time to truly get to know the person. And what the situation becomes is a cycle of insanity, doing the same thing and expecting a different result. I was in a Situation she described bc the lack of. And it came down to not knowing what I truly wanted, so I was able to be manipulated into his fantasy of what we should be. I think the first person you need to be honest with is yourself about what you want before you even date, so that you can attract that. And to not rush the early stage bc that’s where the foundation is built and you can catch the red flags. Also listen! Listen! Listen! Ppl tell on themselves and don’t even know it! Ppl want to be in love so bad, I get it, I want it too but we have to guard our hearts with boundaries and discernment. And that’s just what it is.

[MaiLev]

reading the letters he wrote me during the love bombing is like reading letters from a completely different person that I forgot ever existed...

[laureenprice]

I was love bombed recently. He made me feel like I was worth a million bucks. He wanted to be in a committed relationship on our first date. I said yes and now I regret it all. He hurt me a lot. In the beginning I noticed that he never ever said the wrong thing. I couldn't understand how he could always say the right thing. I ignored that red flag. He also reminded me of my sister who is a chronic liar. I ignored that too. After 3 months he started gaslighting me. Then he rejected me.

[marylynnelizabeth]

Only wish I had this information/awareness 35+ years ago when I was love-bombed for the entire time before we got engaged, then during our engagement, I saw a bunch of red flags which, of course, I ignored prior to our wedding day. And yessss, he was and still is a total and complete narcissist and everything is still always all my fault. Finally gathered the courage I needed to divorce him in 2007, but we're still tied together/having to deal with each other due to our youngest being autistic and we share him 50/50. Trying to co-parent with him all these years has been a nightmare. He met & love-bombed wife #2 a few weeks after our divorce was finalized. They were married after only 6 months together. I wanted to warn her, but she hated me from all the lies he told her about me so I didn't waste my breath. She lasted 4 years total before leaving him & moving back to Florida (and we live in cold Wisconsin...lol). Thank GOD they never had any kids We had 3 together. I hope your video will help warn others so they won't have to go through the same hurt, turmoil, anguish, disappointment and overall heartache I and others have gone through which STARTED WITH LOVE BOMBING...💔