Image is everything #narcissist #sociopath #domesticviolence #psychopath #narcissism #triangulation

[goldenwings]

My situation exactly. My husband discarded myself, our 3 children and our dog for his new supply. He ended up moving far away and he hasn't seen our kids in over 3 months.

[stephmreal]

This is sad but true. I have children from a narcissist and they do not care about their children but do absolutely pretend So they can keep up their image.

[spacegirl]

This was absolutely true of my marriage. My husband kept me isolated at home alone, day in and day out, for years. He wouldn't wear a wedding ring. I don't even know if most people at his job knew he was married.

Then he would come home and say awful things like "I am a completely different person at work!" or "I am a passionate person, but you'll never see that!"

Okay. So why were you withholding that from me? That's your choice. I was doing everything he wanted and then some. Yet he wouldn't talk about me to anyone or take me out. He was fine criticizing me because I didn't dress nice or wear make up. Why should I bother when he wouldn't treat me like his wife or even a human being? Like HG Tudor says, I was an appliance.

He spent tons of money on clothes and grooming items so HE could look good. And then said I embarrassed him. He reaped every benefit of having me as his maid and the object of his abuse. But he wouldn't do anything with me and blamed me for why he was such a jerk. I know he knew what he was doing because he exploded when I tried to talk about his crappy behavior. When I exposed him to his mother to tell her the truth about him and our marriage, he lost his shit. That mask was good and well off.

Narcs keep you isolated to control you and ensure your silence. Their image is perfectly crafted (in their minds) and they rely on you to be so downtrodden and broken that you don't question or fight back. The moment you stand up for yourself, it's discard time. They need a new appliance that won't be temperamental.

What an evil person he turned out to be. I'm so glad it's over. He only cared about himself and how he looked to others. The harsh reality of hearing "I love you" but not seeing a shred of evidence to prove he did was harrowing. At least I'm not holding him down anymore and cramping his style. Hahahahahaha. How do you do that when you're isolated and no one knows you exist?

Thanks, Ben. Got a little triggered there. I'm good. I'm happy to be rid of him.

[LaundryLoveAsmr]

The narc would ALWAYS say my appearance and reputation means smh

[rockybalboa]

This is so true. My narc attempted suicide after being publicly exposed. The humiliation and shame was too much to bear