How to deal with negative people

Learn to be a people person with international bestselling author Paul McGee!

Learning how to better communicate and interact with others can really help to improve your life -- from ensuring you enjoy parties more to turning you into a roaring success magnet. Bestselling author of How to Succeed with People Paul McGee takes us through a host of different situations and explains how to deal with other people and get the best out of them. In this video series you will learn how to communicate more effectively, deal with negative people, become more resilient, learn to motivate people and deal with conflict.

In this episode Paul gives us ways to handle negative people - how to stop their negativity spreading and how to help them think more positively.

[MitchellGordon]

I noticed that people are negative around me because they are jealous about me. They see me exceeding and they want to bring me down to them. Remember, misery enjoys company.

[maryoom]

They do not deserve a minute of our precious time, I just ditch them and focus on POSITIVE things or people

[Cherabreena]

I'm all for listening and helping people to self-help, but I don't care for people who insist on staying in their negative rut for life. Ain't nobody got time for those people!

[alanbourbeau]

Back in high school, i knew a teacher aid who was negative with me. Whenever i brought the subject of religion or history. And she would angrily tell me to stop. And i was emotionally hurt. So i turned to positive people like my mom, a catholic priest and members of a catholic church. So with them around me, i felt more confident and filled with joy.

[Holistik]

Excellent presentation! This is the first time I see that a speaker seeks the reasons for people's negativity...usually, authors tell you to run away from them, keep silent or confront them. I find this new tactic very human!

[alexvillalobos]

I honestly cannot talk to ppl anymore b/c no matter who I get with, they have nothing but negative shit to say. I wish I could meet positive ppl who are supportive and understanding.

[basedgahdable]

lol I came for a video about how to deal with negative people, not be friends with them and try to figure out why their salty . i could care less i just don't want them disrupting my energy

[heyyyyy]

Okay negative people aren't only people who bitch moan and wine. They're people who are jealous disrespectful bitter and more.

[Ayan]

my mom is negative, stubborn and irrationally insane. i don't think there's any other way to deal with her but to avoid her as much spossible

[NIOAdmirer]

I normally say to negative people " why are you moaning and complaining? what are you going to achieve and gain from it?" they then go quiet.

[shaunakelly-ward]

Isn't there a time when it is best to set a boundary and say, "Enough, I've listened to you and heard as much  as I can handle"!  By this time I  tell them I don't want them to tell me any more negative thoughts.   
One friend in particular, even after I've listened, tried to understand the underlying issues, and empathized and they still continue to be negative...possibly even increase their negativity because now they have someone who pays attention.  It is a delicate balance.  I obviously don't know what to do. 

[jmobrawler]

I thought disengaging might work, but it can come off either rude, or like he said in the video it can also be passive because you allow more negativity by not speaking up. A more direct approach may be necessary. Ive had this habit of turning their negativity into a joke or something positive, but Ive grown exhausted with this approach. If calling out someone out will actually get the behavior to stop, Im all for it now.

[machoguy]

You sir know exactly what you are talking about. This would not only promote compassion and humanity but would also result in a peace of mind for us in the long run. Other YouTube gurus on this subject should get some advise from you.

[ciel]

I need to listen to these type of videos often, I AM A POSITIVE PERSON, and  I always try to be around positive things, but when I meet negative people I just don't know how to deal with them, I always say to myself how  those people  go through life with NEGATIVITY like that

[Joeladgra]

Ha! I’ve tried to challenge them in a positive way by showing an example but it backfired. Because I love them dearly, naturally I tried. It’s exhausting. Like you said “what if it’s in their nature?.” You can’t change people. Most of the negative people I know if not all have some kind of self esteem issue and this is something that can’t be taught or given to you. It comes from within you and only you can curve or change it.

[NebulaIncandescence]

I see a some people here dislike or hate positive people.
I just wanna say not to confuse positivity with blantant ignorance.
Most positive people do express emotions, understand others, and recognize what reality is. Ignorant folk don't.

To me, being negative is okay to an extent, such as expressing yourself or recognizing a downfall of a situation. I'd just rather not carry myself in a miserable fashion literally everyday nor be around such of it.

I'd love to help someone who's in negative state, except my only downfall is I absorb others emotions really well.

[charliechase]

Thanks. Excellent insights. Freedom from negativity in the world is whats it is ALL about IMO

[velfcookie]

I try my very best to be positive and I am currently working on ignoring my past abuse as a young girl. Its difficult. I really am trying so that when I come in contact with people I know and friends, I try to be genuinely happy and cheerful around them and promote good energy. I listen to them and talk to them. But then I go back home and realize I have no one to talk to. But I also understand that if I complain about it I will just bring more negativity so I disregard it. Before I knew it I was showing signs of depression. I had no motivation to exercise and I had no confidence in my appearance so I only wear jeans and shirts with a jacket. Then people question me "You have such a nice figure why don't you wear dresses or straighten your hair?' And all I can say is, I feel more comfortable this way. But really, I realized I am living in a self-sustained bubble of low self esteem. I will continue to be positive around others, but I eagerly await the day I can be positive towards myself.

[thyotherside]

Love the transition at 0:49 where he goes off screen and it swipes with words. Then he swipes back onto the screen. Really great way of bringing the words in the frame. Loved it a lot! Great work.

[AMindInOverdrive]

I use the term "black hole of of negativity" - They suck in all positivity around them no matter how hard you try. But don't tip toe around them. Be direct with them "You're so negative to be around - Boy you're really killing my joy" - And I like this guys advice to joke about it "Hey everybody, Mary is going to give us all an encouraging pep-talk - gather around" LOL