If you've experienced a pregnancy loss I need you to know.

Your baby didn’t die because you ate the wrong thing.

Or drank too much coffee.

Or had a sip of beer.

You didn’t lose your baby because you worked out too hard.

Or didn’t work out at all.

You didn’t miscarry because you forgot your prenatals.

Or because you didn’t eat anything other than carbs for days.

Or because you couldn’t stomach anything at all.

Your baby wasn’t born still because your body is broken.

Or because you thought negative thoughts

Or because your anxiety has been running rife.

Your baby isn’t gone because you did something terrible in a past life.

Or because of that termination you had.

I wish I could give answers, but in most cases there are none. Just the empty, loneliness of where your baby used to be.

Instead, from someone who has experienced multiple losses, please let me offer you a little hope.

I need you to know…

Eventually, this overwhelming sadness will not be as painful to carry.

You will laugh again. And one day you’ll be able to feel the happiness of that laughter in your bones, despite your baby being gone.

Some day you’ll even be able to hold your sadness and joy in your heart together, at the same time. And you’ll know that in some strange way, the presence of your sadness makes the joy feel even brighter.

In the meantime, you just need to know that you are not alone. We too have been through it. Our hearts hurt with yours and we are here for you. Please reach out if you need.

[monicadeitosstedile]

Thank you so much for this 💓 currently pregnant after a loss, going for my first scan tomorrow hoping for the heartbeat I didn’t get last time. It’s so scary. We’re not alone 💜

[PriyaUpendracharPhalar]

My baby got diagnosed with TOF and PS at 5th month scan. Me and my partner spoke to many cardiologist, pediatric, obgyn. Went through multiple fetal scan to confirm the diagnosis.
After knowing that after birth my baby has to go through multiple surgeries and some at early age like 3months, knowing my baby won't be able to feed onto my milk due to its conditions and worst of all my baby survival rate would be way less with all these surgeries. Knowing my baby won't be able to have a normal life ever, me and my partner took a huge decision.
The loss is so high, the pain is unbearable, our hearts are crushing, we wake up everyday with heavy heart. Our grievance is never ending and we decided we won't be trying to find answer for why this happened to us. We accepted the fact that we did not have the strength to see our baby go through pain and pain only after birth.
We don't have the courage to see our baby die after going through so much pain so we chose to give it a painless life and took all the pain on our part.
We know our baby will come back to us with good health and we will all be united again.

[reginakasiku]

Losing the person you love is the worse feeling Lord restore my energy.😓

[mariavittoriacristiano]

It's unbearable...thank you for sharing I feel a bit less lost

[mealinaaa]

Been through my first pregnancy aka pregnancy lost and I knew the reality and stuff but damn it hit me. Its been two weeks but here and there I am still breaking down in tears! I am so happy I have found your channel as I never felt so lonely in my life before than now as nobody around me experienced it or talks about in our society. Thanks a lot and my thoughts to every single lady who has been through it❤️

[Daughterofthemosthigh-ju]

Thank you, currently experiencing miscarriage. Thank you so much for this beautiful video!

[vera]

Sobbing through this video. After six weeks of pretending I'm fine, I suddenly felt all the brokenness today and wanted to find a space for me to start to heal. This video is a perfect start. Thank you for this.

[LadyZimporium]

This was beautiful. Thank you. Had a miscarriage a week ago.

[taraa]

Two miscarriages and 8 chemicals, I needed to hear this. I honestly don’t think I’ll ever have a child now (age) but thanks for helping me feel a little better.

[inutukawanamwangelwa]

I needed to hear this 😔. I carried my baby full term and she died 4 weeks ago today, in my womb, the day I went into labour.

I still don't know how to cope, it's something I'd never wish on anyone, and no one around me has ever been through something similar so they can't understand.

I am hurting so bad, and I'll never understand why I had to go through this and will never know why it happened the way it did.

I always pray for peace and healing. I am at my lowest. 💔

I miss my baby girl ❤

[positivepeony]

Oh myyyy😭 This was so nurturing and loving to hear after going through a miscarriage this past week. Found you from doing the womb clearing and I’m so thankful 🙏🏽🤍 Thank you for your light🌌

[Jess]

This came exactly when I needed it! Thank you so much. This is beautiful 💕

[cazacook]

Thankyou for this. I have watched you and done your yoga for years now. Another misscariage a few months ago, so this clip is really soothing. After 5 years of IVF we have pulled the pin. So, I prob won't watch and do your yoga as much anymore until maybe one day a miracle happens 💕 baby dust to you all 🧚‍♀️👼🌬🌈💕

[eleniampatzidou]

I struggled so much with all these ways to blame myself after my three losses and yes, of course at some point I thought it was something I did in another life. When I finally went to the right hematologist and was diagnosed with Antiphospholipid syndrome (APS), a blood clotting problem that was actually the cause of the miscarriages I felt really relieved. At least there was an answer. The problem had a name. I'm currently seven months pregnant after following a specific medication plan, but I will always remember how helpless loss makes you feel, driving yourself crazy to find an answer. My heart goes out to all of us who have the thoughts described on the video and I'm always grateful to people like Bettina who try to share so others feel less alone and better prepared on this journey.

[foffiekaran]

Thank you so much for this, had a miscarriage recently and really needed to hear this 💕

[SpiritReadingsGigi]

Thank you so so very much for this message...I have had 3 losses myself. 💖💖💖

[jackmovick]

My baby was born sleeping in July. Thank you for this. ❤️💗

[verbenastars]

I lost my baby because I didn't get IVF when I kept asking my partner for it. My baby left because of a chromosomal abnormality. I should've pushed for it harder than I did. I even tried taking a break from trying to conceive, but he insisted that we keep trying. It's really difficult not to feel resentful.

[SimonaRentea]

Thank you so much for this. I really need it. 💜

[temalangenidlamini]

Even after 11 yaers im still struggling with the loss of my baby 😢. Since i dont have a baby right now.