How to Help a Friend In Need..

How to Help a Friend In Need..

New video breakdown of @theovon & @stricklandmma

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[bbbbbbb]

It's important to not get mad at people when they try to help or offer suggestions either. It's a very natural and sensible response when you care for someone. Just let them know that you just needed to share it.

I recently shared my decade long struggle with suicide & depression with my parents and I prefaced it by saying I don't want their advice, but questions are fine. It went amazingly. It was an enormous relief to finally be truly vulnerable with those closest to me.

Truth is most other people can understand to some degree. Most people go through a depressive period or 2, so they can at least understand the despair and apathy that comes with it. I've learned its very egoistic to think nobody else could relate to or understand you. Sorry to say, but none of us are *that* special. We're all just human.

[ladylarson]

Theo is an incredible human being. I love him.

[MRblazedBEANS]

I truly think being able to talk to my wife about our childhood and share common in our trauma helped me move on from the trauma.

[sirgusdaddyix]

My dad was somebody I’d consider “a fixer”, someone who sees somebody going through trouble and immediately tries to help the person by doing just that, fixing, by giving advice or telling the person how to get out of that situation or feel better. It’s all out of the kindness of his heart, and I certainly got that from him, being a solution based person, but I started realizing how much more impactful it is to hold back on fixing when the people I care about didn’t need that kind of help at that moment, so I go in asking “are you looking for advice or just an ear?” And every time I do, it means so much to them, and it helps me recognize the best way to help someone is to simply meet them where they’re at, and in a way, that’s kind of fixing in itself, just in a more effective way.

[Formulatingloading]

So true u can’t poke at it just let it pass so many people don’t understand this basic thing. But like take out deep level trauma out & the reaction is still the same. I never met someone get their fingers smashed in a door and immediately wanna have a talk about it with their throbbing hand??? I rather be quiet or laugh..Glad I came across this clip it made me smile.

[TheGrone]

I remember thinking the same thing when I first saw this. Theo is a real dude for that.

[robinjansen]

Gotta love Theo, that guy has his heart at the right place

[darint]

This so true. Nothing I love more than when experiencing pain is really feeling it and in that moment accepting that the pain is real but just like I was without pain before that period I can be without pain after.

[js]

Bruh every person needs different things period there’s no blanket statement to make

[NicoleMarie.]

“Focus on the bright side or it will get better.” I would rather you say nothing. Just sit in silence and not talk is truly a humbling experience— one thing that was said to me that got me was: you’re a good person and you’ve done well (or something similar) Something as simple as that, you don’t realize that you’ve never heard it until someone makes you listen and they mean it.

[karasmusic]

It's hard to do that over messaging, but it can be done in person.